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Your Swedish Asian Hero

It's always nice when a fan or student does something special like dedicate a musical YouTube video to me.

Last night, an awesome fan made this video for me. Apparently I'm famous in Sweden! (Thanks Bui!)

Click play and find out what millions of other people around the world already know about me

It takes a minute to load, but trust me, it's worth it! ;)
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P.S. You can make one of yourself too if you upload a pic!

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Alumni Martini Meetup in Chicago Tonight!

Ahoy me scalliwags!

I'm off to Chicago at the crack ass of dawn this morning. Join me and other alumni for a free martini meet & greet at the Knickerbocker Hotel lobby bar at 8pm today.

Chicago - Millennium Knickerbocker Hotel
163 East Walton Place
(312) 751-8100
Chicago, IL 60611-1527

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What If... You Had Paid For a PUA Bootcamp in 2004 Instead of Waiting?

When you've been in the Community as long as I have- over 6 years to be specific- things tend to come full circle and you run into people that you started off with but lost touch. Or maybe you hear about them from a friend of a friend. Whatever.

It's like in high school or when you go to college and you meet your roommate or whomever you're being thrown together into the lion's den. In your freshman year, you become the best of friends due the pressure cooker environment of being taken from the comfort and familiarity of your own home and into the- sometimes friendly, sometimes hostile- arms of wanton strangers where the possibility- and stress- of sex abounds.

It's like shipping off to war and the two of you bond as only Brothers-In-Arms can.

For that first year, you share a lot of the same hobbies and passions. You eat lunch together, you check out the sorority girls in the quad, etc. But over time, you start to move on. Other things- and people- interest you. Or maybe, even worse than that, you start to see that your BFF is actually kind of a slob who plays on the Nintendo64 all day.

It was cool enough for the first year, maybe the second, but definitely not moving onward and upwards. And he can't seem to understand why you're drifting away, why you're hitting the books and spending your time with other friends, the girlfriend you've acquired by now, and the prestigious grad school you're attending.

And he's still eating tacos in his board shorts and wife-beater, watching some b-movie in the dorm common area of the community college if he hasn't already dropped out.

So what's the point of this? Well, I get this phenomenom a lot. And by a lot, I mean "HOLY SHIT" lot. Like, "Hold me close, APB, and don't let the scary monsters get me!" lot.

I've had guys who have been following my blog since it's inception in 2005. That's 5 years these guys have been reading my field reports, adventures, musings, and have vicariously journeyed with me throughout the years.

And to my fans and loyal readers, you guys are AWESOME!

And then I get the guys who are always proclaiming that they want to take a program with me, but either don't have the time or the money. And they're dateless, but they hope to change that situation in the near future.

Just not now.

I've had a couple guys- without fail- email or call me up EVERY SINGLE YEAR telling me how they want to take a program, but just not now.

Not in 2005. Not in 2006. Not in 2007. Not in 2008. Not in 2009.

And still, not in 2010.

Or they come up with some other excuse.

They really think I'm doing a great job representing the Asian brothers and otherwise being an inspiration, but they can't be made to "pay for a bootcamp" as if there was something morally wrong with paying for lessons on how to get good with women. As if they're better than that.

And- yes- they are still without a girlfriend or- worse- still a virgin.

I'm not going to name any names, but at least one of these dudes has NEVER HAD A SINGLE DATE IN FIVE YEARS.

He's still waiting for the "right time" to take a bootcamp or whatever his excuse- for this year- is.

All he does is read as much FREE material as he can. He's got every single famous and not-so-famous PUA's blogs bookmarked and FaceBooked. He pirates as much free material as he can get away with.

We're talking terabytes of this shit. Every single written and unwritten word, thought, image, audio, video, and otherwise sideways-fart on the subject of attracting women is stashed in his Hard-drive of Doom.

If that shit was porn, his penis would have fallen off from masturbatory-induced cardiac failure.

But, when pressed about taking a bootcamp, he always demures, claiming that "he's better than that."

Seriously, in five years of not getting laid? Shit... The definition of madness is repeating the same action expecting a different result. So why do these FOOLS keep on doing the SAME THING?! I feel for them, really I do.

