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Long Term Training for Long Term SUSTAINABLE Growth

During bootcamps, I absolutely LOVE seeing the huge transformation that our wonderful guys go through in those 3 days and 3 nights. It's heart warming to see such massive, positive changes in my students.

It's literally like we're transforming boys into men.

It's 3 days and 3 nights of hard work and hard play. But that's all it is, a weekend transformation. And while our guys get a huge jumpstart, cutting 6 months to even 2 years off their learning curve, it's hard for guys to continually be motivated day in and day out, week after week.

It's also especially difficult for them to calibrate themselves, especially if they don't have a good wingman to help calibrate themselves. So for the longest time, I've always had it in the back of my mind that we- the ABCs of Attraction- should offer long term coaching.

Unfortunately, it really hasn't been practical for me to offer that service due to my incredibly hectic schedule, not only traveling the world conquering city after city with ABCs students and elite alumni, but also running this company, editing promotional instructional videos, developing products, writing, etc.

Until now that is.

With Kevin Feng and Gareth, I've crafted a new program called 12 Weeks of Fury which is designed to help sustain LONG TERM GROWTH over a 12 week period encompassing over 100+ hours worth of training!

And all starting at UNDER $1000!

Seriously, I haven't taught a starter bootcamp for under a grand since 2006. Now's your chance to signup for your first month subscription when our pilot program starts on October 6th.

Feel free to shoot us an email or call us at +1-888-689-GAME if you have any questions!

We want to get you signed up and on your way to personal mastery!

Book now or forever hold your piece!

Labels: 12 Weeks of Fury, Announcement

posted by The Asian Playboy at 9/28/2009 09:50:00 AM | 0 comments links to this post

Job Interview Success Using Your Pick Up Skills, Part 1

"The job market for my particular industry is LOADED with candidates. There are more applicants in my industry than there ever has before, and it has created a situation similar to what you find in night clubs where there are an unlimited supply of male suitors, but only a handful of attractive females. The same principle applies here, and I wanted to differentiate myself as much as possible."
-William

There's a small category of Field Reports on our forums that, in these tough economic times, have been showing up more and more.

It's a prime example of how achieving confidence, turning from a boy into a man, and having a high emotional and social intelligence isn't just limited to attracting beautiful women. That confidence is something that translates into success in ALL types of areas of life from your social life, to family, to friends, and- yes- to business and job interviews.

It's the IR (Interview Report).

So I give you William, who will be teaching with me in New York City this November bootcamp, and his IR as well.

In the next post after this, I'll give you another elite ABCs alumni who just moved to New York and beat out the competition not only for a successful job interview, but also beat out other people for an apartment...

All while using charm, confidence, and personality: the things we teach and embody at the ABCs of Attraction.

Read on (after the jump)!

IR, 7/18/08, multi-national corporation
by William

This is an Interview Report (IR). I have found that the fundamental principles of the ABCs of Attraction are applicable to many areas of my life, including my professional aspirations. I currently have several offers on the table (I am about to choose 1 from these available choices), and I would like to mention here on this forum that part of the reason why I have those choices is due to my consistent application of the ABCs of Attraction principles in ALL aspects of my life.

When I grew up, my family was kind of poor, so I've had to work like a maniac my entire life. Getting fired, getting a bad review, or simply not advancing was not an option for me, as my ability to acquire food to eat depended on it. This started out when I was 15 years old and managed to work my way up from a bus-boy all the way up to floor manager (which only the most trusted and capable individuals ever get to do), and has been a theme that I've consistently worked my ass off for since then as I have navigated myself through various promotions in my professional career. My parents were divorced, so money was that much tighter, and a strong work ethic was not merely a bonus, it was a basic requirement for survival.

So that's a little bit of background on where I'm coming from when I say that the consistent application of the ABCs of Attraction principles are a part of the success I have achieved in acquiring multiple contract & job offers for myself. I've had over a decade of experience in job hunting principles, interviewing principles, corporate ladder climbing, fighting for raises and bonuses, etc., However, I still feel that I had an edge over everyone else in the current job market. I utilized everything I had already known, and added the ABCs on top of it:

A (attract and approach)
The core principle behind this one is that you need to be an attractive male, or in my particular situation, an attractive candidate. I had to already have my resume lined up, and all my major accomplishments fresh in my mind so that I could approach them with the frame of reference that I have something great to offer. On the approach, I sent in my resume and cover letter, but I did something extra-- something that 99.99% of candidates don't do. I proved that I was an attractive candidate by taking 3 specific line items in their job advertisement and correlated them, line by line, in my cover letter, to 3 specific projects I'd previously worked on. First off, that showed that I was an attractive candidate who has lots of things going for him, and second, it showed that I had the presence of mind to be able to form the connection between that experience and their needs in their corporation.

