Big News! Big News!

Ladies and Gentlemen of the jury, we would formally like to announce to you that as of this past weekend, your favorite PUA Company holds TWO world-recognized titles.

At the 2010 World Pickup Summit, and for the 3rd year in a row, Asian Playboy has won the Best Asian Pick Up Artist award! We all knew it was true, but the proof is in the voting for another year!

As an ADDED bonus, your beloved Gareth Jones pulled to the top of a list of 16 competitors to receive Best New Pick Up Artist in the World! 

This is an amazing achievement for us and we are all extremely proud of them.

Compiled from the online votes of people like you, this list reflects the product of the hard work and devotion that these two instructors bring to every element of their teachings. Traveling the world to change the lives of many, APB and Gareth Jones have made a considerable mark across the board, proving that not only are they unequalled in their craft, but they are supported by their proud alumni and fans all around the world.

These awards are not only proof that they have done both good and honest work, it is a concrete call-to-arms for anyone out there waiting to change their lives. To learn from the Best Asian PUA and the Best New PUA is not unattainable. To be taught by (literally) the best in the world IS an option. So many guys are hesitant to take that last leap because they are uncertain of what kind of training they will get.

1. Will this be the right choice? 
2. Are these guys legit? 
3. Will it be worth the money? 

These are some questions I know you've asked yourself and now it is easier than ever for us to help you answer them. In fact, we don't even really have to do anything; the voting is already in.

Thousands of students and teachers around the world have cast their votes to bring The ABCs of Attraction to the top of the polls!

With thousands of bootcamps under our belt, The ABCs has proven many times over that not only do our methods work, but that they are SIMPLE to learn. We spare you the frills and gilding other Pickup companies build their business on and focus purely on the quickest way to seduce the woman of your dreams. We want to achieve the maximum result for the minimum amount of work and we want to teach you how to do it, too!

Whether it be day game, night game, club game, phone game, or text game, we have programs that will help you. If you would prefer a long-term program, we can offer you 12 Weeks of intense, personal training. 

If you'd rather take the 3-day and 3-night kick in the pants to jumpstart your game in Los Angeles, we can arrange that as well! Even if you just want an hour on the phone with the best in the world to answer a few nagging questions that you've had, we can make it happen all at: http://www.abcsofattraction.com/signup.php!

So many guys have waited and waited for the final straw that broke the camel's back. They have waited for that sign from above that it was time to change their lives. Many men come to us broken by unrequited love or crushed by a cheating spouse. This is their last straw and their reason to snap into action.

We ask that you recognize the sign given to you now, before you continue on through your life risking more pain and frustration. This sign isn't hardship or fear or unbearable pain; it is the official declaration by voters all across the planet that we are the best.

I invite you to work with us not because you have no other choice or because you have nowhere else to turn to, but because we are the top of our field and that is what you deserve. Learn from no one but the best and the brightest and you will become no one but the best and brightest. Today is your day to shine.

Once again, a heartfelt congratulations from all of us to the World's Best Asian PUA and World's Best New PUA.

Onward and upward!
The ABCs Team
1-888-689-GAME (4263)

Labels: Announcement, Global Pick Up Artist's Seduction Summit, Top Asian Pick Up Artists

As you know, the PUA Summit is swiftly approaching and yours truly is once again nominated as World's Best Asian Pick Up Artist of 2010.

In the past years, there might have been such contenders and old timers like Loverboy, Papa, Hoobie, Grungey, Daniel Rose, etc (see my tongue in cheek Top Asian PUA of 2005 List) although they've pretty much all left the Game, retired, or otherwise moved on to different fields.

Now in the 2010 lineup, there's new blood like DJ Fuji, a highly respected indie instructor formerly of Mehow, as well as young up and comers like Bonsai and Grandma. So while I was Twittering (yes I now tweet so why aren't you following them?), I was asked quite seriously: "What made me the best?"

A serious question deserves a serious answer to which I replied:

I was the first, original, and longest running pro Asian Dating Coach and Pick Up Artist going on 5+ years now (started 2004, turned pro in 2005). I've taught literally thousands of Asian men around the world on all the major continents. I have hundreds of positive bootcamp reviews, video testimonials, bootcamp pics, and infield video to prove it. 

