In our Dear Asian Playboy advice column, I answer a lot of common and uncommon questions that fans and readers of our ABCs of Attraction newsletter send to me.

Sometimes it's guys who are on their last rope, sometimes it's guys who want to get their ex-girlfriend back, and sometimes it's guys who simply want to get good with women. My heart goes out to all these guys because once upon a time, I was just like them. Just like you.

And curiously enough, every now and then, we'll get fanmail from a woman who totally digs what we're doing for Asian men. This is one of those times. It's always nice to get glowing "love" letters from women who love them some Asian.

You know what they say... Once you go Asian, you can't go Caucasian! Once you go yellow... HELLO!

Take it away, Nichole, from WomenForAsianMen.com!

Dear Asian Playboy,

I just would like to thank you for providing this program to Asian men (and other minority men). As a white woman who only dates Asian men, it's disheartening to know that the majority of them won't even approach women of other races because they don't think they will get anywhere because of stereotypes or racial prejudice.

The fact is there are a lot of open-minded women or women like me who have a preference. Believe me, I still take a lot of heat from other women because of my preference for Asian men, and that's disheartening, too, but I try to encourage other women to be more open about who they date.

In my opinion and experience, Asian men are the most intelligent, passionate, family-oriented, and ... the SEXIEST men. So, again, thank you for this program. I hope it reaches more men.

-Nichole

Dear Nichole,

Thanks so much for your email. Not only is it a great confidence to Asian men in general, but it is very heartwarming to know that, not only do Asian men appreciate the services that we offer, but that women can appreciate what we do as well.

As I'm sure you can well understand, we often face a lot of judgement and harsh criticism for the work that we do. There are many people that resist our efforts right from the get go and it is by those people that we are very rarely seen as life-coaches and teachers of confidence that we are, but more as guys out to "get laid" or teach "tricks" to get other guys the girl.

This is so far from the truth we could not have been as successful as we are if it was only about that sort of superficial pursuit and not about self-actualization and self-improvement.

So it is very, very satisfying to know that there more and more people like yourself are growing to understand the mission we have chosen for ourselves and that is is both understood and appreciated.

From both myself and my staff, thank you for this letter. It means quite a bit to both our students and us as well.

With your permission, I'd like to be able to put this up on our website or to send it to some of our members to show them that they are not inherently undesirable to women of all races, colors, and creeds and that, simply just by being themselves, they can find solace in the idea that they are found naturally attractive to someone as sweet as yourself.

Thank you again for being wonderful to us, and I hope you find a way to feel as fulfilled and contented as I after having read your letter.

Very sincerely,
JT

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Labels: Asian Male White Female, Dear Asian Playboy, Interracial Dating Disparity

PHO & BEER THIS THURS @ 8PM! 

That's right, ladies and gents, this Thursday I'm coming back to the Big Apple to visit my New York City alumni and former students for beer and pho (and not necessarily in that order). Join me, William, and all the other NY crew members.

Kick back, tell war stories, find yourself a wingman, and generally have a good ol' time!

FYI the NYC August Bootcamp just SOLD OUT today! We have LITERALLY SOLD OUT EVERY NY bootcamp this year alone. Sign up for the October New York Bootcamp before it's too late!

Labels: APB Alumni Networking Dinner, New York City

Has this ever happened to you?

You see a girl across the room that’s just your type. You immediately scan your mind for pickup material and get the perfect routine ready. You summon up all your courage and finally approach her with your witty, calibrated opener.

She gives you a perplexed look... Then it hits you...

SHE DOESN’T SPEAK ENGLISH!

Whether it’s the hot tourist at Disneyland or the beautiful stranger overseas, you will be cutting out a lot of dating potential if you cant communicate. And after years of traveling around the world, let me be the first to tell you: YOU NEED TO KNOW HOW TO PICK UP FOREIGN WOMEN!

I mean let’s face it, sometimes they are the hottest girls around, and they often don’t have the egos that some American girls have.

Luckily, at the Australian PUA Summit (where I was voted Top Asian Pick Up Artist of Australia) I had the opportunity to sit down with a fellow expert on the subject. Be sure to join me this July as I reconquer Australia at my Sydney Special Bootcamp!

So here, courtesy of the ABCs of Attraction, is dating guru RedPoleQ from PickUpAsia.com with some tips on picking up women when there is a language barrier.



Notice the emphasis on the physical aspect of pickup (something we focus heavily on at the ABCs of Attraction), and the importance of humor.

In my opinion, picking up foreign women is some of the most fun you can have.

And if this video has got you intrigued about the opportunities to pick up Asian girls, don’t forget that the ABCs of Attraction has created the NUMBER ONE all-inclusive video on the subject: Johnny Wolf’s “How to Hook up With Asian Girls”.

Hope you enjoyed the video, and stay tuned for the next video guest in the ABCs of Attraction’s FREE education outreach series.

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Labels: Attraction Master Class, Australia, How to Hook Up with Asian Girls, Nonverbal Game, Openers, Outer Confidence, PickUpAsia, PUA Summit, RedPoleQ, Video

Hello my Scalliwags! I'm currently in Toronto teaching two bootcamps, the first one is an Apprenticeship and the other is the Special Bootcamp (SOLD OUT!). This last weekend's Apprenticeship, which is a long term bootcamp training program, is actually also my first ALL CAUCASIAN BOOTCAMP too!

We're talking 6"2 big white guys, here, I literally look like I'm walking around with body guards, haha :) That's right, yours truly, the Asian Playboy and the ABCs of Attraction do teach white PUAs! Really we do, over 25% of our clientèle are non-Asian. And then next week's bootcamp will be Asian and black.