B (buying temperature and banter)
When I met with these guys, I began bantering with them and pumping up their buying temperature. This is the one part that is different from all other previous job searches I've ever conducted in my entire life. Why? I never thought that it was important to show my personality, to show my emotions, and to make the interviewer feel happy and excited. Upon completion of my ABCs of Attraction 3-day seminar bootcamp, I have learned that all humans want to have their emotions influenced by another-- all of us want to feel something. This is true for men more than women, but in the professional interview (and by the way, I would like to note that I have been on about 20+ interviews in the past 2 weeks), I have found that the interviewer (who is usually male), wants to get to know your personality just in the same way that the girl you approach in the night club wants to know your personality. How many times in your life have you ever heard a woman say, "Yeah, I didn't want to see that guy because I just didn't get him." What do you think "get him" means? It means that they couldn't tell what makes you feel happy, sad, excited, humored, etc., They couldn't tell because you didn't use your voice intonation, facial expressions, and vocal pacing to make them feel things. So, in this job interview, I simply bantered about everyday topics (such as the specific location of the corporate office and its nearby surroundings), as well as our industry in general, and how I feel about certain peculiarities of it. That showed the interviewer a side of me (how I feel about these nuances of our industry), it made him feel the same feeling, and it definitely distinguished me from the million other candidates who don't do "B" with their interviewers.

C (comfort and connect)
This was the longest part of the interview, and it lasted a couple of hours. During this part, he was asking me various industry-specific and job-specific details that are particular to my industry. Here is another place where this job interview period in my life is different from any other job interview period I've ever gone through. In any previous job interview period that I've gone through in the past, I have always focused on answering the specific job-related or industry-related questions, and leaving it at that. I would crack open my textbooks, study my ass off, and treat the interview like some kind of final exam from my undergraduate program when I was in college. But these 20+ interviews that I've been going on in the last two weeks are of a completely different nature. I changed. My approach changed. I fuckin' studied my ass off during these two weeks. I cracked open my old college textbooks in order to study up on basic principles that we use in our industry, because in an interview, all of those core principles that I learned 10 years ago are the building blocks for ALL of the problems that we solve in my industry. However, I added one extra thing on top of that which I am certain that no other candidate did, because no other candidates took the ABCs of Attraction 3-day bootcamp seminar and tried to apply the principles as I've done here. The one extra thing that I did was to add an element of comfort and connection into this portion of the interview. Yes, I was asked many questions about those core principles. Yes, my studying helped. Yes, I was doing well in showing that I had the credentials to do the job. But I have realized that the purpose in all the job-specific and industry-specific questioning is so that the interviewer can determine if he is comfortable working with me. So, whenever possible, I would intersperse comfort-building stories into the interview, in-between questions, on a periodic basis.

"comfort building" in an interview is different from "comfort building" when you meet that girl in the night club, but only in the sense that the attraction switches are different. I have found that the attraction switches in corporate life are:

1. A man who can make money for the corporation
2. A man who can save money for the corporation (by detecting inefficiencies in processes or introducing new ways to do things that are more efficient)
3. A man who can save time for the corporation (which makes the interviewer's life easier, because he's usually your boss or your co-worker)

So, in-between the job-specific and industry-specific questions, I simply worked in my DHV stories from my past professional experiences which hit up on these three simple attraction switches. I understand that these attraction switches have almost nothing to do with the attraction switches we learned in our ABCs of Attraction 3-day seminar bootcamps, but the spirit of the "comfort and connect" phase is still the same-- to make the other person feel comfortable having you around (whether it be in a relationship or in a job at a multi-national corporation)

