So often are we asked what we do and why we do it? Even more frequently are we asked how our students get such solid and lasting results?

People say to us "Why does the ABCs Of Attraction have such a clean reputation, and what makes your students so successful?"

People always want the clean-cut answer. In fact, it has very little to do with the words we teach or the stories we tell, it has to do with our students and the philosophy with which we guide them.

I have always believed that there are two types of companies in the Pick Up industry:

1. Company A teaches men positive ways to become attractive to women and give them the boost of confidence and social skill necessary to achieve true social enlightenment.
2. Company B teaches men to use gimmicky lines and scripts to, essentially, trick girls into thinking you're interesting.

Ask yourself this: Have you ever found yourself running routines that you aren't interested in or asking questions you've read in books about things you could care less about and then maybe, MAYBE getting a makeout that ends up feeling fake or a bit futile? If so, it means you're on the "Giving a man a fish" end of the Pick Up business and that you're not actually bettering yourself as a person.

You've seen the pick-up artist that just embodies confidence. The guys that, even though there are programs that teach you never to say, "Excuse me", can actually spill a coffee on a girl and still get her number. There are even guys that can do EVERYTHING "wrong" (according to the community), but can still be attractive to women. This is the type of method we teach.


Holistic game dictates that if you better yourself as a person (create an interesting life, take part in fun activities, hang out with cool people), the quality of the people around you will better itself. The guys will become more fun and easy-going and the women will become more confident and more attractive. This is type of life that all enlightened men seek, and we make our living teaching those skills.

In our programs, we help guys develop these conversational skill and we teach them a way to practice becoming more confident while using them. Sure, we give guys lines, but our lines aren't designed to "Make her melt instantly so she'll be ready for your throbbing stanchion in minutes", they're designed to make her life better.

By making her life better, she will be more attracted to you. This, ironically, is the way to better your life and keep her coming back for more. Fortunately for us, the companies that build their reputations on 'seducing her with a single line' and 'pheromone packages designed to get the girl without a word' are a thing of the past. People are wising up to the revolution of self-improvement and these companies are on their way out.

Some of them are already gone- the harsh economic realities have weeded out the charlatans, pretenders, and imitators with a ruthless Darwinian razor- and I consider that a victory!

I don't like telling people I'm in the "Seduction" business because, just by using that word seduction, it implies that we deceive women. I don't even really like telling people I'm a "Pick Up Artist" because it makes them think my students and I are just out to get laid. Yeah, I love sex, but which of you out there doesn't want the perfect woman on their arm for the rest of their life? I know I do.

A very good friend of ours in Hollywood that promotes several major clubs once took me aside and said, "You and your friends are welcome to any club I am ever involved with because I sincerely believe there are two types of people in this world: Fun takers and fun makers. You are a fun maker." (Read here about the B-Phase: Be in the Moment, Banter & Buying Temperature)

Though, I am proud of the idea of being a world-recognized seduction expert, I consider myself more of a Fun Up Artist, than a Pick Up Artist. (Read more about HOW to become quit being a pick up artist and start being a FUN UP ARTIST)

Both myself and my instructors are in the business of making life fun for everyone.

1. We increase everyone's quality of life and we give value, relentlessly.
2. We make people enjoy their lives so much that they want to get as close to us as possible.
3. People want to reap these rewards as often as possible.
4. In the case of beautiful women, that happens to end in an orgasm.

How can I complain?

If you're looking for the one sentence that will bend her over and drop her panties, you won't find it in the ABCs. I'll be honest with you; you won't find it anywhere because it doesn't exist. But if you're looking for a way to become a better person to such a degree that women will crawl over themselves just to be near you, we can help you with that right away.

Change your life now. Sign up.

Labels: 10 Pillars of Inner Strength, Fun Up Artist, Holistic Game

Ahoy my scalliwags! I've been getting a lot of emails, both positive and negative, on my ongoing AM/BF article series. I appreciate everyone taking the time to read and comment, regardless of whether or not you approve of Asian Men being with Black Women or vice versa.

So anyways, here's the FINAL part of N'jaila Rhee, writer of the Blasian Bytch Blog, on her advice for Asian Men trying to date Black Women! Go here for Part 1 of her article!


"For many little black girls we were taught early on that most of the world wouldn’t be too keen on treating us like princesses. No one was looking to take care of us and in turn we were encouraged to be self-reliant individuals. This has been interpreted by some as being stand offish or masculine, but I think its just another expression of femininity.

As a result of this it takes a certain level of intimacy and trust to show the man in our lives what is bothering us and to share our burdens. Sharing fears, and problems even on a trivial level was a way for me a test of sorts. I wanted to know how deep a relationship could go. When men gave me cold responses I would automatically put them on the long list of people I figured I’d be supporting without getting support in return. This led to disaster because of my assumption that all relationships were built on the same unspoken rules as the ones I watched growing up.