I've been featured in over a dozen media outlets including the front pages of newspapers and on national television (ABC). I have shaped and formed the AM dating scene more than any one single (non-celebrity) human being.

How's that for credentials?

Part of the reason WHY there even exists a separate Asian PUA community now (derived from both Asian American online community and the Seduction Community) is because I influenced and/or helped create the fabric and template by which these Venn Diagrams came together.

I don't say this to be arrogant or conceited, but before the Game exploded, the entire Seduction Community all but ignored the issue of racism and sometimes even ridiculed the idea or exacerbated the issue altogether by making fun of Asians, Asian issues, and Asian stereotypes.

This eventually lead me to slightly distance myself from the PUA Community and begin an outreach into the Asian Community. Notice, I've been on several ethnic media outlets while mainstream types would ignore them which includes the needs of ASIAN MEN WHO FORM THIRTY THREE PERCENT (33%) OF THE SEDUCTION COMMUNITY that they profess to serve.

Thus, the Asian PUA Community came into existence to serve the needs of its people and the LARGER issues we face completely unrelated to pick-up, NOT that of the Seduction Community at large.

And it is a truly separate community that we've helped create. It's not a mere philosophical subdivision like the eternal debate between Indirect Game vs Direct Game. No, the vast majority of our ABCs of Attraction students aren't Seduction Community guys. They may have read the Neil Strauss' book The Game and seen an episode or two of VH1's The Pick Up Artist, but they don't live it and breath it as indepth as the majority of Community guys do.

And while they obviously self-identify with their Asian culture, going to online AA community forums, they aren't the "Azn Pride" type either. We are a happy medium of Asian men who want to become better men and ultimately more successful with women, but WITHOUT having to sacrifice our core identities in order to become a "PUA" OR a hardcore "Azn."

Almost EVERY Asian American online forum you come across now has a subset PUA culture associated with it. It can never really be part of the "mainstream" Seduction Community because there is a definite strain of prejudice and exploitive factor that exists in the Community (ever notice how a significant number of Pick Up companies and their instructors can only pick-up FOBBY Asian women?).

I think the Community has come a LONG way from back in 2004 when there was NO answer on how to deal with racism and prejudice when you ran into the field.

And other than the godfathers of seduction themselves like Mystery, Style, etc, I feel that I had a definite hand in shaping the community and future of Asian American men's dating.

So if you got any value, over the 5 years of my blog, going on 850+ free posts, then go over and vote one last time at the PUA Summit Poll. You'll be glad you did!

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Labels: Asian PUA, Bonsai, DJ Fuji, Grandma, Grungey10, Hoobie, Loverboy, Papa, PUA Summit, Top Asian Pick Up Artists

A Call to Arms!

Friends. Romans. Countrymen!

Lend me your ears!

Gareth Jones here!

So frequently have we been there, in your inbox, to guide you through troubled times! So often are we quick to respond to your calls or your texts or your Facebook chat requests with expert information at the click of a button! So courageously do we guide you through the thorny forest of manhood to the clearing of tranquility! We do this all humbly (sorta) and it is our pleasure to serve you.

However, it is now that we call on you as an army of brothers for one minute of your assistance!

As you know, the 2010 World Pickup Summit is drawing close and the ABCs of Attraction will be there in full force, representing all of you guys, as well as all of the PUAs that want to grow as men, tired of being held down by lines and routines!

This year, our very own Asian Playboy (voted World’s Best Asian PUA in 2009 and one of the Top 10 Pick Up Artists in the World for 2009) is up for the title AGAIN, and I call on you to support his reign! LONG LIVE THE KING!

In addition to APB, your very own Gareth Jones is now in the running for Best New Blood of 2010! Having two awards given out to members of the ABCs Of Attraction crew would be unprecedented and an amazing feat!

But how can you help, you ask us? You’re in luck!

