Frequently Asked Questions

[THIS FAQ HAS BEEN PHASED OUT. FOR THE LATEST FAQ, REFER TO THE COMPANY FAQ]

Q: How long have you been in the Game?
A: Actively, going on 2.5 years.

Q: How did you start?
A: Back in my Los Angeles days, I started with Mystery Method and studied under different styles and schools of thought like Real Social Dynamics and BadBoy/Shark.

Q: What do you look like?
A: I am a 5"6, Vietnamese American. I dress fashionably edgy and occasionally have highlights in my hair.

Q: Where do you live currently?
A: While I'm formerly from Los Angeles where I cut my PUA (Pick Up Artist) teeth on, I am now living in Dallas, Texas.

Q: Do you ever put up pictures of your "conquests"?
A: Sometimes I, and other experienced Asian PUAs (Pick Up Artists), put up pictures (and home movies) in my Restricted Venusians Arts forum (by Asian PUAs, for Asian PUAs). Those pictures are up for a limited period of time before self-destructing.

There is also a general collection of pictures.

Q: Do you put up Hook Up Reports?
A: Dallas is a big, small city. In the nightlife social circles, people know other people. I'm decently well known in those circles as well and I have even been identified as APB by an acquaintance due to the profile that D Magazine did on me.

Remember, Mystery's Lounge was invented when a previous lay of Mystery found his story online and sued him. Loverboy's Tribute to Sarging video also landed him in hot water.

Having said that, however, I do on occassion put up hook up reports and stories where they do not threaten my anonymity and risk exposing my "secret identity." I also keep many of the juicy stories in my exclusive newsletter that has non-blog content.

You can also read several different hook up reports here.

Q: Do you work for RSD/MM?
A: Uh, no. I'm a GDI (God Damn Independent) and proud of it. I simply used to hang out on occasion at Project Hollywood.

My friend NaturalJ, a male model who briefly dated Britney Spears, lived up there. Geoff and Protocol, now RSD instructors, were old wingmen of mine. I've also been surfing with Neil Strauss, writer of "The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pick Up Artists." Down in Orange County, I also winged with Matador before he became a Mystery Method Instructor. Here in Dallas, I winged with Prophet, a former Mystery Method Instructor.

But no, I'm not professionally affiliated with anyone.

Q: Are you THAT Playboy from Neil Strauss' book "The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pick Up Artists?"
A: Heh, no. Great guy though.

Q: Are you IN the book?
A: No, but one of the girls I slept with is. Funny thing, I actually went surfing with Neil when he was writing the last quarter of the book. But also, no, I was still in my intermediate stage of being a PUA.

Q: So now you do bootcamps?
A: Yes, I do personalized and customized bootcamps all over North American (and maybe more). These are small group bootcamps (from exclusive mentorship to a couple of people) in order to achieve that customization.

I currently do not do large 8 to 15 people bootcamps. We're talking about a student-to-instructor ratio of 1:1, 2:1, and maximum of 3:1. No other social and dating expert group can offer that kind of quality and exclusivity. These are bootcamps by appointment ONLY.

Q: Are you going to come to my city, [Insert Name Here], so I can attend a bootcamp?
A: These are bootcamps by appointment only. I may start doing city tours, but currently, unlike other social dating experts, I do not do large bootcamps. We work out a convenient schedule and then we make it happen.

You can take a look at my calendar to see what I'm going to be up to.

Q: Will you be having bootcamps in Europe/Australia/Asia?
A: If there are enough students interested and signed up, definitely.

Q: How much does a bootcamp cost?
A: Current prices are reflected in my Approach Bootcamp and Seduction Workshop Rate page. These are subject to change as my syllabus expands and my own skills as a personalized Dating and Pick Up Coach improve.

Q: How long are these bootcamps?
A: They are some 30+ hours of hard work and hard play. These are approximately 10 hour days combined with both lecture (and exercises) as well as field work.

Q: What's in the Lecture portion of the bootcamp?
A: Some 4+ hours of lecture, theory, and exercises designed to improve things like your spontaneity, improv, tonality, body language, and approach skills. Just to name a few. Each day has increasingly more advanced and complex exercises as well as subject matter. Note taking is strongly encouraged.

Read the Seduction Syllabus for more details.

Q: What happens during the Field Work portion of the bootcamp?
A: The field work is the meat of the bootcamp. This is the trial by fire where I, as an instructor, will do both demonstrations of successfully approaching and opening sets as well as pulling the student into the set. The student will also be doing supervised approaches where I will also provide appropriate advice, critique, and debrief.

Read the Seduction Syllabus for more details on Night Game Policy.

Q: You're not going to jump into the set and scream in my ear are you?!
A: Generally no. In my experience, interrupting a student's set, no matter how well or how poorly it's going, can make it worst. I usually observe, take notes, and pass it on to the student. I can, if the student chooses to, do exactly that, interrupting the set to tell the client to do something.

Q: Why aren't you in set with the student?
A: Because it would be me, your instructor, holding the girls there and attracting them. I'm here to teach and the student is there to learn how to approach, pick up, and seduce. I'm not there to pick up chicks for him.

