WHAT: "King of the Hill" is a PUA (pick up artist) drill that can be played safely at home with your wingmen and female friends. Test both your AMOG Defense and AMOG Offense in the face of increasingly more difficult cockblocks, douchebags, and AMOGs.

HOW: Learn how to deal with AMOGs using the ABCs of Attraction B.I.T. AMOG Destroyers. BIT is an acronym that stands for:

B - Befriend
I - Ignore
T - Tool

Each phase has multiple tactics that you can use in order to keep him off guard and disengaged.

WHO:
1) The "King of the Hill": You start off with the Target
2) The "Target" (or girlfriend): Assume that this is either a female friend that you brought to the club or a girl that you've already approached and have here somewhat (not heavily) invested into you. In the demo, it is a girl, but you can use anyone ;)
3) Douchebags/AMOGs: They come in one at a time. Increase the difficulty by coming at the same time either together (as a pair of wingmen or more) or they can come in separately as if they don't know each other.

RULES:
1) AMOGs cannot use more than incidental kino. Ergo, the opponents trying to knock the King off the hill cannot use aggressive kino on either the Target or the King. In real life, that kind of kino takes either high calibration or will, more than likely, cause a fight. Only slight touching/turning by the ones playing the AMOGs.

2) The King cannot push away the AMOGing douchebags. Again, this is not something you would encounter in real life or, if you did, it would start a fight.

3) Take turns. Everyone should have at least a full round of being the King.

4) Competition is fun. Whoever knocks the King off the Hill, ie the AMOG who successfully dislodges the "Target" away from the King without using excessive kino, is now the NEW King and a new round starts.

Will YOU be the new "King of the Hill?" Try it with some friends and find out!

NOTE: This video was taken during an ABCs of Attraction bootcamp and unscripted. We did not know how they would be coming in and responded on the fly.

Labels: AMOG BIT Destroyers, King of the Hill, Video

I’ve got a big surprise for you!

A while back when I was teaching a Sydney Bootcamp, I did an interview with Alex and Jack from Succeed at Dating.

Recently, they gave me access to a FREE video of Alex picking up a stunning brunette on the street, in the middle of the day...

And the video impressed me with it's instructional and real nature.

You get to watch on hidden camera video as Alex approaches this woman and starts a conversation.

But let me warn you...

THINGS DO NOT GO SMOOTHLY

A few minutes into the conversation this woman says...

"Sorry, I've got to go now, bye." And starts to walk off!

But then, amazingly, Alex says a few magic words, and manages to keep the conversation going...

WHAT HAPPENS NEXT SHOCKED ME...

Even after all the resistance she gives him he still manages to...

>> Get her phone number in under 4 minutes

>> Take her on an "instant date" for coffee right on the spot!

Want to know the best part?

HE GETS HER FEEDBACK - ON VIDEO!

That's right! After Alex has gotten her number and taken her on an "instant date" he then turns to her and says ...

"See that guy over there? He's a friend of mine who has been filming us"...

You should see the look on her face!

And then ... after all that ... she agrees to give her honest thoughts about being "picked up" on camera.

Go here to watch the FREE video now as well as watch the Asian Playboy Interview.

Labels: Live Sarge Video, Succeed at Dating

The way we view ourselves may not always be congruent with how people view us. The reasons for this are because everybody has a different interpretation of another person's character based on certain factors like outer appearance, social tendencies, and demeanor.

However, a man can exude his confidence in numerous ways that can not be mistaken for anything else (if done properly). This can be accomplished by attaining passive value and sexual attraction.


Passive value is essentially how attractive you are based on how you PRESENT YOURSELF. Like passive income (if you've read Robert Kiyosaki), it is value and attraction WORKING FOR YOU even when you're not actively engaged in gaming, flirting, or talking to someone.

It is constant and always on, 24/7, drawing women to you like the gravitational pull of a giant sun.

This can include your fashion, physical appearance, social proof (who you're around) and body language. Your passive-value is not demonstrative of your worth as a person but it is a representation of yourself to others.