D (direct interest)
Here's where the rubber hits the road, even in job interviews! In the 20+ interviews I"ve had in the last two weeks, I made it a point to express direct interest in the job. This is another thing that is different now than was the case in all other previous job interviews I've been on in the past 10+ years of my life, and this is another part of why I feel I was able to acquire multiple offers for myself only in a span of about 2 weeks: nobody does this! The job market for my particular industry is LOADED with candidates. There are more applicants in my industry than there ever has before, and it has created a situation similar to what you find in night clubs where there are an unlimited supply of male suitors, but only a handful of attractive females. The same principle applies here, and I wanted to differentiate myself as much as possible. So, I made damn sure that I expressed direct interest in getting the job. It was really simple, actually, and was often as simple as just making 1 bold statement after the "C" phase was over. That's often all that was needed to make an impression, and I could clearly see by the interviewers facial expressions and body language that my statement (or statements of direct interest) made an impression.

E (extract and escalate)
The last part of the interview is where they usually ask you if you have any questions. This is where I applied my extract and escalate principles. The questions I asked all pertained to keeping track of the next step in the interview process (the escalation, if you will).

F (fun or fake)
Well guys, when you finally land that job, you have the chance to show that you're a fun guy (i.e., a great candidate), or that you're just a fake candidate who studied for the interview but didn't have any real desire to pursue that job in that industry. It's easy to avoid being fake, in both the professional world as in the dating world. In the professional world, all you have to do is ask questions, learn from your co-workers, study on your own, and excel in your projects. All you have to do is continue adding to your own experience and growing as an asset to the company. Learn new things, share them with others, and fight for your own promotions and bonuses. It's just like the dating world-- even when you get into that long-term relationship (or any kind of relationship), you HAVE to grow and improve yourself at every stage of that relationship every day. Every man should make himself into a better man each day. If you want the girl of your dreams you have to be the best candidate available in the ocean of dudes trying to be with her. Similarly, in my situation here, in order to get the contract of my dreams, all I had to do was to be the best candidate available in the ocean of people vying for those contracts. Yes, having all of my vast experience was helpful and 100% applicable, but the addition of the ABCs of Attraction principles really helped me get that extra edge.

-Man Cannon

Labels: Interview Report, Pick Up Artist Tips

posted by The Asian Playboy at 9/23/2009 06:59:00 AM | 0 comments links to this post

Every Man Dreams of a Second Chance

When he turned 29, he resolved to leave his hometown, move back to Asia, have his cousins introduce him to someone overseas, and live out the rest of his life there.

In short, he gave up.

I'm going to tell you the story of an Asian American man.

He grew up a major metropolitan center in the US. His parents were divorced when he was pretty young, and being that his family was never really well off financially in the first place, this situation forced him to enter the work force when he was 15.

He worked his ass off to help pay for groceries and other basic life necessities, and developed a pretty good work ethic-- the work ethic that his mother lived her life with, and the very same work ethic which she expected of him and hung over his head relentlessly.

Being unable to afford college tuition, he had to work 30 hours per week in order to pay for the diploma which his mother coveted, and which he was obliged to acquire out of duty to his family. "If I could only get through college, I could get a stable job and finally not have to worry about money."

So he put his head down, did what needed to be done, and paid his way through college. He got the job that he was looking for, and climbed the corporate ladder to get himself a nice fat paycheck, a healthy savings account, a nice apartment and even a retirement plan.

He had everything he thought he wanted, until he woke up at the age of 29 and had no women in his life, and practically no A-game when it came to meeting ladies.

More on that later (after the jump)...

Second chances are special because you don't often get them.

Can you remember the time that you let that hot-looking woman pass you by, and you just stood there, speechless, and completely frozen, unable to go up to her and confidently say, "Hi" ? What about that girl that you sat across the room from in freshman Bio... a whole semester went by, you didn't have the nerve to ask her out on a date.

Then, when she returned to campus after winter break, you discovered that she found a new boyfriend back home during the break. Or that time that you were "hanging out" with a girl that you liked, and the vibe was there, and she was alone with you, but instead of going in for the kiss or showing your direct romantic interest in her, you chickened out and just gave her a hug?!

Situations like these are gut wrenching because they leave you feeling helpless-- almost as if there's nothing you can do about it. That's what the guy in the first paragraph thought, and when he turned 29, he resolved to leave his hometown, move back to Asia, have his cousins introduce him to someone overseas, and live out the rest of his life there. In short, he gave up.

