"When I do an approach, I go in with a frame that I am probably the most interesting person that she will ever meet. My personal goal in life is to leave everyone better than I found them. And if she passes my prescreening, then she has more game time with me to discover how awesome of a person I am."
Quality is our up & coming instructor / coach of ABC of Attraction. When Quality was invited by APB to Vegas to go through the "test-through," he was asked the question: "Why do you want to join the team?" He answered: "I love the game, and I love to teach." And if you look at his clients' testimonials on his blog, you'll see that he's been keeping his word...
In this article, he shares his insights on a variation of the popular "qualifying theory" where he's qualifying the girl from the very get-go, from the approach.
Having Approach Standards by Quality
We have heard over and over again that qualification is the key to getting the girl. Qualifying her with your standards will filter out the ones that are worth your time, energy and efforts.
Women with traits like passion, class, care, beauty, etc is desired by all. Importance of these traits can vary from one person to another. If we were to have standards for women we date, which we should be qualifying them by, shouldn’t we be doing that to the people we talk to as well? If they don’t meet our standards during the initial conversation, it is a very slim chance that they will meet our standards for relationships.
The worst thing is to try to plow and take abuse, resistance or objects from someone who is not worth our time. Too much of these encounters will definitely take its toll on our inner game. This doesn’t mean we eject after she presents a little resistance either. When you know you did all that you can and she still has resistance, it maybe a good idea to cut your losses and move on. I notice when I call a women out for their bad behavior, and her initial impression was bad, it gets her to reopen me later. Saying things like “I was just being social and having some fun; but if you can’t be friendly than I’ll just get back to my friends. It was a pleasure.”
When I do an approach, I go in with a frame that I am probably the most interesting person that she will ever meet. My personal goal in life is to leave everyone better than I found them. And if she passes my prescreening, then she has more game time with me to discover how awesome of a person I am. If she doesn’t meet my standards in a person I converse with, then I don’t want her in my life. I do however give her several chances (by plowing) and if she still doesn’t see it, then it’s her lost. With that frame, you could easily brush off any rejection or non compliance and find someone else who will appreciate who you are. What are my standards?
Women prescreen us in so many ways during the initial conversation and throughout. But part of being the prize is to take the controls, prescreen and qualify them before they do you. That’s why having standards not only with the women you date, but with the women you choose to talk to will make you more congruent to being someone of higher value and someone who truly is the prize.
- Someone who is positive and friendly
- Someone who has a good sense of humor and knows how to laugh.
- Someone who is polite and have manners.
- Someone who can communicate and carry a conversation.