It’s a give and take, in learning about my potential suitors lives and cultures I was able to show them about myself. We actually were able to talk about sensitive issued that otherwise would have remained mysteries. What was important to me was that he was man enough to ask questions and learn instead of going on his preconceived notions of what a black woman should think and feel.

The last and most easy red flag to avoid that has put my relationships to a screeching halt was listening to how a man talks about his own ethnicity and culture. I have never gone on a second date with a man that put down Asians especially Asian women around me.

Why is it a bad idea to dog Asian women? You see even if the guy was doing it in a way that he thought complemented me, it raised a question to how does this man see women. If “all Asian women do X” then what does this man think “all Black women” do? Not to mention if a man has so much distain for the women in his family who reared him, loved him and supported him I damn sure don’t expect him to magically have no contempt for a woman that did none of those things.

I also have walked out on the men that brought up race to an extreme extent. Yes I understand we live in a racially obsessed society but if you spend most of our first date talking about race I’m not learning about you the individual. Well, other than the fact that you too are obsessed with race.

This can manifest in your talking about all your exes in racially categories, acting like certain groups were prizes over others, and complaining about Asian women dating non-Asians. The later was always a deal breaker because it comes off as extremely hypocritical and bitter.
If you are on this date with my Black ass but you sneer at the Asian women two tables away from us with a Black man you have become extremely suspect in my eyes. Honestly I would question how much you are on this date with me because you have interest in me or are you just trying to “even the score”. Either way , on a first date with a Black woman that’s not going to be a good look.

All in all if you approach a Black woman you are attracted to on the merit that you think she’s attractive, interesting and just plain irresistible by all means go for it. A man that is genuinely interested in a woman is always going to be more appealing. If you think of black women as some last frontier to be considered when nothing better is on TV, by all means keep chasing other colors of the rainbow. You’re not doing us any favors and we’ll treat you accordingly."

- N'jaila Rhee (The Blasian Bytch)

RELATED POSTS:

• Asian Men & Black Women: Dating's Final Frontier
• "I Asked A Black Woman Out... Now What?" (Dear Asian Playboy)
• Fashion & Hair Style Advice for Asian Men
• Podcast: Social Isolation of the Asian American Male & the Asian Edge
• A Real Solution to the Asian American Interracial Dating Disparity

Labels: Black Women, Blasian Bytch, Guest Writers, N'jaila Rhee

In my ongoing series of articles encouraging Asian Men and Black Women relations, I've asked N'jaila Rhee, writer of the Blasian Bytch Blog, to add her two cents on the topic and how best an Asian man could approach, attract, and seduce beautiful black women.


"I’ve been asked to write a opinion or advice piece for Asian men on many occasions this is the first time I’ve taken a serious approach to the subject.

I know for many I might be a strange woman, I’m a Black identified woman who through fate and circumstance I’ve found myself involved with almost exclusively Asian men. I don’t think this makes me any kind of expert on Asian Male Black Women relations but J.T asked me to write and so I shall.

I think the first thing that should be obvious is that like “Asians” there a wide range of cultures that fall under the umbrella of “Black” and those culture effect people but at the end of the day we are all individuals. There is no monolithic hive of thought governing the thoughts, desires and personalities of all Black women. So take everything I write with that in mind.

There are three basic things I think all the Asian men who appealed to me and eventually got the booty mastered and I’ll try to explain them to you. First, they were never douche bags about race. Second they made an effort to try to understand some of our cultural differences. Lastly, they were comfortable being who they were and respectful of their own people and culture.

It’s easy for people to assume that just because two people in a relationship are not the same race that somehow they’ve discovered the cure for racism, I know first hand that’s not the case. Plenty of men that chose to date interracially can be total cunts when it comes to issues of race, some without even realizing it.

It can be little things like turning to the hip-hop station that you would never listen to as soon as I get into the car. A pretty solid rule of life is if phrases like “boo”, “girlfriend” or, “oh no he didn’t” aren’t in your everyday vocabulary don’t try to adopt them to be “down”. If these terms are in your everyday vocabulary punch yourself in the face, please. This type of racial pandering has for me been a red flag when it comes to dating.

You’ll be hard pressed to find a group of people so forced into racial awareness as a Black woman living in America. Our society is simply racially obsessed and usually to our detriment. The last thing a black woman is interested in is a date that regurgitates what mainstream has decided is “Black”. On that note any actions that can confirm to her that you’ve formulated your entire concept of Blackness and Black people from BET is most likely going to be a deal breaker.

I know for myself there are certain red flags / deal breakers that can be pretty much easily avoided. Some men chose to take the racial pandering to a whole new level and reach the racial appropriation stratosphere. These are the men that think just because they memorized a few Tupac albums, have a criminal record or get their hair braided that they are official Black cardholders. Unless you are actually Black, you can “feel Black” all you want it really doesn’t mean I’m obligated to have any sort of connection to you. In fact chances are I want to get as far away from you as possible.

