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The ABCs of Attraction & Value
Imagine a high school cheerleader who was told by 3 guys that they have a crush on her. A dorky guy, an average guy, and a jock.
She would never consider the dorky guy since he typically doesn't have minimum acceptable levels of PASSIVE SOCIAL VALUE. For instance, he doesn't fit in the socially acceptable normals of fashion and is usually socially awkward. So for her to date him will take away value from her.
Since PASSIVE SOCIAL VALUE is extremely important to women, she will rule him out as a potential mate.
The average guy, may fit in, but unless he stands out someway in personality, or is a PUA, he probably will not add much value to her. Therefore, unless he games hard or has a lot of game time with her, she won't feel attracted to him. He also has a high risk of be LJBF'd.
Now the jock, when he tells her he likes her, she puts on her relationship consideration glasses and gets almost instant attraction. That's because he is what to be considered as someone of high PASSIVE SEXUAL VALUE in her high school world. Therefore, being his mate will allow her to inherit and combine those values with hers.
So when value is already established, attraction happens really quickly, but only if you take advantage of the small window. If not, you will be thrown into the friend zone.
That's why D - DIRECT INTEREST and escalations are key!
But it needs to be done at the right times. When the value has already been established.
How this translates into pickup is this.
When you meet someone, and you establish value, it builds attraction. But it is just general platonic attraction until you provide an SOI at the right times when you feel that the general attraction is at it's peak. Then an SOI at this point will open the flood gates to having rapid attraction.
I noticed personally, after my debriefs with my girls, that they realized they were attracted when I gave MORE DIRECT INTEREST. When someone of high value is interested in you, you are naturally more attracted to them. Especially if their value is of important to you.
It's when the jock tells the cheerleader he likes her. Value is already there. If she pairs up with him, she will have instant value transfer which builds instant attraction. You can imagine how many times the cheerleader screams and yells with excitement when she finds out the jock likes her rather than cringe with disgust when she finds out the geek likes her.
See the difference? Value vs no value. Value and attraction goes hand in hand. Value has to be there before there could be any attraction. Period!
Some key points about value is that value could be subjective. A person who can dances will have value to someone who admires dancing, but has no value to someone who doesn't care for dancing.
So it's good to have ABCs' ATTRACTION SWITCH DHVs that spans a broad range of subjects. But there are certain core values that are attractive to most people. Like for instance having positive energy.
People naturally gravitate to things that makes them feel good. Someone who is positive and brings positive energy is of value to everyone. That's why when you open a set and you need to demonstrate value, a quick and easy way to do is just be positive and have positive energy.
The ABCs of Approach says "Enter the set with a energy level at least the same if not higher than the set" reflects the value of positive energy and demonstrates value greatly.
This is known as "STICKING YOUR APPROACH."
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