But not any more. Just not after 5 years of hearing the same non-proactive, un-empowering stuff that they've been doing year after ad naseum year.

And it's not just the internet Keyboard Jockeys though.

Pretty much every single night I go out, I run into at least one Community guy who recognizes me. Roll around Los Angeles enough, I start running into the same old nightsiders and PUAs.

And there are a couple of guys that I casually knew back in the Project Hollywood 2004-05 days that I will randomly run across at Saddle Ranch or other haunts. Seriously, these guys always bragged about never taking a bootcamp, as if it was some sort of Red Badge of Courage.

But there they are... STILL TO THIS DAY. Wasting their lives at Saddle Ranch.

After 6 years. Doing the same thing. And still getting NO RESULTS.

There's the tall Asian dude who dresses in the button down clothes that his mom bought him, holding a beer clutched in the T-rex position, with his 90s gelled up, penis head hair.

And then there's the Fabio douche who thinks its a "manly test of skills" to go to clubs and bars dressed in shorts and have unwashed, blonde, tangled hair.

Needless to say, in the 6 years since I started at the same time as they did, THEY HAVE NOT MADE ANY PROGRESS.

They're still at Saddle Ranch doing the SAME BLOODY THING!!!

But are they going to do anything about it? No. Because spending money on lessons is somehow "wrong."

That's what I call being "Penny wise, but pound foolish."

Imagine if YOU had started off at the same time with me instead of waiting like those fools. You'd be right there with me- 6 years later- being interviewed on TV, gracing the covers of newspapers, traveling the world, meeting beautiful women with the utmost of confidence and sleeping with Playboyesque models like I have.

Instead, here THESE FOOLS are pinching pennies in order to save a couple of dollars, but costing yourself potentially TENS OF THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS if not more.

Seriously, think about it.

As an engineer at the time, I didn't put my ego into the equation or apply some sort of moral stigma to the dilema. I was very rational, very driven, and very analytical about it.

Asian Playboy's Thought Processes:
  1. I run into a problem: "I'm not good with girls."
  2. I identify a solution: "Let me research how to get good with girls."
  3. I acquire said solution: "I have a decent paying job, let me pay for lessons."
  4. I apply the solution: "I went out religiously almost every single week."
  5. I get results: "I get girls now. A lot."
No fuss, no muss. No ego getting in the way. No religious fucktardness. No stigma. I see target. I acquire target.

I am victorious.

Simple. Easy.

On January of 2004, over 6 years ago, I took a Mystery Method bootcamp with Erik and Herbal. In the subsequent years, I have had many ups and downs, victories and failures, made a lot of friends, lost a lot of friends, and I certainly don't follow that style of pick-up anymore or even remotely.

But I have never once thought it was a waste of money. Or that I could have done it as effectively as if I hadn't taken the program.

Guys, it cost me $600.

These OGs (Old Guys) I run into could have done the same thing I did and be in a similar place as I am now. They could have paid the $600 and saved themselves YEARS of wasted hardwork, mistakes, and lessons learned.

$600.

That's 600 burritos you don't have to eat.

Instead, these fools have SPENT 6 YEARS of their lives.

Spent it as freely as if those years were dollar bills passing through their hands.

You spent all that time away and wasted it on the illusion of "control" and that "you're still a man." Just like some corporate, salaryman does when he throws dollar bills at a cheap stripper.

Yeah, YOU may have saved $600, but YOU paid with TIME.

And time is the one resource you can never get back. Ever.

If you have a problem, get help.

I did. And look at me now.

Simple.

Easy.

Empower Yourself,
 JT the Asian Playboy
1-888-689-GAME (4263)

P.S. I'm going to be in Chicago this weekend... Isn't it about time you took charge of YOUR LIFE?

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My Channel 5 ABC TV Appearance With Karen Holmes

Guess who just became the most famous Asian pick up artist in the world? Booyah!

It's been a whirlwind of excitement and hectic scheduling this week as we've been making some massive movements on the air waves. Whew, being the leader of our men's movement and cause is exhausting work, but still quite rewarding and fun.

First, our very own Kevin Feng hit the ground running this week by making the headlines on the Toledo Blade Newspaper, "Formerly dateless Toledoan Kevin Feng is a dating coach now."