Attaining high passive value is important because it elicits general attraction from others which in turn can escalate to sexual attraction. The better you present yourself to others is also conducive to attracting a higher quality woman.

The following 4 sub-categories (Fashion, Physical Appearance, Social Proof, & Body Language) can help you increase your passive value.


In the past it was seen as an effeminate trait to focus on your fashion. However, in this day and age you can still have good fashion sense and still maintain your masculinity. In regards to fashion, you should choose clothing that is congruent with who you are.

A general rule of thumb is that you should wear clothes that fit you well and give you a triangular shape in which your shoulders would be the base of the triangle. There are different attractive male archetypes with certain fashion attributes but it's up to you to choose which look you are aiming for.

Remember, your fashion is an extension of yourself and if you have nothing that shows any personality then that will most likely be interpreted to others as you not having any personality either.


We're all born a certain way and some things are just simply unavoidable. However, it would be naive to say that your physical attractiveness is not a factor in evaluating passive-value. Good looking guys will still have higher passive-value than a not so good looking guy.

You can do things like:

1. Get a tan to look athletic
2. Wear motorcycle boots for the masculine, badboy look & an extrainch of height
3. Put product (not gel) in your hair
4. Throw in a splash of color (like red) somewhere in your wardrobe
5. Always wear fitted clothes!

In any case you should try your best to work on what you do have going for you. You have the option of working out to become physically fit, clearing your acne (although this is difficult, it can be done if you have a severe case of acne), and regularly grooming yourself.


Who you are around is exemplary of your social value. People have a way of determining what kind of person you are by who you surround yourself with. If a man is with a group of attractive women it would be determined that the man is most likely appealing to other women as well.

If a man is socializing with everyone at a social gathering in a positive manner then it would be determined that this man is likeable or has some social status which draws people to him. The concept of social proof is similar to a high school setting in which the, "cool" kids hang out with the other, "cool" kids.

Of course, you're most likely not in high school anymore, but people often times the people you associate with are indicative of your social status.

Generally, men with high social status are viewed as attractive by women.


70% of all communication is non-verbal. That is why your body language can be interpreted as confident or meek which in turn influences your level of attractiveness by women. Your posture, how you walk, the way you move, and even the way you sit can convey a lot about how confident you appear.

Everything you do non-verbally is how everything you're feeling on the inside is telegraphed to others. When you watch, "James Bond" films and compare his body language to someone like David Spade you will intuitively notice the difference in who appears more confident.

At the ABCs of Attraction we teach BLP (Body Language Positioning) which is an action that requires the man to move the woman around in a confident manner allowing himself to be more intimate with her without distraction.

Confident body language can be taught and when applied it will dramatically raise your passive value.


Active value is essentially your verbal attraction (which we talked about in a previous newsletter). This is your ability to utilize the verbal attraction aspect of your holistic game in such a way that it raises your active value. This is where you get an opportunity to let your personality shine.

Even though you may have interesting things to say, if you are unable to present it properly you will not gain much attraction points. Alternatively, what you say is equally as important because this is where you will be able to show what makes you who you are. Along with your passive value, your active value should also be congruent with who you are.

In the end, you are presenting yourself in a confident and holistic package.


With high passive and active value comes general attraction. People are drawn to other people who are confident and do so in a positive way. When you have general attraction however, it does not mean you also have sexual attraction.

It just means that you are someone that people like. In some ways your passive value can generate some sexual attraction, but your active value is what will create the sexual attraction. To convey to a woman through sexual conversation and smooth kino escalation that you are interested in her sexually is what will lead you to something more intimate.

Ultimately your outer confidence is something that you have control over and can change. You are judged by your actions. When you put yourself in the most positive light by increasing your passive and active value women will naturally be drawn to you.

RELATED POSTS:

• The 10 Pillars of Inner Strength (Holistic Game, Part 3)
  
• The 6 Attributes of Verbal Attraction (Holistic Game, Part 2)
• What is Holistic Game? (Holistic Game, Part 1)
• Get an EDGE over Good Looking Naturals Everywhere! by Showtime
• [PICS] 5 Tips to Gain Social Proof & Passive Value

Labels: A - Attitude Attract and Approach, Body Language

Ever wonder why some Asian guys score and others fail in the dating scene?

