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How to Get a Date for Valentine's Day by Johnny Wolf PUA (2010)

Do you have a date for Valentine's Day? Or are you another in a long line of the love forlorn?

Well guys, it’s only a few weeks away from Valentine’s Day and if you don’t have a girl in your life yet, or if you simply want an upgrade, take my challenge and you WILL get an awesome girl by Valentine's day GUARANTEED.

If you follow my rules I guarantee that you’ll have a date by v-day. I know this because this is the fourth year this challenge has been going on and everyone who has done it has gotten good results.

It’ll be fun, easy, and remarkably successful. Last year when I first posted this challenge on my blog we had a ton of guys commenting saying they got successes from it, one guy even had too many dates for a single day so he had to do a Valentine's Eve date, a V-Day lunch date and a V-Day dinner date.

How To Get Started...

Go to the forums to see the full thread:
http://www.abcsofattraction.com/community/viewtopic.php?f=58&t=2432


Today: Go to Rite Aid, Sav-On, Walmart, Target, or any other big store and buy three boxes of cheap valentine day cards. They come in 32 packs and are about $3 per box, making each card less than 10 cents.

Remember giving these out in elementry school? You had to give one to each person in your class or none at all? These are it! And remember the funnier, sillier and cheezier the better.

Hint: These are not in the greeting card aisle, they are in the toy aisle. Do not spend $2 a card in the greeting aisle, you want the cheap, silly ones.

Warning: Do not get ones that say "I love you" or anything serious, remember, sillier the better. Here are some examples of good ones.

What To Do Starting Tomorrow:

You have a couple different options when it comes to what to write on the cards. I've tried it different ways with various results, but at the end of the day, every way works it just depends on how comfortable you are at following up the conversation. I suggest picking the one you are most comfortable with.

What To Write On The Card:

You can either pre-write these or you can carry and pen and write them on the spot in front of her. The good thing about pre-writing is that often you'll be passing the girl and you will not have time to write, however, there is a spontaneous, genuine factor with writing the card in the view of the girl and then approaching with it. I suggest doing a mixture of all three techniques to see what works best for you in your situation.

Option #1: Write your name and contact info on the cards. You can put down your email, phone number or both.

This one is good if you are very shy and do not have good follow up conversation and phone closing skills. This one takes the most amount of time to write, and you cannot expect most girls from following up. However, I have had PUAs do this in the past with success. Because it's close to valentine's day and every girl wants to be with someone, there is a higher chance they
will call or email.

Option #2: Write a little note saying “I thought you were cute” or “Coffee?”

This works best on the spot, carry a pen with you and write it on the spot. Works well if the girl is sitting at a table near you either eating, or studying.

Option #3: Leave it blank. And stay and chat with her.

This is the option I usually do. I'll just walk up to the girl with it blank, chat her up and she'll usually ask me why it's blank, or i'll suggest filling it out. It's a good way to transition to a number close since I'll tell her she needs to give me one as well, on a piece of blank paper or napkin usually.

Important Note:

Carry them around with you at ALL times. A minimum of 10, put some in your car, your wallet, jacket and pants pockets. You'll never know when you'll walk by a cute girl that you'll want to give it to.

Trust me, the most random times are the best, so keep them on you at all times even if you're just going to the grocery store or walking your dog.

For The Next 14 Days:

Your goal is to give out eight cards a day for the next 14 days, assuming you start February 1st. If you do it correctly, you'll have approached one hundred and twelve girls some of which you will have asked out on a date and have your phone number.

When was the last time you were able to give our your number to over one hundred girls in two weeks?

Who To Give It To:

Any attractive woman you see, ANYWHERE. Because it is such an easy little gimmick, you can give it to women you pass by on the street, in elevators, at restaurants, in the mall, and of course night clubs and bars.

I've given it to the girl at the drive through window, the hostess at a restaurant and girls at the next table while we were eating and random girls on the street and in the elevator.

What To Say To The Girl:

“Hi, I wanted to give you a valentine’s day card”
“Hi, I know I don’t know you yet, but here.”
“I just had to give this to you”
“Will you be my valentine?”

Or if you’re really shy, just go up say hi, hand it to her and walk away.