It's actually pretty funny to me since my first coach was Groove, a rocking Caucasian who later went on to work for Venusian Arts. But to answer the question, does the ABCs of Attraction teach Caucasian, African American, Indian, Middle Eastern, and Latino PUAs, I'll let our resident blonde-frocked, 100% honkey-tonk coach take it away!

Gareth Jones here, 12 Weeks of Fury Coach of the ABCs of Attraction. I’m writing today to clear up a couple misunderstandings I run into, as well as a question I also see very frequently on our boards as well as get at the seminars I attend on behalf of the ABCs.

First of all, I didn’t realize there were so many people out there that don’t know that I’m white! Yes. That’s right, boys, I am a tall, skinny white guy with long hair (shocking, I know)!

Often times, on the phone, Asian guys will confide in me, telling me about the prejudice and stereotyping they suffer from when trying to meet women. They tell me that they know that I understand because I’m Asian, as well, and that I have gone through the torment of being rejected purely for my skin color or height or hairstyle. I have to stop them to tell them the truth; that, while I’m not either short or Asian like them, I DO understand exactly what they are going through.

In fact, I have gone through it time and time again with all of my different clients. I have been with guys when they’ve been called out for being “nerdy Asians” and I’ve been with guys that have been blown out of sets because women have said they “don’t date Asians” and, probably the toughest for me; I have been with girls when they have told me they liked me, but wanted to know why I was hanging out with “loser Japanese guys”. That was a HUGE turnoff to me and, briefly abandoning the ’leave them better than you find them’ motto that we always follow, I told her I was doing it because each one of them had more class and character in their little finger than she did in her entire body.

Unfortunately, we all face prejudice; The Asians, the Indians, the Hispanics and even the white guys! We have coached tons of different guys that have all had their particular stumbling blocks and had huge successes! Here’s a video review from our student in Orlando that said, and I quote, “Do you guys want me to do a video review so that dudes will know this stuff works for black guys?” HAH! I remember rolling on the floor, laughing with Kevin and William when he said this, but we were glad for his review. Check it out:



This brings us to the already-answered question: Are the ABCs of Attraction’s programs only for Asians or is it race-less? I can very solidly tell you, as what APB calls a non-Asian, I know for a fact that the ABCs works for every race! I’ll tell you why:

Most every company out there offers routines and tactics that are, understandably so, tried and tested by their own staff! This is exactly the way a methodology should be developed and they are flawless in the theory of their approach, however, their results aren’t for everybody.
“Why?” you ask.

Because often times these instructors, the ones that have developed the material themselves, are fairly good-looking, macho men to start off with. Not to name any names, but I am sure it won’t take us too long to think up which top pickup companies are run by tall, masculine he-men. OF COURSE their routines work, its not hard to get a girl interested in you when you’re already ripped, well-dressed and have bottle service at the club you’re gaming at.

You must understand that I don’t mean any negative energy towards these guys. Most of them have always been really cool to me and they are REALLY good at what they do, but wouldn’t you rather be using the tactics of the underdog to sink the tallest blonde in the house?

This all comes down to the idea that the things that we teach you do the work FOR you, rather than you making the effort to make THEM work. Frankly, if the tactics and techniques we teach can get a 5’6” Vietnamese pulling 6’ blonde strippers, I bet they will work EVEN BETTER for you! Not to constantly point out that APB is short and stocky (I know he won’t mind, because this is BUSINESS), but I know for a fact that the things he teaches translate across all racial boundaries.

For instance, take me as an example: when APB hired me, I had very, very solid game. My verbals were unmatched by anyone, which is why he brought me on the team. When he took me aside and taught me all the things he knew, it took my game from 1 hour to where I was consistently pulling in 20 minutes. There is nothing more to say than it works for a short Asian guy and a tall white guy, alike.

Here’s a video review from one of my favorite students in Dallas that I keep in almost daily contact with to this day. He was having a lot of trouble just knowing what to say and the ABCs boot camp got him laid 4 times. Talk about success. I haven’t even slept with 4 girls that I met on a 3 day boot camp and I teach this shit! Wait.. never mind.. Yes, I have. LA boot camps don’t really count, though



The ABCs programs give you more than time-tested routines and gambits, it gives you what a lot of other companies don’t give you; a roadmap through the seduction. We show men where they stand with a woman and how to get to the next step, while giving thorough examples of what do say and do in each stage, making sure they have the material to progress. Because of this system, you can also incorporate all the other material that you’ve learned ANYWHERE ELSE and it will only make your game more successful!

Winding it up, I have taught guys into the triple digits now. I’ve taught 21 year olds and 53 year olds. I’ve taught Indians, Asians, Latinos, White guys, and my old friends from high school. I’ve been asked to be the best man at two weddings because I’ve been a part of getting the bride and groom together, and every person involved will swear up and down that the ABCs of Attraction will work for every man regardless of race.

Is it time to change your life so that you get what you deserve? Head over to the ABCs of Attraction Signup page and make a deposit for a boot camp today. I hope to be a part when you decide to take control of your life!

Good luck and I hope we meet soon,

-Gareth Jones

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Labels: Gareth Jones, Race, Reviews, Video Reviews

As Vince Kelvin put it, the best produced trailer in the community!

Purchase your DVDs or reserve your tickets for 2010's PUA Summit!

Labels: AFC Adam Lyons, BradP, DJ Fuji, Hypnotica, Johnny Wolf, Love Systems, Mehow, PUA Summit, PUA Training, Savoy, Speer Method, Vince Kelvin