It sure is easy to chalk failure up to racism, different backgrounds and cultures, “not from the same world” and all that gibberish. The truth of the matter is that it’s not “Asians” that are failing—it’s men that are failing. Most of the Asian men that are out there failing to get phone numbers are men that would be rejected regardless of their race and looks.

That’s not to suggest that race has nothing to do with it. Of course, people are going to notice what race we are and what we look like. The problem happens when people start making an issue of race, and for the most part, the problem starts not with the datable women that are rejecting you—but with you.

The biggest problem in interracial dating is that a lot of Asian men seem to talk themselves out of going after the women they really want.


Maybe they lack self confidence, or maybe they’re afraid of rejection. This is what you call a self limiting belief. If your beliefs result in you becoming fearful, shy or too nervous to approach beautiful white women (or Latina or black or whatever) then you have already doomed yourself to failure. You gave up on yourself before you even allowed yourself the chance to succeed!

Now let’s not be fallacious about race. There are definitely some women out there who will admit that Asian men are not their racial preference.


Is it the media or the nationalistic beliefs of our countries? Or is it just the social standards that have been forced upon us?

That subtle racial bias could come from anywhere. The point is that it doesn’t matter. It’s time to get over it. It’s time for women to get over it, and more importantly, it’s time for you to get over it.

From now on, you’re not going to ignore your feelings for women, regardless of their race. You’re not oblivious to racial differences. On the other hand, you are going to concentrate on breaking down these boundaries and getting what you want.

The simple reason why some Asian guys score and others fail is because some guys don’t allow themselves the honor of following their heart. As soon as you discover what it is you want, it’s time to pursue the goal and start winning.

RELATED POSTS:

• Sticking Points of Asian Men in Dating White Women, Part 1
• Asian American PUAs vs FOBBY Asian PUAs
• How to Pull a White Girl into Your Asian World
• A Real Solution to the Asian American Interracial Dating Disparity
• Teaching Inexperienced Students by Johnny Wolf

Labels: Interracial Dating Disparity, Pick Up Artist Tips

There's a reason why you're on this website.

However you arrived here, you are at a critical point in your life.

Maybe you just broke up with your girlfriend and want to find a better one. Maybe you figured out that the strategy you had for meeting girls in college isn't quite working out too well these days. Maybe you're just curious.

You see, out of the thousands of people who come here everyday, everyone- including YOU- bring with them their own unique interests, curiosity, and needs. There are, however, certain common themes among Asian men that the ABCs of Attraction is best suited to address. Having taught multiple hundreds of Asian Americans (as well as Asian men who were raised on every continent except Africa and Antarctica), and being a 5' 6" Asian American man myself, I understand the unique perspective that an Asian man experiences.

As the most trusted source for dating and pick-up advice for Asian men, I am going to be straight up and honest with you by telling you that my original motivation when I started this blog was purely selfish. Because my life before my transformation was socially limited (if not outright stunted) and bereft of any women, I went on a mission to to fill my life with as many beautiful women as humanly possible.

Like a dying man to water, I literally drowned myself in the bosoms of as many buxom, blonde beauties as I could with nary a care in the world.

There were no noble goals beyond that. In fact, I never intended to make any money out of this and the thought that I would be professionally teaching houndreds of men around the world was ludicrous. I just wanted to have fun with a plethora of beautiful women and I did. It was probably one of the most amazing times of my life.

Until one day I experienced another transformation that was even more profound.

You see, I received a phone call from a Chinese Canadian mother. She reached out to me and offered to fly me out and pay for my services if I would only help socialize her son. A son who had been picked on by Neo-Nazis his entire life. I was absolutely floored and humbled that someone would come to me with this personal a problem. More than that, I was both honored and determined. And do you know what my reply was?

"Ma'am, for 3 days and 3 nights, I'm going to be the Big Brother he never had."

And that's literally how I got started.