All you need to do is head to this link, right now:


Make sure you do three things:

1. Vote for Asian Playboy as World’s Best Asian PUA
2. Vote Gareth Jones for the 2010 New Blood Award
3. Vote ABCs Of Attraction as World’s Best Pickup Company (under ‘Other’)

Not only will this lend the ABCs Of Attraction more of the fame and notoriety we deserve, but it will also ensure that Gareth Jones will speak for an additional 40 minutes on the last day of the PUA summit. This means that you have the chance to get an additional video of RAW material from the master of phone and text game.

Remember that you can only vote once, so make this one count and be sure to pass it on to your friends!

As always, keep fighting the good fight and thank you for your support!

-The ABCs Team

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Labels: Announcement, PUA Summit

Fun Factoid: I've never cheated on a girlfriend ever since becoming a PUA.

The Community gets a bad rap with people seeing us as misogynistic misanthropes intent upon hurting as many women as possible when the actual truth is far from it. Don't believe me?

Ask yourself, who gets INTO the Community? Guys like me. 

Smart, educated, shy NICE guys. We're the guys that tutored you in math in high school. We're the ones who watched nerd fare like Star Trek and Doctor Who where BRAINS was mightier than BRAWN or Star Wars where the lonely, misunderstood boy goes off to rescue the damsel/princess in distress.

We're the Peter Parkers of the world still taking care of our elderly aunt and while yearning for the beautiful girl next door who's dating the asshole meathead jock. And you know what they said about Peter Parker, "He never gets laid and never gets paid."

We're romantics at heart and I know, at least for me, no matter how much I try, I'm still very much that nice, romantic nerd that I was before. Except now I know how to get women, but every now and then, I'll succumb to some sort of romantic, "Nice Guy" symptom which I know will cost me cool points with the girl, but I'll do it anyways.

Hell, my favorite quote is still from Second Hand Lions, "Sometimes the things that may or may not be true are the things a man needs to believe in the most. That people are basically good. That honor virtue and courage mean everything; that money and power mean nothing. That good always triumphs over evil. That true love never dies. Doesn’t matter if they’re true or not. A man should believe in those things anyway. Because they are the things worth believing.”

Try as it might, some aspects of the PUA Community will encourage you to be an asshole, a badboy, and even a user. But at it's finest, it's about being a better man. And that's the side that I choose, and I encourage my students, to embrace.

After all, if you want the woman of your dreams, become the man of hers!

Why pickup artists make better husbands

Dating hundreds and acting as a true Don Juan helps men become better spouses, claim devotees of The Pickup Artist By Eric Copage, Featurewell.com August 7, 2010

The stereotype that men trained in seduction are aspiring Don Juans is only partly true. John was a pickup artist --an expert at attracting women. He plied his expertise in Florida bars and nightclubs near where he lives.

But in 2008, he gave up charming the throngs of women in Orlando's lounges to settle down into a monogamous relationship with his girlfriend, with whom he shares an apartment. He credits skills he learned as a pickup artist with helping him nurture that long-term union.

"By approaching thousands of women, I got a better understanding of female psychology," said John, 27, who asked that his full name not be used.

"With women, I learned to communicate on a more emotional level."

John was part of what had been an underground fraternity of men learning the ABCs of effectively relating to women. Over the past five years their skills have become the stock in trade of a tsunami of e-books, hardcover volumes, DVDs and CDs, weekend seminars, online forums, podcasts, a satellite radio show -- even a cable television program.

The stereotype that the men learning the art of the pickup are aspiring Don Juans is only partly true.

"Most guys who get into this don't do it just because they want to sleep around with different women," said Chris Odom, a pickup coach and co-author, with the legendary pickup artist Mystery, of the book The Pickup Artist: The New and Improved Art of Seduction"(Villard, 2010). Odom himself has lived with his girlfriend since 2007.

Jeffrey Rachlin, a 27-year-old sales manager for a large tech firm in San Francisco, suffered the devastating break up of the five-year relationship with his college girlfriend in early 2007. By that time knowledge of the pick-up community had begun to seep into popular culture, and in September he enrolled in a boot camp.

"It was about having quality interactions with people, it wasn't so much about one night stands," Rachlin said of his interest in learning the skills. He credits the confidence he developed over the course of learning to attract women as fundamental in creating a strong bond with Kady Cheung, 33, an independent jewelry designer, who on May 14 became

Kady Rachlin when she and Rachlin got married.