Luckily, while he was there, he received an email message from one of his friends who was in the middle of taking an ABCs of Attraction bootcamp, and the romantic adventures and success that ensued.

Looking at this as a way to have a second chance at what he had failed at for his whole life, he took the bootcamp, found the romance he was looking for, and is now one of my best bootcamp instructors in the New York area.

If you had a second chance to really relive your life, wouldn't you take it?

When you begin your 3-day ABCs of Attraction bootcamp you become part of something larger than yourself. You become a part of something great. And greatness, no matter how brief, stays with a man.

Every man dreams of a second chance, and this is your chance to live it.

Click here to sign up!

Labels: 10 Pillars of Inner Strength

posted by The Asian Playboy at 9/20/2009 11:42:00 PM | 3 comments links to this post

Start Your 12 Weeks of Fury Bootcamp for UNDER $1000!

Attention: Ladies and Gentlemen! Boys and Girls!
(Okay, probably just gentlemen and maybe some rogues!)

At the ABCs of Attraction, we really try to build relationships with our students and truly do care about their progress and wellbeing. For years, we've been proud of our pre-bootcamp activities and our post-bootcamp follow-ups and relationships.

How many Pick Up companies do you know that have alumni dinners just for the sake of hanging out with our former students?

One fine, sunny, Southern California day, one of my coaches and I took a client out to lunch at a little Sushi place in Sunset Plaza near ye olde Project Hollywood.

We were all discussing his possible enrollment in one of our bootcamps, when he expressed how useful it would be for him if we have a long-term training program that would keep honing his pickup skills in just the same way that a personal trainer keeps you focused on your progress and encourages your growth by teaching you new exercises when you're at the gym. We discussed some possible options with the client, referring him to our 1-on-1 bootcamps and assuring him that we'd consider it further.

After parting ways, Gareth and I (with some prodding by our resident TV celebrity, Kevin Feng) put our heads together and really made sparks fly.

This client was absolutely right!

Virtually no Pick Up companies as reputable as the ABCs are offering 1-on-1 coaching and, while bootcamps are a great way to get started in the field and teach people amazing skills to meet and attract women, there is no better way to improve and refine skills than with a personal mentor right there with you every step of the way.

With this in mind, we designed The 12 Weeks of Fury: an intensive, long-term program set up to build a bond with the client and to personally monitor his progress through weekly and biweekly meeting.

Our clients start with a special, discounted mid-week bootcamp to get the ball rolling.

Not since 2006 have my bootcamps been UNDER $1000!

The bootcamp covers everything you need to know in a compact and discounted format. After that, the client has additional theoretical and in-field training via 1-on-1 meetings with both my certified coaches and myself. These meetings monitor progress and assist with any difficulties as well as offer new information to the student as he progresses.

They can be purchased in monthly packages or all up-front as the student sees fit.

And our first class starts on October 6th!

At the ABCs of Attraction, we really try to build relationships with our students and truly do care about their progress and wellbeing. For years, we've been proud of our pre-bootcamp activities and our post-bootcamp follow-ups and relationships.

How many Pick Up companies do you know that have alumni dinners just for the sake of hanging out with our former students?

I don't know of ANY other than us.

Keeping these ideals in mind, we'd like to invite you to take a look at the detailed description of our 12 Weeks of Fury program, along with the FAQs posted on the bottom of the page.

Head on over to http://12weeksoffury.eventbrite.com/ and sign up before we run out of slots in the coming months!

Allow us to customize a 12 week bootcamp course and monthly coaching subscription to address, confront, and CONQUER all your confidence, dating, and pick-up obstacles!

The ONLY drawback to the 12 Weeks of Fury is that there are so many of YOU and so few of US!

If you have questions, contact me here with a list of your concerns that we can tackle.

Get a head start and jump over the competition by signing up before the start of class on October 6th!

Labels: 12 Weeks of Fury, Announcement

posted by The Asian Playboy at 9/17/2009 01:44:00 AM | 1 comments links to this post

All Secrets Revealed on Sept 19th by Johnny Wolf

Johnny Wolf is giving away all the secrets of pick up and how to get good, for practically free this weekend.