Not because I created a company with an eye to make money, not because I advertised my services, or wrote an ebook to sell or hocked my services on forums. No.

One day, out of the blue, people just started coming to me for help. Through my many adventures and misadventures both, men around the world had been shown a living, breating, shining example of a sexually successful, confident Asian male. That even when you're an average looking, short, nerdy Asian guy like myself- to put it as succinctly as possible- then ANYONE can learn how to be more confident and successful with women.

In other words, if I can do it, so can YOU!

And that's been my primary motivation ever since then:


You see, typically, an Asian American man is raised with traditional Asian values that are in direct conflict with western values. Such conflicts often cause limiting self-beliefs, which ultimately can be disastrous for one's romantic pursuits. (Example: "Um... I could never date a white women because they think we all have small dicks.")

And other problems are going to arise due to the Social Isolation effect of being an immigrant (or offspring of immigrants) and not being as exposed to social situations that other, more mainstream people go through in their formative, younger years.

And, obviously, there are certain things that only a person like me, who has grown up with the same background and experience as you, is going to understand. You have to be smarter, you have to be faster, and you have to GAME harder in order reach the peaks of success.

So when I- or one of my instructors- teach a bootcamp, we begin by teaching you the structured and revolutionary ABCs of Attraction Model. This simple model is guaranteed to blow you away in how remarkably INTUITIVE and easy it is to both learn and implement.

It takes only 3 days to learn, but a lifetime to master.

I'm also going to give you the tools necessary to become a more successful, sexually confident Alpha male. And I do this by addressing the problems in a Holistic fashion and conquering those issues through a three-prong assault guaranteed to hammer you into the man you were always meant to be.

1. Inner Strength - We address your limiting beliefs and systematically destroy them with extreme prejudice. We do this by leading through example in a way that's sure to deconstruct every preconception you had about living as an Asian American male as well as offering concrete methods that will better your lifestyle.

2. Outer Confidence - We show you what it means to not only HAVE confidence, but also how to embody and PROJECT confidence. We want you to be the man that every woman wants and every man wants to be. It's about masculinity, dominance, and confidence in your own sexuality. It is grace under fire and a sight to behold.

3. Verbal Attraction - We show you how to successfully approach, banter, and converse with beautiful women. We give you real life examples, our own fool-proof material, and help you create your own. It's about CHARISMA, uniqueness, and laughing your way into her heart AND her pants.

Here's the bottomline:


Then it's time to seriously consider making that investment in yourself and your future by purchasing your ticket to an ABCs of Attraction bootcamp today.

Bring any and all questions about mastering your dating lifestyle by calling my office at 1-888-689-GAME (4263) or contact me here.

If you're seriously ready to sign up, then by placing your deposit now, you ensure that not only do you receive your Pre-Bootcamp Prep Package, but also the complimentary phone consultation that comes with the deposit.

What else are you waiting for?

If I can do it, so can you.

Labels: About Me

Have you ever wondered how these two titans in the Seduction Community met?

How did Johnny Wolf- the founder of the SoCal Lair and co-founder of the PUA Summit- meet me (Asian Playboy), how it went, and WHY- after meeting so many of the other top seduction & pick-up gurus in the industry- did Johnny decide to mentor under me?

Finally, for the first time, the story of how the two Top Asian Pick Up Artists in the World met!

Listen to Johnny's hilarious story as he talks about his first time meeting me and the difference between learning Game through gimmicks and tactics versus learning a Holistic STRUCTURE.



Also, be sure to check out Johnny's last bootcamp when he returns for the 2009 PUA Summit. This world reknown instructor won't be teaching again in all of 2009 so take this opportunity, step up to the plate, and become the MAN you were always meant to be!

1. SAN FRAN: Johnny Wolf's Limited Edition Bootcamp 9/4-9/6, 2009
2. LAS VEGAS: Johnny Wolf's Limited Bootcamp 9/11-9/14, 2009
3. THE SOCIAL SECRETS: Johnny Wolf's Blog
   

Remember, if I- a short Asian guy- and Johnny- a chubby big guy- can do it, SO CAN YOU!

