Pick Up Lines DON'T Work!

UPDATE 2/19/10: Watch my Channel 5 TV interview on Boston Cityline here!
Dear Asian Playboy,

What are some pick up lines that you can give me that I can tell my Asian guy friends that they can use?

Hey Rose,

Thanks for the question and Happy Valentine's Day!

We don't really advocate "pick up lines" in our program. As a woman, I'm sure you'll realize that 'lines' generally don't work. What we teach is more of an empowerment movement that is built on the idea that 'If you want to get the woman of your dreams, you have to learn how to become the man of hers." That being said, there are definite tactics that we employ that work wonders.

Here are three basic steps that we always suggest men take as they approach a woman, we call this The Walk of Khan.

1) Get Ready: Being In-State.

Though it seems obvious to read now, when you're making your approach, know what you're going to say in advance. Luck (which is often what men credit their success to with women to) is merely the point in time when preparation meets opportunity, so make sure you're prepared. You know you're going to walk over and talk to her, so anticipate what you will do. Think of both how you're going to approach her and what you're going to say; It is always better to simply say "hi" confidently than to stumble around an ill-prepared "line".

2) Get Set: Posture.

83% of the information that women interpret from your communication comes from the non-verbal aspects of how you present yourself, therefore, posture is incredibly important to projecting a cool and confident image to women. Stand up straight, as if there was a string pulling you from the top of your head. Chin up, chest out, stomach in and shoulders back; this will not only square off your posture, but it will create a more imposing and noticeable figure in the club.

...and finally...

3) Go! Do it!

Luckily, this is not rocket science; Standing tall, walking slowly and (most importantly) with a big smile, you're going to go and open your mouth at her. While different companies have man different approach tactics and lines to win her over, we very strongly reccommend walking up to her, planting your feet, and (with a big smile!) just telling her that you think she's absolutely gorgeous and introducing yourself.

This will show her that not only do you see something special about her, but you are confident, dominant, and spontaneous enough to approach and tell her. Though, it may seem frightening on paper, seeing a woman light up from a genuine compliment is one of the most beautiful and rewarding things that can happen to us men.

Unfortunately, Asian men have a little bit more work to do when it comes to representing themselves as sexual icons in our primarily-white society. We can do this by presenting a dominant and confident image and by breaking free of our passive nature.

Here are some appropriate articles on Sticking Points Asian Men Face in the Dating Scene:

I hope this is what you're looking for.

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