The biggest problem in interracial dating is that a lot of Asian men seem to talk themselves out of going after the women they really want.Ever wonder why some Asian guys score and others fail in the dating scene?
It sure is easy to chalk failure up to racism, different backgrounds and cultures, “not from the same world” and all that gibberish. The truth of the matter is that it’s not “Asians” that are failing—it’s men that are failing. Most of the Asian men that are out there failing to get phone numbers are men that would be rejected regardless of their race and looks.
That’s not to suggest that race has nothing to do with it. Of course, people are going to notice what race we are and what we look like. The problem happens when people start making an issue of race, and for the most part, the problem starts not with the datable women that are rejecting you—but with you.
The biggest problem in interracial dating is that a lot of Asian men seem to talk themselves out of going after the women they really want.
Why is this?
Maybe they lack self confidence, or maybe they’re afraid of rejection. This is what you call a self limiting belief. If your beliefs result in you becoming fearful, shy or too nervous to approach beautiful white women (or Latina or black or whatever) then you have already doomed yourself to failure. You gave up on yourself before you even allowed yourself the chance to succeed!
Now let’s not be fallacious about race. There are definitely some women out there who will admit that Asian men are not their racial preference.
Who is to blame?
Is it the media or the nationalistic beliefs of our countries? Or is it just the social standards that have been forced upon us?
That subtle racial bias could come from anywhere. The point is that it doesn’t matter. It’s time to get over it. It’s time for women to get over it, and more importantly, it’s time for you to get over it.
From now on, you’re not going to ignore your feelings for women, regardless of their race. You’re not oblivious to racial differences. On the other hand, you are going to concentrate on breaking down these boundaries and getting what you want.
The simple reason why some Asian guys score and others fail is because some guys don’t allow themselves the honor of following their heart. As soon as you discover what it is you want, it’s time to pursue the goal and start winning.
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