Labels: About Me, Johnny Wolf, Video

Podcast Episode For 8/9/09: (complete episode) : E - Extract & Escalate : Stopping Sexual Anxiety Dead in its Tracks

• Chapter 1: Q & A - Better Asian Man fields all of your questions about how to meet ladies -- LIVE! (download this chapter)
• Chapter 2: Dating Advice : E - Extract & Escalate : Stopping Sexual Anxiety Dead in its Tracks (download this chapter)
1. How do you calibrate yourself for day game?

Listen to this week's podcast now.
Download this episode.
Open this podcast in iTunes.

Labels: E - Evaluate Extract and Escalate, Podcast

Inner strength is the ability to move through the world with your balls firmly dangling between your legs and those around you groveling as you walk through petals of roses thrown on the ground in front of you by a harem of women. It is the Walk of Khan given substance, form, and life!

LOL, ok, all kidding aside, of course this isn't what true inner strength is, but essentially you move through the world with the utmost personal confidence that can not be shaken by any external forces. Think Jesus minus the miracles or any revolutionary public figure who rose from nothing to influence the masses.

This inner strength comes from the mental toughness of an individual, personal experience and their unapologetic attitude towards their own behavior. Essentially, your inner strength is broken down by two main components. External Confidence and Internal Confidence.

Internal Confidence vs External Confidence
There are many people who have delusional confidence in which they believe that they are a lot better at certain things than their skill level justifies. The reason for this could have been because they had a SINGLE experience in which they achieved some level of success and they linger on that success for as long as their delusion lasts.

For someone less experienced, getting women to laugh may be his only justification for believing he is good with women when in reality he may still be a virgin. Internal confidence comes from many things which can be explained through the 10 Pillars of Inner Strength. Additionally, external confidence can be attributed to things that require a certain level of skill or physical actions.

They will be labeled as (I) for Inner Confidence and (E) for External Confidence.


Usually the reason why people do not feel comfortable in their own skins or lack confidence is their lives are imbalanced in one or more of the following categories (listed in no particular order of importance, continued after the jump):

• Status (ie Finances)


• Fitness (ie Testosterone)


• Ambition (ie Goals)


• Sexual Prowess (ie Sexual experience & comfort level)


• Social Value (ie Relationships & social circles)


• Moral Fortitude (ie Certainity in your decisions)


• Fire in Your Belly (ie Competitive/martial spirit)


• Legacy (ie Making lasting contributions)


• Family & Cultural Understanding (ie Emotional safety net)


• Competence (ie Education & knowledge)

Developing these 10 pillars of inner-strength are vital to becoming an attractive and confident male. They become a part of you and it is internalized into your belief system. Having a good paying career in which you are respected and valued speaks volumes for an individual.

When a person tells you that they are the president of a company or a New York Times Best Selling Author you can get a sense of what type of person they are. It takes a lot of talent, effort, and hard work to get to the higher levels of any career and to be at that level reflects positively on you (E).

Your fitness is another way of showing that you care about your health. It conveys vitality, discipline, and other positive attributes (E).

Possessing sexual prowess is obviously attractive to a woman because it shows that you know how to please a woman in ways that most men can't (E).

Your moral fortitude is exemplary of the decisions you make, how you interpret what goes on around you, and is important in the growth process of your character. This trait will determine whether or not you'll be respected or disregarded by others (I).

Being competitive shows passion, drive, and the ability to strive for what you want. To get the best, you must want it and fight for it. What you do in life will either fade into obscurity or will live on through some other form. You want your life to be full of purpose. Without purpose you're just occupying space (I).

To understand where you came from is important in maintaining your identity. Your family and culture play a huge role in how you perceive yourself. The more you know about yourself will give you the confidence to be who you are around others comfortably (I).

Finally, the education and knowledge you receive is constantly reinforcing itself and becomes a part of you. Acquiring knowledge allows you to be prepared before you take action knowing that you can do so with ease (I).