What I normally do is just go up to a girl, smile, hand her the card and say this is for you. Then I just shut up, and wait for her to say something. Or other times I'll open as normal and after a few minutes I'll tell her I have a present for her and give her a card. Either way it works FANTASTICALLY, this is the easiest gimmick opener EVER.

Field Tested:

Do you think I would really send you out as sheeps among wolves? Well, maybe.

But I loved this idea so much that I’ve been personally been using every year since 2006. I've had great success with it last year, as well as my personal friends and tons of guys in the pick up community.

What To Do If The Girl Is A Bitch:

If a girl calls you out on it, just admit to it, and say, “Is it really so fucking wrong to want a date on valentine’s day?” And either let her apologize and keep talking to her, or next her. You have 112 opportunities in the next 14 days. Make the most of it.

More Help:

If you need more help, take a bootcamp.

This challenge is seriously as easy as it'll ever get, so if you don't have at least a few dates by valentine's day or if you have trouble approaching, number closing, and getting dates using this method, then there is probably something else wrong with your game that you'll need calibrating with.

For those who don't know, a bootcamp is a three day small group private workshop where the instructor helps you with your strong points and helps you work on your weaknesses. Common exercises include fixing body language, teaching you how to project your voice, make proper eye contact, and when and how to properly touch the girl.

Other exercises include what to say when approaching a girl, what to do if there are guys in the group, and where to take it from there. On all three nights (for Special Bootcamps, the Certified Bootcamps are slightly different) we go out to a bar or a club to practice what you've learned, then we go over your successes as well as figure out what you need to improve on. If anyone is interested I'll be teaching a three day bootcamp next month, you can get more details on the right hand side of my blog.

This is your life, seize the day, and don't put off happiness, sex, and love for another year.

Upcoming bootcamps taught by Johnny Wolf:

Who: Taught by Johnny Wolf
Where: Las Vegas
When: Friday Saturday Sunday March 19th - 22nd 2010
How Much: This is my first EVER bootcamp starting at under $1,000! But only if you book early.
Sign Up: http://jwolfvegas2010.eventbrite.com/

WANNA TAKE THE CHALLENGE AND GET A DATE BY VALENTINE'S DAY?

Go to the forum and reply to the tread to say you're in:
http://www.abcsofattraction.com/community/viewtopic.php?f=58&t=2432

Then come back everyday and report your results!

Good Luck!,
Johnny Wolf

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GoldSea Interviews Asian Playboy, Part 2: Asian Men & Direct Game

In the second part of the GoldSea interview series, I explain the real dilemmas of Asian men in the dating world and how to run "direct game".



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GoldSea Interviews Asian Playboy, Part 1

GoldSea, the largest Asian American website and portal, did an interview with me a while back. Want to know what I was like in high shcool? or what I think of the issues like racism and prejudice that face the Asian man?

Then watch part 1 of this video series!



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Where Some See Crisis, The Exceptional See Solutions (Part 2)

Any time you go out into the field you are bound to run into some difficult situations. However, what separates the exceptional from the mediocre is the ability of the exceptional to transform a crisis into an opportunity.

The exceptional have the mindset of winners.

You have to have balls when you go out into the field because there is always someone out there who will want that woman more than you and will do whatever it takes to get to her.
The exceptional will push themselves to become better at their craft by overcoming challenges and adding it to their ever expanding knowledge of game.

The mediocre will attempt to justify their lack of taking initiative by creating excuses for why they did not pursue the challenges presented.

This fear of taking control of the situation will then drive the mediocre to stay within their comfort zone.

It all boils down to this question: How much and what are you willing to do to get the women you desire?

The best women out there don't settle for mediocre and so you too should not settle for mediocrity.

There is nothing but good that can come from pushing yourself to the limits. You should see every obstacle that comes your way as an opportunity to get a higher reward for the risk that you're taking. Of course, you should always use your common sense when getting into certain interactions.

By this I mean it would be ill advised to go into a mob of 20 guys holding guns just to approach the average looking woman in that group. A less dramatic version of an obstacle could be that an AMOG comes into your set and tries to take the girl from you or a hot woman is across from you on a busy street.

Approaching a mixed set would seem like a daunting task to a person who is accustomed to approaching women who are alone. The reason for this is because they have no prior experience with that type of interaction.