Liking Hip Hop, Reggae or whatever Black music of your choice doesn’t make you in tune with my blackness. It doesn’t mean that I won’t completely lose respect for you once you start throwing around the “n” word like a hot potato. Even if your idiot friends have given you the pass to use it, saying it around a potential date isn’t going to translate to any magic happening.

One sure fire way of opening up potential chemistry is honest to God interests in another person that spawns a natural curiosity about my culture and myself. As I said before ones culture effects everyone differently. My mother is Jamaican and I honestly feel like I was raised to have different mannerisms that a lot of American woman. My mom was very proud of my proficiency for doing housework. Does she want me to be independent sure but I better know how to cook my husband dinner as well. There is a complicated duality of black femininity just as there is a complex structure of Asian masculinity.

Every culture has their own idea of femininity and in turn women in those culture are going to express femininity in their own way. Using my own West Indian culture as an example I can say that I’ve never seen my mother cry. Not when her father died, or family members were murdered. Those emotions were saved for my father’s eyes and pretty much his eyes only..."

- N'jaila Rhee (The Blasian Bytch)


RELATED POSTS:

• Asian Men & Black Women: Dating's Final Frontier
• "I Asked A Black Woman Out... Now What?" (Dear Asian Playboy)
• Fashion & Hair Style Advice for Asian Men
• Podcast: Social Isolation of the Asian American Male & the Asian Edge
• A Real Solution to the Asian American Interracial Dating Disparity

Labels: Black Women, Blasian Bytch, Guest Writers, N'jaila Rhee

OUR SKILLS ARE CONSTANTLY EVOLVING!!!

However, our programs are still the same, and the 12 Weeks of Fury is no different!

12 Weeks of one-on-one training. Our most comprehensive and inexpensive program is BACK with over 100 hours of training for $35/hr! A 3-day/3-night intensive bootcamp with 12 Weeks of one-on-one training focusing on every single aspect of seduction that exists!

Phone game? Text Game? Day Game? Direct Game? Check! The best part is that it's completely customizable to suit your learning needs!

Here's what Synthetic had to say about the program:
"I love it. I love the price, the personal attention and quite frankly, I am honored to be one of the first graduates of this program. The camaraderie is amazing. These guys are not just PUAs who want your money (heh, somebody comes to mind and they know who I'm talking about), they are your mentors, your brothers and even life long people you want to befriend."

You can't make that stuff up! I mean, I could, but what would be the point?

We've also worked with tons of satisfied students that we've guided to the next level. Between myself, Kevin Feng, and Gareth Jones, we have close to 10 YEARS OF PICK UP EXPERIENCE TO POUR DIRECTLY INTO YOUR BRAIN!!!

Hear what they have to say:

"I'll start by saying that both coaches know [their] stuff, they truly are overqualified to teach us humble mortals the fine arts of seduction."
-Reminisce, Sydney, July '10

"...If you're not seeing results in your game, I highly suggest taking their course. They don't charge an arm and a leg and provide some truly fantastic and easy to follow pickup advice."
-G-Dog, Los Angeles, May '10

"Overall, I had an awesome time! I am 1000% better in interaction from the day I started the bootcamp. As an instructor, Gareth is very passionate. He has complete mastery of the materials. .... Gareth, you are awesome!"
-Achilles, Los Angeles, July '10

"JT is just as human (and asian!) as anyone i've ever met, the only difference is this guy has loads of game and experience..."
-Radiant, London, April '10

Those are the words of the experienced! Our 12 Weeks of Fury program gives you access to the HUGE wealth of information stored within the ABCs of Attraction staff including a full bootcamp, 12 four-hour sessions with your own, personal coach, and five sessions with myself covering a huge gamut of topics guaranteed to leave you stuffed with enough information to make Casanova himself nervous!

Let's make the decision to change our lives now, while there's still time! Head over to http://12weeksoffury.eventbrite.com/ for a complete, in-depth description of the program and we look forward to hearing from you soon!

Labels: 12 Weeks of Fury, Announcement

Dassy, a wing woman for Kezia-Noble.com the UK's Top Female Pick Up Trainer, sits down with the ABCS of Attraction. Dassy happens to enjoy dating Asian men and so I had to take the opportunity to do a quick interview before they left to go back to London.

She gives helpful tips on:

1. How to talk to and chat up shy girls
2. Her preference for Asian men
3. Dating advice for Asian men who want to hook up with white women

Be sure to check out Kezia Noble when she comes to America or catch Gareth Jones and I when we storm London for Fashion Week in September!!! Or check out our own wing girl, Sarah Ann, on her Facebook profile!

Labels: Kezia Noble, London, PUA Training, Sarah Ann, Video, Wing Girl