"It can be very easy to get caught up in the midst of each new tidal wave of tactical attraction material, with each new emotional high causing cult-like hysteria. The emotional imbalance caused by the Pick-Up Arms Race staggers the mind and splinters a Community."With the advent of the PUA community into the American zeitgesit, came an unending deluge of information about how to attract women from an endless list of self-proclaimed pick-up
(Ironically- with tongue firmly in cheek- I am forced to include myself in this
foppish esteemed category even though I stumbled fell into this calling occupation more by happenstance and accident rather than by design. Note my brooding stare. Can you feel the gravitas?)
It can be very easy to get caught up in the midst of each new tidal wave of tactical attraction material, with each new emotional high causing cult-like hysteria. The emotional imbalance caused by the Pick-Up Arms Race staggers the mind and splinters a Community.
It gets to a point where many people attempt to specialize in a certain aspect of game like indirect, direct, natural, or no game. There are Systems based companies and those based off of Cult of Personalities. Each style of game and their associated guru comes with their own pros and cons and are not limited to the aforementioned types.
But, for the sake of discussion, let's talk about the primary schools of practical based pick-up and seduction...
Canned (ie indirect) material focuses primarily (but not exclusively) on routines which can often times come across as fake. On one hand, it has the benefit of giving the inexperienced man a conventional script of responses and emotional responses, to slowly gain the kind of social and emotional intelligence he should have learned earlier on like most of his peers.
On the other hand, it can cause longer term problems when the interaction strays from the scripted conversation and will usually cause the woman to lose interest when she realizes that you're just a phony. Its strength as a constrained conversational playground, then becomes its weakness as the would be social butterfly tries to leave the confines of canned and stumbles into the social paradox: a script can get your foot in the door, but it won't take you all the way home.
Although canned material does have its uses, its purpose is the same as training wheels on a bicycle. The job of canned material is to help you when your brain farts and you don't know what to talk about. You'll find it extremely difficult to memorize days worth of routines and it's simply not practical.
Direct game, in my opinion, is a subset of "natural game" so let's talk about that...
"Those who usually do well with natural game are those who already have a lot of passive value that women are more forgiving of the mistakes that are made."
It's interesting to see such popularity in learning what has been coined, "natural game". Throughout my years of social experience I have observed that naturals are generally only good at one or two things and they stick to this method of attracting women exclusively. They stumbled upon something that worked or, more likely, simply "landed in their lap" (ie got lucky) and unconsciously practiced it because it resulted in positive rewards.
Many in the community look up to this style of game because it is reminiscent of the type of guys they saw getting women in the past. So understandably these students of game would attempt to copy that style.
Natural game is exactly what it is. It's free-flowing and unscripted. However, the problem with natural game is that those who practice it are usually good with one or two things as opposed to Holistic Game which incorporates every aspect of one's self to achieve greater success. Natural game is quite scattered sometimes and can cause you to make more mistakes with women because of the lack of structure.
Or, worse, you start to unconsciously internalize bad habits because the random positive reinforcement from the occassional correct course of action causes you to dismiss the negative stimuli. Those who usually do well with natural game are those who already have a lot of passive value that women are more forgiving of the mistakes that one makes.
In other words, being good looking or tall means you can make more mistakes than the average guy can.
Natural game can work, but the success achieved depends a great deal on passive value and is predicated on only working in different settings.
For example, if your strength is to escalate sexually with a woman quickly and that is your primary method of game; then you'll find it difficult to attract the woman at the coffee shop without any other skill set. Alternatively, if your strength is in making a woman laugh but you don't escalate; then you'll end up being alone at a nightclub.
Natural game comes with it's pros and cons and unless you're a good-looking guy with a lot of experience with women then you'll find it difficult to achieve any success.
What if I told you that you could be yourself, get the women that YOU choose,, don't have to rely on routines to do it, create a healthy lifestyle that YOU enjoy under YOUR OWN terms, and still maintain good relationships with the people you meet? That sounds like a tall order but it can be done and I will explain to you how it can be accomplished.
This is Holistic Path...
"Holistic game is a combination of possessing excellent communication skills, both verbal and non-verbal, and the correspondingly superior, internally generated confidence."
What does holistic game cover?
Holistic game is a combination of possessing excellent communication skills, both verbal and non-verbal, and the correspondingly superior, internally generated confidence. It includes developing a powerful core personality that attracts all types of people to you. It is your mental toughness and the ability to achieve any goal you set for yourself and developing excellent physical health. It is the combination of developing one's Inner Strength in parallel with one's Outer Confidence and Verbal Prowess.
It is the synthesis of both your lifestyle with the actual improvements of your technical skillset and the cultivation of the mind-body link.
It is the jack of all trades and master of none.
It is flexibility over slavish devotion.
It is versatility over rigidity.
It is substance over form.
When you put all of those components together; you get a complete, superior and confident male. When you refine your Holistic Game, all types of people will be drawn to you. Specifically the beautiful women that you choose.
Holistic Game allows you to refine those positive attributes that make you who you are and presents it to others in a way that they too can see what makes you such a great person to be with. Whether or not you know it, you already possess the attributes to becoming that confident man who has selection with women.
All we do at the ABCs of Attraction is to help SHOW you the Holistic Path, to show you the vast array of OPTIONS and CHOICES that you have where you can not only become great with women but become the best man you can be.
It is then ultimately up to each individual HOW they walk down that path and what winding forks and roads they choose to take on their journey.
Labels: Body Language, Direct Game, Holistic Path, Indirect Game, Inner Strength, Outer Confidence, Pick Up Arms Race, Structured Natural Game, Verbal Attraction