[NEWS/STUDY] Massive Sex Statistics and What It Means to You

"Looks are most important to women in their 20s and least important to women in their 40s. Intelligence in a partner is least important to married women and women who earn $100,000 or more. Meanwhile, men who earn more than $100,000 care more about partners' looks than poorer men."

The magazines Esquire and Marie Claire surveyed almost 2000 people about their sexual habits. I've selected a few choice tidbits and explained how I think it relates to pick up, dating, seduction, and YOU.

Like I stated before, I back up my bootcamp instruction with not only observational field work earned through 3 years in The Game, but also actual scientific research that studies sexual psychology and behavior.
After all, Pick Up Artists are nothing more than mad social scientists.

Single men in monogamous relationships have a lot more sex than married men (4.5 times versus 2.7 times per week, or 66% more).

It's called the FUCK BUDDY relationship or FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS. Really, the best situation a guy can be in is if the girl he's seeing agrees to be EXCLUSIVE TO HIM, but HE can still see other people (ie "Don't ask, don't tell" policy). That, my friends, is the best of both worlds. Well, that and regular threesomes.

In marriages, the romance and excitement just slowly fade away leaving nothing but a destitute, dessicated, dried husk of a man...

The more money men make, the more sex they have, but the men who have the most sex—more than 15 times a week—make less than $100,000 a year.

As the dearly departed Biggie used to say, "More money, more problems." There's a level of diminishing set of returns by X amount of work put in to get Y amount of Z' Pussy. What use is it being a high powered attorney making the big bucks if you're working 60 to 80 hours a week? Money is a MEANS to an end, not the end itself.

Though it's sure nice to have.

The average number of dates before having sex is 3 for men and 5 for women. Men are more likely to have waited until marriage to have sex: 14% say they waited, while only 9% of women held out.

The 4 to 10 hour time window for sex falls into this. Most people have sex within that time or the clasically understood THIRD DATE...

For example, Day 1 (the actual approach) lasts 1 hour. Day 2 (the first date) lasts 2 hours. Day 3 (the second date) another two hours. Day 4 (the 3rd date) lasts 2 hours again. That's about 7 hours of Game Time, well within the Sex Window.

How many partners have you had in your lifetime?
Men's average: 14
Women's average: 11

That sounds about right. The only thing I'd add is that, in teaching Asian men, I've learned (through research as well as observationally) that AMs are far below this number. Not only that, however, we're also the only ethnic group (white, black, hispanic, etc) where the WOMEN surpass the men in numbers of partners and are earlier in losing their virginity.

Whatever you want to identify as the root cause (be it culture to a racist media), it doesn't really matter. The issue exists and you have to fight it if you want to succeed with women to at least be in the "AVERAGE" category.

About 40% of men and women have had fewer than 5 partners in their lifetime; 10% of men and 5% of women have had 50 or more partners.

It's the old 90/10 rule. 10% of people are doing 90% of the work. In this case, 10% of men are DOING 90% of the single women. In other words, Average Joe doesn't know that his hot girlfriend has a stable of "friends with benefits."

What are your biggest fears when having sex with someone for the first time?
Men
1. HIV
2. My performance
3. STD (other than HIV)
4. Pregnancy
5. Emotional entanglement
6. The wrath of God
7. Partner's performance

Women
1. HIV
2. STD (other than HIV)
3. Pregnancy
4. My performance
5. Emotional entanglement
6. The wrath of God
7. Partner's performance

This to me is indicative of LMR (Last Minute Reservations/Resistance). Too many guys are losers and DON'T UNDERSTAND SEX FROM A WOMAN'S PERSPECTIVE. If you remove HIV/STD, pregnancy is her leading cause of concern.

LMR and ASD exist for a reason. And it's a GOOD reason. Learn to live with it and use it to your advantage. It's not you, it's her.

How do you feel after a one-night stand?
Men: Satisfaction. Men are more than 3 times as likely as women to feel satisfied.
Women: Regret. Women are more than 2 times as likely to feel regret or shame.

This is Buyer's Remorse. Don't be an ass and make her feel guilty. We're all sexual creatures with needs and desires. No woman is a slut. I don't believe in that. I believe ALL women are deep inside sluts. It's your job to bring it out of them.

Where did you meet your current partner?
14% of men and 11% of women met their current sex partners online—more than bars, parties, and dating services combined

Generally, I don't recommend online dating for Asian men. The battlefield is vastly more stacked up against Asian men in the online minefield than it is in real life. And even if you do by some miracle get a meetup, you still have to have real life, interpersonal skills.

Be good with REAL women in REAL life before even thinking about online dating. Or, if you REALLY want to do online dating, make $250K and then you'll be on a level playing field.

Here's another different study about social networking sites like MySpace and Facebook where it states that 70% of teen girls are dedicated users to it and 29% of boys use those sites to flirt and hook up.

Has technology helped or hindered your sex life?
59% of men and 52% of women with BlackBerrys, PDAs, or cell phones say these devices have enhanced (rather than infringed on) their sex lives. 34% of men and 29% of women say they've used the devices to instigate sex.

The late night booty call, booyah!

12% of men and 7% of women have answered a work call or e-mail during sex.

Classic Anti-LMR tactic... the Cold Freezeout/Takeaway.

Labels: Anti-Slut Defense, Buyer's Remorse, Dating, Dating Strategies, Fuck Buddy, Last Minute Resistance, Money, News, Online Dating, Pick Up Artist, Sexual Anxiety, Statistics, Study