If you overcome enough obstacles you will have the experience necessary to succeed when encountering the same situation again. The reason for why this is important is because you will have a better idea of how to succeed when the situation comes again.

It should also be noted that the women you are approaching can see the effort it took to get to them and will raise your passive value significantly. You have to have balls when you go out into the field because there is always someone out there who will want that woman more than you and will do whatever it takes to get to her.

The highest quality women will always present some kind of obstacle to get to them.

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Skills Drill

When you go out, look for five of the most seemingly difficult sets to approach and approach them. It is up to you to determine which style of game you will utilize to approach this group. The important part is that you get over the fear of approaching a difficult set.

The next step is for you to succeed in making some kind of close at the end of the interaction.

Report your experiences on the forum for critiques.

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Final Dallas Special Bootcamp

I'm chilling at the airport lounge at the moment, waiting for my flight to Dallas.

It's been a long journey, these past 6 years since I started my journey to PUA mastery on January of 2004.

My but time flies, I remember back in the day when I used to rule the Dallas scene. From cold approaching, I was able to build a complete social circle of hot women and naturals totally from scratch.

The good ol' bad days ;)

Well, tomorrow starts what will be my LAST Dallas Special Bootcamp.

There's only ONE (1) spot left, literally.

How long have you waited to take charge of your life?

Don't wait another minute, sign up and empower yourself!

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Clash of Cultural Values: Living with Mom Screws Up Your Game

The modern day American woman needs a man who has life experience, knows how to take care of his own house (or apartment), cook his own food, wash his own laundry, groom himself, and do all the very basic things that non-Asian men in the US have been doing for years.
In traditional Asian society, it's perfectly normal for a grown man (say, for example, all the way up to the age of 40).

You may laugh, but I give you this real life example. When I was in Sydney, Australia, I gave a free seminar. In attendance were about 5 Caucasians and about 40 Asians, all in the mid-20s and 30s, from the college aged to the white collar. Because the topic was Manhood, I asked the audience who still lived with their parents. And do you know how many raised their hands?

100% of all the Asian men said they still lived with mom and dad and NONE of the white guys did.

The reason?

Three traditional Asian values:
  1. Filial piety (following the commands of one's elders)
  2. Saving money held as a higher priority than one's romance life
  3. The belief that if you work hard, girls will come to you
When you live at home with your mom, you fulfill these three traditional Asian values. Now, as wonderful as it is to follow these principles (and reap the many rewards that flow from them) if you live in Asia, this is practically a dating-death-sentence for the Asian American man living here in the US.

I'll explain why this is the case in more detail, but before I do that, let's first spend a moment to understand the meaning, and the implications, of these three traditional Asian values.

First, filial piety where the whole concept here is that you're supposed to do as your parents tell you.

Regardless of what they say, they're right, because their chronological age is greater than yours. Forget about context, maturity, self-awareness, intellect, or even life experience. All of that stuff goes out the window when you're living in old-school Asia. Asia (particularly China, Taiwan, and South Korea) are heavily vested in Confucianism (the school of thought from which these traditional Asian values came).

Under that system, you do what your parents tell you because they did what their parents told them, and their parents did what your great grandparents told them to do. Period. Here in the US, you'd probably want to listen to the advice of someone that you know, trust, and whom you've observed to have pretty decent amounts of context, maturity, self-awareness, intellect, and life experience. But in filial piety, it's assumed that your parents have all that (even if you know that they don't), and you have to follow their lead, like a lemming.

Second, saving money held as a higher priority than one's romance life is a big thing in Asia.

In your parents society, and particularly in your grandparents society (and even MORESO in your great grandparents' society), money, food, clothing, and basic necessities were scarce. So, to cope with that, Asian people did what they did best- work really hard, and save, save, save. Old-school Asia didn't have quite the same modern conveniences and booming economy that America has enjoyed, so that's the mentality that prevailed, and that's how your family, through so many generations, survived.

They've drilled this mentality into you, and thus you now find yourself, a grown man at the age of 35, still living at home with mommy. Women in old-school Asia think that a man who can take care of his finances is attractive, because the priority there is that the man be a salary man, even at the expense of being a total loser.