Since he's only going to be here for a few weeks in the U.S. and won't be teaching another bootcamp until 2010, he's decided to give away as much as he can in knowledge in two hours.

NOTHING will be held back, and you will learn your twenty five bucks worth guaranteed.

He's just trying to pay for the seminar room and some expenses, and his goal is to blow your mind, making you go home thinking,

"If I learned all that in two hours. I wonder how much I will learn if I go to the PUA Summit or take a bootcamp next year?!"

Don't miss this opportunity, it won't come again.

SIGN UP NOW!
http://jwolfseminar.eventbrite.com/

Labels: Announcement, Johnny Wolf

posted by The Asian Playboy at 9/15/2009 05:24:00 PM | 0 comments links to this post

Building Attraction through Storytelling DVD is Back in Supply

After a supply shortage in DVDs (my apologies to everyone who's been emailing the office about the Storytelling DVDs being sold out), "Building Attraction through Storytelling" is now BACK on the shelves and available.

Get them while they're still hot!

Finally, here's another review of the DVDs:

Review: Storytelling DVD

My purpose in getting the DVD is to develop storytelling has a cornerstone in my game. I want to apply passionate story telling not only to beautiful women, but to anyone who I want to create and build a rapport with. And I’ll continue to learn and refer to it in my personal and spiritual journey in life.

Overall the DVD is fun, informative, engaging, and worthwhile viewing. Something that I recommend to budding PUAs who wish to express their communication skills by storytelling.

-Vision

Labels: Building Attraction through Storytelling, DVD Reviews

posted by The Asian Playboy at 9/13/2009 07:26:00 PM | 0 comments links to this post

Johnny Wolf San Francisco Bootcamp Review Round Up

As you know, Johnny Wolf is also holding a Vegas bootcamp at the same time that I'm here in Paris, making this the first ABCs of Attraction simultaneous intercontinental bootcamp.

Pictures from the SF and Paris bootcamp are now up at the ABCs of Attraction Facebook Fan Page for you to check out.

Also, reviews have started pouring in from satisified clients who took Johnny Wolf's Limited Edition San Francisco 2009 bootcamp.

Read how some of the Wolf Wisdom changed their lives and how the ABCs transforms boys into men!

SF Bootycamp
I'm 30 and I signed up for the bootcamp because even though theory is good--reading PUA books are good--the only way you get better is use your knowledge and apply it in the field. Johnny and his team push you in the field and make sure you get experience in the field.

Another thing is that a lot of Asian or Asian-Americans have certain limiting beliefs--we're too short, too passive, we're beta males and so forth. ABCs have the unique perspective of being Asian/Asian-American so they know what's in your head and how you can get out of it.

Lectures and exercises were insightful and though the practice exercises were hard for me. But they made sense and were beneficial.

Field work was good and the debriefs were awesome--they always gave me constructive critiques that will help me in the future.
-Rockstar27

SF bootcamp
this was my first ABC bootcamp and it was one of the most excruciating 3 days of my life. 3 days of internal struggles, facing my worst fears, and nerve wrecking growth.

overall ---- i was scared shitless and couldn't sleep for 3 days but i finally discovered what was missing from my game at my current level. (mainly compliance tests and bantering skills)...

absolutely recommend. even if ur not super serious about pickup and just want to improve ur overall social skills, the bootcamp will give u a blue print to follow and a serious advantage over those who have not been exposed to it.
-JOJOBIZ

Labels: Johnny Wolf, Reviews

posted by The Asian Playboy at 9/12/2009 01:41:00 AM | 0 comments links to this post

Los Angeles (June-July) Bootcamp Review Line Up

I'm flying off to Paris this morning. Essentially, I have one plane ticket to Paris, one plane ticket to Oslo (Norway), one ticket to Copenhagen (Denmark), one Backpacker's Guide to Europe, and absolutely NO PLAN.

This is going to be legendary...

Follow my many (mis)adventures and see them in their full technicolor glory on my Facebook page!

Anyways, before I go, here's the latest Bootcamp Roundup (June to July) for Los Angeles, and remember, there's still time to get $300 with the Early Bird discount for LA's December Special Bootcamp.

