Let’s get something straight, girls judge by looks. No ifs ands or buts about it, they simply do. They want someone tall, dark, and handsome with a huge cock. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THIS. They ALSO want someone that can fill an emotional vacuum as well as PROVIDE THEM with an emotional stimulus.
Honestly, I wouldn’t want to be a chick because guys judge almost exclusively by ONE CRITERIA. Which is looks. Now girls, judge by TWO CRITERIA (well, actually more, but for the sake of simplicity…) which are looks and YOUR ABILITY TO AFFECT THEIR EMOTIONS. Or, in lay man’s terms, your “personality.”
In order to exude confidence, fun, cool, and a host of other emotions, you must CONVEY that you have all these personality traits. This can range from peacocking in wild, outlandish, cool clothes showing that you are fun and unconventional to the VERBAL GAME
IF you have VERBAL GAME, then you can convey your personality, show the girl who you are, as well as push all those attraction buttons in a girl.
Some key elements of VERBAL GAME:
PROJECTION – If you cannot PROJECT and be VOCAL above the loud noise, sounding confident and engaging the group, then you are not conveying your personality. They cannot HEAR you and thusly will judge you simply on looks.
STORY TELLING – Girls communicate by story telling. They are emotional beings. Do not recite facts. Do not ask inane questions, but CONVEY YOUR PERSONALITY by telling multiple stories from your life that range from the funny, to the exciting, to the vulnerable. Role playing, future projection, and just being damn funny. Singing. Yes, I said singing.
KINO – Girls affect others (male & female) by touch. They know they can affect a man’s emotions and state by touching you. This also applies vice versa. You CAN touch girls without fear. You CAN caress them without fear. You CAN push them around without fear. You CAN kiss them without fear. BECAUSE GIRLS ENJOY KINO AND THEY ENJOY YOUR TOUCH.
SEXUAL STATE – By being in a sexual state, by being WILLING to phase shift into a sexual state and force HER into a sexual state, you are CONVEYING that you are a SEXUAL MAN. You WANT her and SHE wants you. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THIS.
ENERGY – This is ESSENTIAL for interrupting large sets AND mixed sets. You must be willing to EXUDE and GIVE your energy to others. You must ENJOY the process of partying, sarging, and socializing with total strangers and NOT GIVE A SHIT.
PHYSICAL SPACE – Physical space is AN ILLUSION. You can invade her physical space, get closer to her, and FORCE her to look at you. On the flip side, you can act INDIFFERENT and make her insecure in her ability to attract YOU because you are keeping a certain amount of physical space.
INTERACTION – This is mostly for those who are heavily routine dependent. If you are simply reciting routine after routine, the girl will feel LESS INVESTED in the moment. You must PULL HER IN and interact with her.
FRAME CONTROL – You MUST control the frame, whatever that may be. You can treat her as a CHILD and she MUST accept it. She will be PULLED into YOUR reality and be fully concentrated on YOU. You cannot let HER control the frame or otherwise she will have NO EMOTIONAL CONNECTION WITH YOU.
QUALIFICATION – You MUST qualify her in order to create and maintain an emotional connection with her. Otherwise you will come off as either an ENTERTAINMENT, DANCING MONKEY or a PLAYER who simply takes her number and leaves, leaving her feeling cold, used, and impersonal. You MUST state at some point what about HER that YOU like. DIRECT GAME depends on this the MOST (ie You are BEAUTIFUL and I’d like to get to KNOW you better).
BODY LANGUAGE – While this is not exclusively VERBAL, the fact is, your body language SUBCOMMUNCIATES to others what YOUR status and value is. If you LOOK like you are uncomfortable in a social setting, your value, coolness, and overall personality GOES DOWN. If you LOOK and ACT like someone COMFORTABLE in his skin, then your value goes up. This can include the way you hold yourself, react to girls touching and talking with you, to dancing.
If you are NOT good looking, your only recourse is to have a hella tight VERBAL GAME. Mysterious, brooding, silent and sexy only works for Naturals who ARE naturally good looking and can get away without any kind of game.
So, to make a long story short, if you are NOT good looking (8 and above), then you MUST convey your personality to a girl in order for HER to find YOU attractive beyond just the physical aspects. You can think of yourself as the most fun, exciting, intellectual, sensitive guy, but if you cannot CONVEY it, if you are some wallflower that sticks to the shadows, then you cannot DEPLOY your verbal game and CREATE the attraction in her. Then you are depending on LUCK and HOPING that she somehow magically SEES those amazing aspects of you based on no observational, supporting data.
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