Then, I made the news at the Harvard Crimson Newspaper, "Reading Between the Pick Up Lines."

And now this, a TV interview with Channel 5's Karen Holmes of Cityline!

Check it out and don't forget to subscribe!


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THE HARVARD CRIMSON: Reading Between the Pick Up Lines

[UPDATE: 
WATCH THE 7-PART HARVARD LECTURE ON DATING 101 FOR ASIAN MEN HERE]

We on a ROLL making waves and news around the world, changing men as well as revolutionizing both the Pick Up Community as well as the Asian American Community! Here's another news piece the media has done on the ABCs of Attraction.

Last Saturday, I did a seminar for Harvard University's Asian American Association. I think close to a hounded people showed up, but what was really cool was not only was I able to address a lot of the sticking points and issues men face outside of the pick-up community, but that the audience was half women!

Anyways, one of the women there did a story about me in the Harvard Crimson Newspaper. I do have the seminar on tape and it's in the process of editing, but in the meantime, subscribe to our YouTube channel for updates as there's a lot of great value and content in the pipeline just for you!

By BETH E. BRAITERMAN, CRIMSON STAFF WRITER

Sporting a faux-hawk with a red streak, JT Tran may not seem like a man people would flock to for serious advice. But the famed pickup artist, who goes by “JT” or “The Asian Playboy,” has revolutionized the “Seduction Community,” an underground network for males seeking to improve their dating capabilities. Last Saturday, the Harvard-Radcliffe Asian American Association invited JT to speak at an event “Between the (Pickup) Lines.”

The information session went to great lengths to dispel some commonly held beliefs. The Seduction Community, JT claimed, is about more than brutishly picking up a woman for a quickie. Through bootcamps and blogs, JT emphasizes self-improvement techniques and examines social psychology. “He provides the social lubricant for men,” said Wei “Rose” Wang ’13, who along with Ge “Andy” Zhang ’13 organized the event. Moreover, JT stressed, his teachings help Asian men—50 to 75 percent of his clientele—confront the racism they encounter in the dating world.

Pickup lines do not work,” JT said as he began his presentation. In their place, JT broke down his “ABCs of Attraction” and provided various strategies for approaching women. He assured men, “If you have two balls, you can be good with women.”

In addition to drawing a nice smattering of the Harvard population—Asians, non-Asians, men, women—the event also attracted some from the local “Community.” Envy, as he is known in the seduction world, came to the event after hearing JT speak at the Pick Up Artists Summit this past September. “JT is the man,” he said. “I’m into guys with incredible skills.”

JT claims to have helped CEOs, lawyers, and doctors in addition to the everyday man. He does seem, however, to have a taste for grandeur. Adapting a Genghis Khan quote about the meaning of happiness, he hammers home the importance of physical and mental confidence: “To crush my enemies, to see them driven before me, and hear the lamentations of their women...in my bed!”
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TOLEDO BLADE NEWSPAPER: Kevin Feng, from VH1 Pick Up Artist, to a PUA Instructor

Congrats to our boy, Kevin Feng, for landing his first newspaper interview with the Toledo Blade!

Read about how K-Feng went from a reality TV show contestant known as the "Strike Out King" to his growth as a Pick Up Artist, and graduation to a coach and finally his certification as an ABCs Instructor with over 1000 grueling training hours.

Read the newspaper article and then check out the YouTube video embedded below it where K-Feng explains why he joined the ABCs of Attraction as well as INFIELD FOOTAGE with him while he was training under my wing.

Finally, don't forget to check out Kevin's blog, The K-Feng Chronicles!


BY RYAN E. SMITH

Any guy who's ever wanted to go from loser to schmoozer should take heart in the story of Kevin Feng.

At the age of 22, he'd never had a real girlfriend and couldn't figure out why.

"‘What's wrong with me?' I really thought that waking up every day," he said. "Why don't girls like me? Am I ugly? Do I smell bad?"

When Mr. Feng was chosen to compete on the second season of VH1's reality series The Pickup Artist, aimed at helping guys unlucky in love, he thought it was better than a golden ticket to Willie Wonka's chocolate factory.

It wasn't; he was kicked off the 2008 show after the second episode.