So read on to see what others have experienced and what YOU can expect:

LA Bootcamp Reflection (Jun 09)
I never have a girlfriend in my life, let alone experience with women is near zero! I grew up with girls constantly making fun of how ugly I was (suck!). Although I’ve moved to US for a while, I still can’t speak English fluently due to my prior anti-social attitude! I didn’t even know that I had been in depression till my college adviser insisted me to seek counseling. That was when it hit me that I need some serious HELP! So talking about anxieties, guys, I have a ton! I started getting inspirations from reading others’ triumph over oneself in PU forums.
-loveseeker

Los Angeles Bootcamp July 10 - 12, 2009
The three-day bootcamp was intense!!! Sitting through 4 – 5 hours of lecture and applying this information immediately in the field was exhausting. The bootcamp was not just about collecting pickup knowledge. It was focused on applying what we learned immediately in real-life situations. This course is not for those who are not willing to follow instruction, take action, and receive constructive criticism.
-hiroller

L.A boot camp Experience (June09)
The first portion of the boot camp was more oriented towards the approach and a woman’s buying temperature. I found this part of the lecture to be exceptionally valuable due to the fact that one of my sticking points is the approach. Luckily, JT went in depth about how to properly approach a girl (big smile, good posture) and even went as far as to have all of his students (7 of us) perform approaches on one of his model friends.
-nineteen

LA Bootcamp recap June 5th-8th
The end result has been decidedly different and I can confidently say I have made good friends and a community I never thought I needed. But now, I am finding this community, the PUA community to be a niche I can rely on and feel geniune brotherhood. For that, I must thank you. If it weren't for your open attitude and steadfast patience, I don't think I would've walked away from the bootcamp with this impression.
-AznBaySensation

Labels: Los Angeles, Reviews

posted by The Asian Playboy at 9/09/2009 03:29:00 AM | 0 comments links to this post

Sydney, Australia Bootcamp Review Line Up

Instead of posting each review individually (our forums are literally overflowing with bootcamp reviews including myself, Johnny Wolf, William, Kevin Feng, etc), I thought I'd just round them up in one big line-up for your reading edification and basically to save time.

These are ALL the reviews from the Sydney bootcamps in July, including all positive and whatever negative comments, unedited and uncensored.

I take great pride in the fact that the ABCs of Attraction has more positive bootcamp reviews than programs held. We built our reputation of quality and integrity through word of mouth and the loyalty of people just like you.

Our upcoming and LAST Australian bootcamps are coming up to coincide the the Australian version of the PUA Summit, the Attraction Master Class!

My personal thanks to all of our awesome students who sent in their review. Now read on!

july 2009 SYDNEY bootcamp FR highlights (part 1/3)

I am a beginner so everything is new to me, some of the concepts the instructors spoke about, I wasn't familar with and it took some time to actually absorb the material. Even when you think you understand the theory, it is meaningless until you can actually execute it in field.
-Xavster

Sydney Bootcamp review-July 2009

Finally I have some time to write about my experiences on the Sydney boot camp. Well, what I can say besides “WOW”! We were very fortunate to have the 3 big guns of the ABCs camp coming down under to Sydney; JT, Johnny Wolf and William. That was awesome. I’ve had so many great experiences with this boot camp that I will bore you all with my rambling. I’ll try to keep it brief...
-dangar

July 2009 Bootcamp - Sydney

This Bootcamp was definitely very special to me. With JT, Johnny Wolf and William all appearing to teach us the arts of seduction was definitely worth every penny. I never really had any proper role models to learn from.

Having a complete structure allows me to understand where I am with the women I am interacting with. I know which sections I will need to improve on and having better preparation will definitely help me better in the field in the future.
I would like to say special thanks to the ABC instructors.
-LordShamino

Review: Syd ABC Bootcamp Jul 09

The bc is highly recommended for those who are committed or want to be committed to picking up but don’t know how. Have you learned the game, gone out to practice and got small results? Or feels like you been plateauing for a few months/years, ur wingmen have ditched you, but u don’t want to give up but don’t know how you can improve further? Have you ever thought, I'll get more practice and will get better, but months and even years have gone by and still procrastinating but the motivation is still there? If this is you, then delay buying that laptop or game console and put the deposit down for a bootcamp!
-d3rek