"I had been through a period where my self-confidence was pretty low," Rachlin said about the time between his break-up and taking the boot camp. "But going through the boot camp, and then having girls proactively giving me their phone numbers, becoming sexually active again, increased my self confidence tremendously." It changed even how he physically carries himself, he said.

He said self-confidence "makes the people around you feel better. You tend to be on the happy side, and optimistic. You can still have problems and woes," but have the confidence you can handle them, he said.

Kady Rachlin added that her husband's self assurance, "makes me feel that I can trust and rely on him."

She said his confidence has "helped with our communication, to be open about our feelings with each other."

Rachlin agreed, adding, "I've shared with Kady things that I haven't shared with other girlfriends because I didn't have the confidence to do so. I was afraid of how they might receive it."

Joseph Rossini, a 50ish lawyer in Los Angeles, who is twice divorced, became interested in the pickup community about five years ago, when a co-worker brought his attention to the book The Game (Wm. Morrow/HarperCollins, 2005), written by Neil Strauss.

Rossini began dating his 30-something girlfriend Elizabeth O'Rourke about two years ago. They moved into a Los Angeles apartment together 18 months ago.

He said learning how to react to the verbal tests women often give men when they first meet has helped him with his current relationship.

In single life, these tests can take the form of a woman saying provocative or even insulting things to a man to throw him off balance. For example, one time when Rossini was single he went to a club "dressed outrageously just to see what it was like," he said. A woman said to him, " 'Why are you dressed like that? You look like Ace Ventura,' and a stream of insults about every area of my appearance."

"I let it blow me out of the set," he recalled. "I just smiled, and excused myself. "

Enduring a number of similar instances taught him to be "nonreactive." In the pickup community, Rossini said, "you're taught to be to be non-defensive, and to deflect the test or engage it with humour -- anything other than be defensive and emotionally reactive.

"In a relationship, you might not call it a test, but there are times your woman wants to feel that part of your character that is trustworthy. Being nonreactive conveys that in an emergency, you are a man that can be relied on to keep your cool and bring things to a place that is manageable."

"Just last week my girlfriend sent me an e-mail while I was at the office, accusing me of flirting with other women," he recalled.

In former relationships, he said he would fight about it and be defensive, and all that would do is lead to more conflict and trouble.

Instead, he said, "I called her up and told her how much I love her and how she is the only one for me -- with love and genuineness in my voice -- and she said, 'I know that, I just needed to hear it.' "

O'Rourke, who owns an independent organic skin care business, said, "Nine times out of 10 if we're upset with the person we love, it has nothing to do with the content of what we're upset about, like 'You didn't take out the trash!' It's really that she's needing to feel loved. And if he can be unwavering, and strong and really not be defensive and argumentative, she melts. It's like whatever is the issue is no longer a problem -- and she's smiling."

John, the day trader from Florida, said the abundance of women in his life between the time he learned skills and the time he met his girlfriend made him clearer about what he was looking for in a relationship.

"I had talked to thousands of women, went out with hundreds on dates, been in fairly serious relationships with a couple, and had sexual relationships with 15 other girls," during the 18 months he was in the pickup community, he said.

"After all of that I had a fairly strong idea of what I was looking for personality wise and physically. And at that point, I wanted a girlfriend. So, when I met this girl, she fit the physical type I was looking for.

"And our personalities just complemented each other so well," he added. "She's my best friend. A great person. The type of girl who when I did my boot camp, was the type I was looking for.

"Coming from a place where I actually had options, I was able to choose what type of girl I wanted. And that just gave me a higher level of conviction that this was a great person to have as your girlfriend."

Having greater choices in women can also make the woman who is in the monogamous long-term relationship with a former pick up artist have a greater sense of conviction.

Kady Rachlin said she is certain her husband didn't latch on to her out of a desperate need to cling to any relationship, or because no one else would have him.

His having the option of choosing among many women, she said, "makes me feel that he chose me because he genuinely enjoys being with me."

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Labels: F - Fun or Fake, Long Term Relationship