Still, the experience proved transformative for Mr. Feng, a University of Michigan graduate who recently moved to Toledo as an analyst for a medical consulting company. It led him to redouble his efforts to become a suaver, smoother gentleman suitor.

The first step, he said, was moving past the TV appearance, which included awkward attempts to meet women at a club. That it was a disaster probably shouldn't have come as a surprise.

"Take nine guys that are petrified of women. Now walk into a night club. Literally 3 million people are watching you. ... I tensed up," he said. "It was almost like a blackout. I came out of that club and had no idea what happened."

Mr. Feng, now 23, followed this up by moving to L.A. and devoting himself entirely to the art of approaching and dating women.

"It requires a lot of rejection and a lot of tenacity and motivation," he said. "I told myself, I'm going to do this every single day. I don't care if it takes me five years. ... L.A. is a complete party city and in terms of learning pickup, it is a great environment to do so."

Aided by two of his mentors from the VH1 program, Mr. Feng learned to be more confident and tolerate failure. By the time five months had passed, he felt he was proficient.

"Pickup actually is not very conceptually difficult. We're not talking multi-variable calculus here. We're just talking interactions with a woman," he said.

Mr. Feng's advice for others sounds simple: be assertive and get used to rejection.

"I've gone for many kisses and I've been rejected many times," he said. "Like Michael Jordan says, he's missed so many shots in basketball, but he always remembers the shots he's made."

These days Mr. Feng, whose parents live in Farmington Hills, Mich., is helping others who have the same languishing love lives that he once had. In addition to his local job, he works for ABCs of Attraction, which is based in California and sponsors help sessions across the country. Founder J.T. Tran said Mr. Feng has made much progress in meeting women since he arrived on the West Coast.

"At a certain point in the beginning, it was incredibly frustrating," Mr. Tran said. "I would tell him every single night and he would fix it and then the next night he would revert back to the same state."

Now Mr. Feng helps lead group boot camps that cost $975 and spends some weekends counseling individual clients at $2,500 a pop.

Mr. Feng stressed that being a pickup artist has nothing to do with being a womanizer; he got into it because all he wanted was a girlfriend, and most of his clients do too.

Now that he's brought his skills to Toledo, he said there's no reason for the single guys here to be intimidated.

"I'm like a really chill guy," he said. "Come hang out. I'll buy you a drink."
Use this form to actually contact Kevin Feng or to speak to him or another service representative, call 1-888-689-GAME (4263).

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Pick Up Lines DON'T Work!

UPDATE 2/19/10: Watch my Channel 5 TV interview on Boston Cityline here!
Dear Asian Playboy,

What are some pick up lines that you can give me that I can tell my Asian guy friends that they can use?

-Rose
Hey Rose,

Thanks for the question and Happy Valentine's Day!

We don't really advocate "pick up lines" in our program. As a woman, I'm sure you'll realize that 'lines' generally don't work. What we teach is more of an empowerment movement that is built on the idea that 'If you want to get the woman of your dreams, you have to learn how to become the man of hers." That being said, there are definite tactics that we employ that work wonders.

Here are three basic steps that we always suggest men take as they approach a woman, we call this The Walk of Khan.

1) Get Ready: Being In-State.

Though it seems obvious to read now, when you're making your approach, know what you're going to say in advance. Luck (which is often what men credit their success to with women to) is merely the point in time when preparation meets opportunity, so make sure you're prepared. You know you're going to walk over and talk to her, so anticipate what you will do. Think of both how you're going to approach her and what you're going to say; It is always better to simply say "hi" confidently than to stumble around an ill-prepared "line".

2) Get Set: Posture.

83% of the information that women interpret from your communication comes from the non-verbal aspects of how you present yourself, therefore, posture is incredibly important to projecting a cool and confident image to women. Stand up straight, as if there was a string pulling you from the top of your head. Chin up, chest out, stomach in and shoulders back; this will not only square off your posture, but it will create a more imposing and noticeable figure in the club.

...and finally...

3) Go! Do it!

Luckily, this is not rocket science; Standing tall, walking slowly and (most importantly) with a big smile, you're going to go and open your mouth at her. While different companies have man different approach tactics and lines to win her over, we very strongly reccommend walking up to her, planting your feet, and (with a big smile!) just telling her that you think she's absolutely gorgeous and introducing yourself.