I give you the toolset and necessary input to make you a successful Lady's Man. Otherwise, I'd be a glorified wingman. I'm a coach and instructor. I'm not there to be your crutch. I only go in set if there are AMOGs (Alpha Male Other Guys) trying to spoil the student's Game.

Q: What kind of style of Game do you teach? Indirect, direct, canned, natural, what?
A: All of the above. I believe every student is an individual and requires customization. Some clients are basic newbies who need the training wheels that indirect and canned provides. Others are more socially advanced and can experiment with direct and natural game. The first day starts with typically indirect and then advances upon direct game later on during the bootcamp.

Q: What about canned and stock material? I refuse to lie to women to get them in bed.
A: Well good for you because I don't believe in lying to women either. While I understand their place, these routines (that are field tested for results) are just training wheels but can unfortunately be used by newbies to replace their personality with someone else's.

I don't like that either. Instead, we concentrate on creating your own DHV (Demonstrations of High Value) stories that come from the client. In other words, they're real. After all, this is about conveying YOUR personality. Not someone else's.

Q: What are these ABC's of Attraction that I keep on reading about?
A: The ABC's of Attraction are the cornerstone of the syllabus. Seduction is a linear path and it's been around for hundreds of thousands of years. We're not inventing the wheel, here, it's just identifying the process in an understandable, learnable format.

A - Approach and Attract
B - Buying Temperature
C - Comfort and Connect
D - Direct Interest
E - Extract and Escalate
F - Fun

Not exactly hard, is it? It just becomes difficult in execution for those who haven't traveled down that path multiple times.

Q: How do I go about signing up for a bootcamp?
A: It's a pretty easy process...

Fill out the sign up form.
I contact you via phone or e-mail.
We discuss your situation and schedule.
You send in a deposit.
I officially put you in my appointment calendar.
You send in a list of your sticking points that I use to customize the bootcamp.
Bootcamp day arrives.
Payment of the remaining balance.
Put on your game face!

Q: Why do I need to put down a deposit?
A: These are bootcamps by appointment only. Scheduling wise, these are "first deposit, first served." I tend to be booked months in advance and if you have only a select timeframe to do a bootcamp due to scheduling conflict, I suggest you book your appointment and deposit as soon as possible. Otherwise someone else WILL take that slot.

Q: Are deposits refundable?
A: Deposits are also non-refundable due to the reason outlined in "Why do you need a deposit?" Once that weekend has been blocked off, I have to inform prospective clients that that time slot is no longer available. This protects me as well as ensures your commitment to mastering your dating lifestyle.

Q: I'm white or non-Asian, will you still take me on as a client?
A: Of course. While I specialize in teaching Asian men, I have also taught white, black, latino and Indian men.

Q: How long does it take for you to get back to me?
A: It depends. If I'm doing a bootcamp, probably afterwards. Generally, I also have things going on in my life outside of this so give it a few days.

Q: What about travel and lodgings?
A: Those are the responsibility of the client(s). Even including airfare and lodgings, these are still notably inexpensive compared to other social experts.

Q: Am I responsible for your food and/or alcohol?
A: No, I'd have to eat and drink anyways so that's not a business expense.

Q: What are some other business expenses that a client would be responsible for?
A: Club cover, if any. Taxi or other transportation costs.

Q: What kind of follow up can we expect?
A: At the end of every bootcamp, I collect all the information about your performance in the field and send you your Debriefing:

What you're good at
What you're bad at
What you need to improve upon
A list of possible missions for you to undertake

Depending upon how much you've improved or need to work on, this can go from a few paragraphs to several pages.

Q: How about extended support?
A: I run the restricted Venusians Arts forum that all students can join. I encourage all former students to post there as there are several members who range from the inexperienced to the experienced. I'm also available by phone and e-mail support, no charge.

Q: So if I was a former client, I could call to ask you questions?
A: That's not a problem. I still, in fact, have several former students that call me to this day. Just let me know in advance and please don't call during bootcamps and limit it to one phone call per week. E-mail is also fine.

Q: How do I know that you're the real deal?
A: Because I do this every weekend. In front of people. I've even done it in front of a reporter. Everything from pulling a hot girl for a one night stand, to making out with a hottie, to pulling girls away from AMOGs, to having them show me their breasts so I can play with them and so on and so forth.

In front of students.

There are numerous field reports, testimonials and reviews from my previous students. And if that's not enough, there are several independent review sites (like Seduction Review and Seduction Workshop Reviews) that former students have submitted their (verified) testimonials and reviews.

Q: How do I know I'm going to learn what I need to learn in order to approach, attract and seduce women?
A: Unlike many other dating, pick up and social experts, I have outlined a daily syllabus that I GUARANTEE will be taught too. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.

You KNOW what you're getting.

No surprise instructor substitutions. No suprises in the coursework. No ditching the student in the middle of a workshop. You know what YOU, as the client, are going to be taught and what you're going to see.

Q: Can we exchange links?
A: Sure! Show me where you put my link on your page and I'll put in mine when I have time.

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