Hmm, I'm feeling slightly quixotic and musical this morning. Anyways I'm going to give you my top three ways on
how to kiss and makeout with the girl.
First, some key concepts for you to consider.
- Kissing is Comfort, not Sexual - You should realize that kissing- a simple kiss on the lips- is actually a comfort move that conveys direct interest, but doesn't necessarily escalate too fast. So long as you don't go full tongue, it won't be too sexual but it does make her feel comfortable with you and letting her know that you're stud, not a dud. So a simple kiss first so you know she's comfortable and willing to be intimate. When the situation is right, then go for full makeout which is sexual.
"Yes, you want her
Look at her, you know you do
It’s possible she wants you, too
There is one way to ask her
It don’t take a word
Not a single word
Go on and kiss the girl"
- It's Not If, but When - Don't be the chump that's sweating whether or not he's going to kiss the girl at the end of the night. As the pick up artist, you should be considering WHEN on the first date (or approach) you should be kissing her, not if you're going to kiss her at the end of the date. A simple kiss at a highlight of the evening (anything that raises buying temperature like a really good story, a joke, a game, etc) so she feels comfortable with you will do.
"Sing with me now
Sha-la-la-la-la-la
My, oh, my
Look at the boy too shy
He ain’t gonna kiss the girl
Sha-la-la-la-la-la
Ain’t that sad
Ain’t it shame, too bad
You gonna miss the girl"
- Persist and Keep Your Cool - Even if you went for a simple non-tongue kiss and she turns away, PERSIST. Don't lose your cool. Don't get angry. It just means "Not yet" or "Try harder." You're simply going to talk, have fun, do your thing, and then try again later on. You're in essence, testing her compliance and sometimes that takes time to achieve, so don't get perturbed. Stick to your Game plan and stay on target.
"Now’s your moment
Floating in a blue lagoon
Boy, you better do it soon
No time will be better
She don’t say a word
And she won’t say a word
Until you kiss the girl"
All right, so let's go over my three specific tactics that I employ to kiss, escalate, and makeout with the girl.
1) Dance - First of all, kissing in a dance club is socially acceptable and at times expected. When on the dance floor, a girl's ASD (Anti-Slut Defense) is significantly lowered. It's also helpful that at this time you have her isolated. The disadvantage, of course, is that you can't do too much verbal game on her like a soft, slow, sensuous tonality. So that's why I like to engage the girl first, have her hooked, and then take her to the dance floor in order to escalate and kiss.
"Sha-la-la-la-la-la
Don’t be scared
You got the mood prepared
Go on and kiss the girl"
Now, there's the high tech solution like doing Papa's Spin-Kiss-Move. It's a little much and something I've seen, but never bothered to perform. What I do is SLOW THE GIRL DOWN even if the song is fast. SLOW DANCE with her (credit BadBoy). You're creating a very powerful frame of the two of you versus everyone else. It's your reality. Not the crowd or the DJ. Use heavy eye contact, a slight smile, and then go in for the kiss. Don't overthink, just do it.
"Sha-la-la-la-la-la
Don’t stop now
Don’t try to hide it how
You wanna kiss the girl"
If she turns her cheek, don't lose your cool. Go in straight and kiss her cheek like you MEANT to do that. Then kiss ear, her neck, and so forth. Dance some more, wash winse repeat. Usually around the third time you'll be making out with her once you've turned her on. Remember, the girl's attraction and sexual attraction is like a knob, it can be slowly turned on and heated up.
2) Evolution Phase Shift - This is from Neil Strauss (aka Style) that's typically performed when isolated where the two of you can talk and where you can more effectively deploy your verbal game. The Evolutionary Phase Shift also has the added advantage of putting you in the role of educator and her the student.
"Sha-la-la-la-la-la
Float along
Listen to the song
The song say kiss the girl"
I won't go into full detail and a step-by-step basis (you can find Neil Strauss's article as well as my own article on Conveying Personality at the Bristol Lair), but suffice it to say that you're using good, sensuous, slow tonality coupled with a dominant, educating frame. It involves pulling her hair, nibbling the inside of her elbow, her nibbling on your neck, you reciprocating, and then full makeout.
This is an incredibly money move that has a lot of advantages going for it (slowly escalating and building up the tension to the kiss, the ability to use your voice, etc). Again, if she isn't immediately responsive, don't lose your cool. Step back and starting regaming her.
"Sha-la-la-la-la-la
Music play
Do what the music say
You wanna kiss the girl"
3) On a Scale of 1 to 10 - This one I've been experimenting with that's even more low tech than the Evolution Phase Shift. I've used Mystery's "Do you want to kiss me?" and just didn't like it. Even though you have a ready response if rejected "I didn't say you could, you just looked like you had something on your mind" the question sets the frame of a Yes/No question and sometimes a Maybe.
What I've been using and field testing is when isolated, I'll ask, "So on a scale of 1 to 10... how incredibly sensual and electric would it be if we kissed?" I'm not necessarily a big fan of NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) and SS (speed seduction), but under the right circumstances (namely when the two of you are isolated, you've got plenty of time, and you can use your verbal game to devastating effect) it can work.
Here, you're suggesting and implanting an affirmative image in her mind about the two of you kissing. Basically, if she thinks the two of you would have an electricity of anywhere between 1 to 4, you can either persist or cut your losses and move on. If it's a 5, it means persist, try harder, and try better. If it's anything above a 5, like the song says...
"You’ve got to kiss the girl
Why don’t you kiss the girl
You gotta kiss the girl
Go on and kiss the girl"
-The Little Mermaid
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