Mastering these 10 pillars of inner-strength will give you the confidence to be the best man you can be. Nobody can take away what you've achieved and the only way we get judged in this world is by what we do. Not by what we think we can do and not actually have anything to back it up.

Developing your inner strength is the most important aspect of holistic game.

Your inner strength will influence how you approach every situation that presents itself to you. You can either fold to the pressure around you or utilize your inner strength to blast through any obstacles you face.

The tenacity to never want to give up is another vital aspect of inner strength. This is where you will use this persistence to work on holistic game in its entirety.

For the average person; having inner strength is to exude an air of confidence and complete comfort with oneself. You can build your inner strength a few ways. Here are a few things you should know to guide you in the right direction

Relieve Yourself of Negativity.

I understand that we all have not had the same experiences.

Many people have experienced some truly hurtful times in their lives and it may still be affecting them to this day. Whether it was a rough childhood, racism, a grudge you've had with someone, or some other hurtful experience. Some people never let go of these emotions and it ends up building up a lot of tension that can lead to serious physical, psychological, and emotional damage.

The best way to relieve yourself of negativity is to first find out where the negativity is coming from. If you have a relationship that is difficult to avoid (ie: family) then you should take the time to truly voice out in a calm setting what has been bothering you. The main focus is to get out all of the negative emotions.

Hopefully the person you're trying to fix the relationship with is understanding and they too make the effort to fix the relationship. If they do not and you feel like you've tried all that you can it would be best if you stay away from that person. It's better for your health. If the person wants to see you again they'll make the effort to fix the relationship as you have tried in the past to do.

If you've had an experience where you constantly received negativity from others then you should take the time to talk about these feelings with a person who really cares. If this is something that persists, then you can be the bigger man and take a stance that everyone can respect.

Think of great men like Martin Luther King Jr., Ghandi, Abraham Lincoln, and other great men who used their inner strength to battle the external negativity attacking them. The point is to tackle the problem head on and find a way to benefit from the situation.

The main point of this is to deal with these issues that have been plaguing you because you will not be able to live a happy lifestyle until you handle them.

Identify Your Belief System

The results you get in anything you do derive from a few processes that begin with your belief system.

What you believe influences your thoughts, your thoughts influence your actions and your actions determine your results. If you believe that women choose men with a strong personality over men with good looks then the processes which lead to your actions will dictate the result of your interactions.

A person with this belief system will not have any limiting beliefs about looks, most likely will have acquired certain attributes that are congruent with his belief system and will result in more success with women. It is important to identify what your beliefs are and determine how beneficial these beliefs are when it comes to women. To find out what your beliefs are about women; answer these following questions with your opinions about them.

Take time to read over your answers and ask yourself if the beliefs you have are beneficial or detrimental to you when attracting women.

1. What kind of men do women want to sleep with?


2. What are the attributes of an attractive male?

There are obviously a lot more questions you can ask yourself in relation to your belief system, but the two aforementioned are important to identifying the reasons for why you go about doing the things you do when interacting with women you are attracted to.

If you find that your beliefs are skewed or have no idea how to answer these questions then the easiest way to answer these questions is to try out what you learn about dating and form an opinion. This would be the basis of your belief system.

Obviously you want a solid belief system that is congruent with getting women and improving your lifestyle.

Experience

Developing inner strength comes from experiencing success. Of course, the only way you can gain experience is by taking action. When taking action, you want to go about doing so through methods with a higher success rate.

Experience is also what separates a confident man from a man who is pretending to be confident. The man who is pretending to be confident has no experience and lies to himself that he is actually successful with women when he has rarely been with women if at all. The confident man has already had enough experience with women that it becomes second-nature to him.

To get some practice in, you can do the 30 Day Direct Game Challenge.

Acquire Attractive Attributes, Discard Unattractive Habits (AAA vs DUH)

How you are perceived can be broken down by highlighting some noticeable attributes of your personality.

To become an attractive man you must first identify what the attributes are of an attractive male and work on making it a part of you. Alternatively, you should identify the negative aspects of yourself and replace them with better attributes.