This will show her that not only do you see something special about her, but you are confident, dominant, and spontaneous enough to approach and tell her. Though, it may seem frightening on paper, seeing a woman light up from a genuine compliment is one of the most beautiful and rewarding things that can happen to us men.

Unfortunately, Asian men have a little bit more work to do when it comes to representing themselves as sexual icons in our primarily-white society. We can do this by presenting a dominant and confident image and by breaking free of our passive nature.

Here are some appropriate articles on Sticking Points Asian Men Face in the Dating Scene:


I hope this is what you're looking for.

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Big Trouble In Little Great Britain!

It's been about 2 years since I have taught a bootcamp in the United Kingdom, and since then I have been inundated with emails from students wanting to learn our NEW and IMPROVED ABCs Methods.

I even had a few guys from England sign up for my Paris bootcamp (City of Love review here) last year just to get a taste.

Well, I can officially say THE WAIT IS OVER!

I will personally be headed back to the UK in APRIL for a VERY SPECIAL London Bootcamp.

This may be my last trip here for a while, since obligations have kept me pretty busy lately, so don't miss this opportunity to be a part of the ABCs Phenomenon.

In case you haven't heard, the NEW ABCs of Attraction program has become an INTERNATIONAL SENSATION, landing us on the cover of several newspapers and speaking at the prestigious Harvard University, TV interviews, and earning me a place in the prestigious TOP 10 Pickup Artists list on Thundercat's Lair.

In addition, the Real Man Conference (last year's uber-sized European PUA Summit had over 450 attendees!) has specially invited me to be part of their awesome lineup of speakers. Tickets are only 99 Euros which is RIDICULOUSLY cheap for a weekend of learning. Get your RMC tickets here!

Since our revamping of the company in 2008 and 2009, we have helped more men than EVERget the results with women that they have always DREAMED ABOUT.

NOW IT'S YOUR TURN.

I will be placing tickets on sale at 9 a.m. (EST) TOMORROW morning, so follow this link to get your tickets.

I expect this will sell out quickly, so set your alarm clocks.

Loyal newsletter subscribers will also be given a special discount code for our ABCs of Attraction bootcamps. Be prepared to tackle the biggest hurdles in your life and come out as a CHAMPION!

Get ready gentlemen, we are about to make history.

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My First TV Interview by CPR TV

In my first ever TV interview, I flew out to Chicago late last year and met up with VIA TIMES founder, Veronica Leighton. So enjoy this two part cable segment that I did for the Chicago Phillipine Reports TV, a local cable network serving Chicago's Filipino/Asian/Hispanic communities.

Don't forget, you can catch me speaking at Harvard University, next Wed on Feb 11th. It'll be held at Harvard Yard, the Emerson building, Room 305.

Finally, catch my Valentine Day interview on the ABC Boston Cityline show! Details here.

In Part 1 of this TV interview, I talk about how and why I founded the ABCs of Attraction, how to exude confidence, my ideal girl, how to deal with racism in the pick-up and dating scene, how big is the ABCs of Attaction (programs are held globally in major cities like Los Angeles, San Francisco, New York, Toronto, London, Australia), how the ABCs is the "finishing school for men", Asian parents, emotional intelligence, and how Asian men are underrepresented in high positions of power.


In Part 2 of this TV interview, I talk about my former life as a rocket scientist, how to be rich/powerful/influential, dating & pick-up advice, social obligations, the Kickstart Opener, directing the conversation, getting past the hook point, don't buy girls drinks, what's the ultimate goal in pick-up, helping virgins, dating black girls, what do women think of pick-up, having female assistants during the bootcamp, how being confidence translates to success in all areas of your life and how to contact Asian Playboy at the ABCs of Attraction.



P.S. I want to thank our awesome Chicago alum Kyle for taking the time to record the TV show. Thanks bro!

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Common Dating Mistakes of Asian Men (Gold Sea Interview, Part 3)

In the third part of the GoldSea interview series, I talk about the most common and deadliest Dating Mistakes that Asian Men face. This includes being an "Emotional Tampon" and the "Entertainment Monkey."



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