Sydney Boot Camp July 09 - Review and FRs

After all that, I wouldn't say I was shocked by the whole experience as I knew what I was in for. I would say that though, my AA is definitely gone down by a whole load. I now know exactly what is wrong and what is right with myself. I can now improve on what I am deficient in. When I am in an interaction I know what stage of the ABC model I am in and whether I am doing things right or wrong. This is great as after an interaction, I don't have to kill myself wondering where I went wrong.
-jamestopdog

Video Testimonial

Labels: Reviews, Sydney

posted by The Asian Playboy at 9/07/2009 01:04:00 AM | 1 comments links to this post

Fashion & Hair Style Advice for Asian Men

The female eye structure has more “P cells” that analyze texture and color and are naturally drawn to the color red than most other colors.

TSBMagazine justed posted a PUA Summit preview interview with me so go and check out the article. Remember, there are only 20 tickets left to the "Superbowl of Pick-Up" so get them while you still can!

Here are some of the questions I answered:

Question 1: What “universal” fashion tips can you recommend to a man looking to become more stylish?
Question 2: Do you have any good exercise or techniques for destroying “approach anxiety?”
Question 3: Is there any “one thing” you learned that really had a big impact on your success?

In ancient Japan, the children of samurai would undergo a rite-of-passage into manhood called Genpuku. The boy-turned-man was given a new name, adult clothes, and a new hairstyle to mark his introduction into adulthood.

In modern times, without this ritualized process or an identifiable positive male role model in the media, Asian American men have a hard time identifying with an adult, masculine figure. Many still maintain the hair and clothes of their childhood and thus do not commonly fall into any sexual archetypes that a non-Asian woman would find herself being attracted to.

I cannot count the times when a student came into my bootcamp and he was wearing the EXACT same haircut and exact same clothes that he wore in highschool. Half the problem Asian men face dating in today's society is what we do to ourselves and is, fortunately, 100% solveable.

The most generic haircut that I see Asian men sporting are:

The Chilli-Bowl Haircut: I had this myself because my parents were too poor to take me to get a haircut so they cut my hair themselves to save money. It looks exactly like the name says, that someone put a bowl over your head and cut around in a circle.
The Penis Head: This is supposed to be the Asian variation of the surfer haircut, but actually just ends up looking totally FOBBY and the head of a circumsized penis.
The Q-Tip: This is the buzzcut look taken when the Asian man either joins the military or is so fed up with the hassle of finding a decent hairstyle, that he buzzes the side and does a fade with spikes on the top.
The Dragon Ball Z: Actually, this isn't generic and props for the Azn kids for trying something different, but they have to burn through an elephant sized tub of gel and create a hole in the ozone with how much hair spray they have to use.

And don't get me started on the black and gray uniform.

So here are my tips for Asian guys to raise your sexual and passive value through fashion and hairstyle after the jump:

1. Wear fitted clothes: You see that line at the shoulder of your shirt where the sleeve is sewed onto the torso of your shirt? That’s called the “break” and it should lay ontop of where you bend your shoulder. If it’s over the shoulder and not lying on your shoulder joint, it’s too big and baggy.

Also, spend the extra $20 to tailer any cool blazers that you have, it’ll pay dividends in making you look more rakish and fit (even as the vest hides your beer belly or the jacket gives you the illusion of broader shoulders).

2. Add color to your look: You want to avoid bland colors while having an overall color coordinated look. Color is very important, especially in a dark, night club where the dark colors like grey and black blend into the background.

By adding color, you’ll stand out from the crowd. Now, the female eye structure has more “P cells” that analyze texture and color and are naturally drawn to the color red than most other colors. Throw in the fact that people assume that other people who wear red are outgoing, confident, and sexual, you have a winning combination.

This could be as simple as a red tie and hankerchief to a red hat or do the Blood Hawk, which gets to my next point.

3. Have sexy hair: Get rid of the chilli-bowl haircut or whatever hairstyle that you’ve had since childhood. It’s time to grow up and wear a man’s set of hair. For Asian men, it’s always been a struggle finding a really cool hairstyle. Probably the most “one size fits all” that will work for Asian men’s hair is the faux hawk.