Third, the belief that if you work hard, girls will come to you.

This is a no-brainer for your parents and your grandparents, because that's how things worked in old-school Asia. You put your head down, didn't make much noise, didn't make a fuss, didn't stand out in any way, followed orders, and your teachers gave you good grades for being respectful and for being obedient. When you got a job, the managers came to YOU if you did those things in the workplace. That's how old-school Asia works.

Why is this a dating-death sentence? In the US, women want a man who is independent, free thinking, and able to take care of himself, because it implies that he can take care of her too. At the ABCs of Attraction, we call this the "Protector of Loved Ones" attraction switch. However, a man who lives at home with mommy is looked down upon by American women as someone who is incompetent and unable to function as a competent male in society.

All this translates into one very important thing:

A man who is saving money by living at home is looked down upon by women here in the US.

Being that American women are slightly more independent and free thinking than those in old-school Asia, they don't care how much money a man has hoarded up and saved by living at home with mommy; she can get her own job and save her own money.

The modern day American woman needs a man who has life experience, knows how to take care of his own house (or apartment), cook his own food, wash his own laundry, groom himself, and do all the very basic things that non-Asian men in the US have been doing for years.

Last, a man who puts his head down, works hard, doesn't cause a fuss, and doesn't assert his individuality (either in his profession, preferences, or passions & hobbies), is extremely unattractive to the modern day American woman. In old-school Asia, just by working hard and being obedient, your massive family of aunts, uncles, and cousins, would bring girls to you, and they'd want to meet you because of your strict adherence to traditional Asian values.

However, here in the US, arranged marriages and setups aren't anywhere near an integrated part of society as they are in Asia, so guess what? You're putting your head down, working hard, and suppressing your individuality for a match-making that is never going to happen :)

Have you moved out of your mom's house? Have you had a fun, adventurous and fulfilling romantic life? If you take a good hard look at your life, are you evolving beyond the above 3 traditional Asian values and fulfilling modern-day American values?

If you answered no to one, some, or all of these questions, your love life may be suffering from a clash of cultural values.

Join us in modern day society by signing up for your 3-day ABCs of Attraction bootcamp today!

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Join Johnny Soporno and I in Vegas!

Vegas, baby, Vegas! It's literally been OVER a year since I've been back to Sin City.

Now while I will be teaching my own Exclusive 1on1 Mentorship there, another incredible event by reknown sex expert and porn star seducer extraordinare Johnny Soporno is being held: The AVN Convention and Soporno's How to Attract Porn Stars weeklong event!

Even our very own Johnny Wolf (read about his awe-inspiring Threesome Lay Report with HBPorn) was interested in seducing these professional beauties and picked up a few tips from Soporno himself.

So if you've ever vaguely entertained the thought of attracting porn stars, then you have to check out Soporno's Worthy Playboy workshop at the AVN Convention this week!

Who knows, I might even stop by for a special guest star appearance...

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Asian Men On Top of The Game

It’s official.

2010 is here, and we have made it to the BIG LEAGUES!

For those who haven’t heard, I have been named as one of the Top 10 Greatest Pickup Artists of 2009 on THUNDERCAT’S SEDUCTION LAIR.

This is the same prestigious list that was mentioned in Neil Strauss bestseller THE GAME!

Your very own Asian Playboy has been ranked alongside Pickup champions like Mystery and Style as one of the best in the business.

Since the list has started since 2003, there have been 60 men named the Top Pick Up Artists...

THIS IS THE FIRST TIME AN ASIAN MAN HAS MADE IT ON THE LIST!!!

If you had any doubts before, put them to rest...

The ABCs of Attraction is HERE TO STAY.

First off, I want to thank Thundercat, and all the loyal followers who have been with us as we overhauled the company and added GROUND-BREAKING new programs that have changed the love lives of hundreds of men.

It’s awesome to start 2010 off with this kind of recognition.

This is a MAJOR milestone for the ABCs of Attraction and we plan to have another great year full of game-changing programs and pickup advice in 2010.

For now, don’t forget to sign up on our forums to get the latest tips and information before anyone else!

Be sure to sign up for our newsletters and keep an eye on your inboxes, because on Wednesday I will be sending out another email with even more exciting information!

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