I started doing the faux hawk in 2005 and then I added the color red to make it the (in)famous Blood Hawk. I’ve also gone the other extreme of not caring too much about my hair and letting it grow shaggy and mulletish. The difference in women’s reaction between the two could not be more night and day. Trust me, there is a HUGE amount of passive and sexual value when you present yourself with a hairstyle that shows that you pay attention.

Finally, I try to go for a more MACHOSEXUAL rather than METROSEXUAL look. That’s a preference and more than what I intend to answer in the short time here, but you can check out my article on that here.

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Labels: Asian Hair, Fashion, Interview, Pick Up Artist Tips

posted by The Asian Playboy at 9/04/2009 05:02:00 PM | 1 comments links to this post

Dear Asian Playboy: "How do I get a date in high school?"

hi. my name is "anonymous bob". and im about 16. i have studied and read about everything on the computer possible from adam lyons to the mysterymethod. and i am just having trouble actually like going out and doing the stuff. i think its my social anxiety and just fear of the approach. i need the commitment. any tips?

- Anonymous Bob

Hey Anonymous Bob...

Way cool that you've been reading all that you can as that's super important and it's going to put you way ahead of the game , but remember that the knowledge is only 20%. Wayne Gretzky famously said that "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take" and that applies perfectly here. I would be willing to bet that you that you are actually psyching yourself out on most occasions and that, since you're not obeying the three second rule, you're not getting any results at all.

Being your age in high school is really difficult and, to be completely honest, the social circle there is really fucked up. Everyone is trying so hard to do what's cool and be popular and be friends with the right people and they're missing the point. High school is the toughest environment you will ever have to be in and I give you props for showing up every day.

If I could go back in time, back to high school, I would follow a specific protocol.

First, I would work on my own self-esteem. Everyone in high school doubts who they are and how 'cool' they are and how many friends they have, but almost the second you step out into the real world, you realize that you are the most important person in your life and that all you can do is be good to people and try to better yourself at all times and that just by doing those things and not getting so caught up in what other people think of you.

Once you come to those realizations (and I recommend a book called "Way of the Peaceful Warrior" by Dan Millman that I read when I was about your age), you will be able to be friends with anyone and get to pick and choose the type of people you keep in your life.

Now for the depressing part; A lot of techniques from The Game apply to women that have reached their sexual peak and are more secure individuals (though, in some cases, they're not), so a lot of the Single Night Lay stuff is a bit ambitious and doesn't really apply. What I would recommend is working on making a great group of friends and pulling the people that are worthwhile into it.

You can go out and play lasertag or go to arcades and have a big group of people all there because of you and it will make you look like a KING! Being your age is about learning and making friends and having fun, so don't worry too much about sex and relationships right now. However, your social anxiety does affect your ability to function at school, so here's what I'll say about that:

Remember that approach anxiety is broken into two parts, the anxiety that you have from fear of failure (especially in such a small situation like a highschool) where if you say the wrong thing to the wrong girl, it'll get around to all her friends, and the fear of the uncertain, whether or not you will succeed or fail in your interaction.

The other type of anxiety is the anxiety that will always be there, the kind that is just about doing new things and meeting new people, this type of anxiety will never go away and we just have to learn to deal with it; to accept it as a part of us and not let it let us affect us. Believe me, that's easier said than done.

What we can do to rid ourselves of the approach anxiety (AA, as you know it) is to be confident that we are becoming truly worthwhile people (like I mentioned before). The better we feel about ourselves, the more people will like us and the less we will worry about what they think about us. Also, you just have to DO IT! Go out there and talk to people, be social and start conversations with people on the bus or in the store or at the mall.

The more you sit on your computer and read, the more afraid you're going to be to actually interact with people because you will start overthinking it. All you gotta do is start doing it. Tomorrow, I want you to talk to 5 people you've never talked to before, whether it be new kids at school or people in the store or at the skatepark or whatever. Trust me, they may be weird, but no one is going to stab you or shoot you. Just be friendly and interested and things will go well, I promise.

So, to recap, start making friends. Don't worry about who thinks they are too cool to talk to you, just be nice, interested, hold your own, and remember that by making these steps to be a cool, friendly, intelligent person, you're already at the top of your class.

Good luck!

Labels: A - Attitude Attract and Approach, Approach Anxiety, Dear Asian Playboy

posted by The Asian Playboy at 9/02/2009 01:27:00 PM | 6 comments links to this post