The attributes which you have already acquired most likely occurred subconsciously for a myriad of reasons over the course of your life. In any case, it certainly helps to identify what the positive and negative attributes are so that you can work on improving yourself.

What you can start doing is make a list of all the attributes you desire to have and also write a list of negative attributes about yourself that you would like to discard. Ask people that know you well if you're stuck. Also write down the positive attributes you already have so you can see what you have going for you already.

When you're done, write down what you can actively do each day to acquire that attribute.

For example, if you want to be more spontaneous then make it a note to do one random and fun thing each day. Eventually you can expand on that and do something random and fun with a friend, then a group of friends, and so on.

If one of your negative attributes is speaking softly, then make it a note to speak louder.

These are a few ways you can work on building your inner strength. If you eliminate one bad attribute every month and replace it with a positive attribute; imagine what kind of man you will be by the end of the year.

Even more so, imagine when you have every aspect of your holistic game put together. You'll be unstoppable!

RELATED POSTS:

• Natural Game is sooooo 2008 (Holistic Game, Part 1)
• The 6 Attributes of Verbal Attraction (Holistic Game, Part 2)
• Learning Gimmicky Tactics vs a Holistic Structure
• How to Pull a White Girl into Your Asian World (ie the Asian/Exotic Attraction Switch)
• [RECOMMENDED PRODUCTS] Building Attraction Through Storytelling DVD

Labels: 10 Pillars of Inner Strength, Holistic Game

Like... seriously...

I believe I am a professional. I was one of the very first Indie Pro PUAs to ever put forth a Night Game Syllabus and show what a prospective student could expect from a true, dyed in the wool Pick Up Aritst.

That we are not some tame sheep to be hired, but a seriously pissed off beast whose instincts are reigned in for the benefit of the masses. Because, and let's be honest here, a TRUE blue PUA is not someone you introduce to family, friends, and hearth.

He's not someone you brag about to your friends because he could- and would without any guilt- bite the shit out of you without any remorse and steal away your woman with naught but a snicker.

So, having recognized this little cognizant fact of reality, it behooves us to ask ourselves, "WHY THE BLOODY HELL ARE THESE GIRLS MESSING WITH ME?"

Seriously.

I make out with one girl. Another girl wants to- guaranteed- go home with me. My approach coach is making out with another... he's literally being pulled by a tall blonde to the bar and being dragged out a wooden orifice of a lacquered door imagined from a George Romero movie and his worst constipational Sam Raimi forest cabin nightmare.

And the students are watching in this awed silence. I can see their faces, "What the fuck just happened to all of our instructors? And how can I get me some of that action?!"

Which only lasts so far and lasts so long before I literally throw this one girl- imagine the Asian chick from Chuck- onto one of the students. Like Hudson to Sigourney, I scream, "Take her! Take her!"

And then some red, manicured CLAW grabs my face to pull me back into a dark, hidden abyss that is the dance floor.

10 minutes later, I have this svelte Asian girl sitting in my lap, PINNING me against the couch like an MMA Champion, sucking my face, and saying how bad a boyfriend I am because I have this imaginary stalker girlfriend. I really don't know what she's talking about.

My life flashes before my eyes and I am left with the sad realization that-alas- I have no choice but to- wholeheartedly and blindly- agree with her lest I suffocate to death as my tongue is being sucked through the whirlpool of her tongue. As if that's not enough, the Hoover Vacuum is on the industrial strength setting.

If the world's panacea could be discovered by sucking the very marrow from my bones and cavities of my molars, she's unapologeticly hell-bent on grinding and kissing me into a red, lipstick, smear of submission.

I have planned nothing of this as I stumble dazed from the club to a bizarre MJ-esque accompaniment of Shakira howls and cacophony.

Quite frankly, I'm still both exhausted and tired from the Australian bootcamp rolling into this one and my body hasn't gotten used to the time difference. But I press on to my own, amusing misfortune and abused lips.

Because apparently, 3 makeouts and 2 pulls is not enough...

Fuck me.

Labels: Pics, Ramblings

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Right now, I'm forcing myself to readjust to US time so I can teach tomorrow's Los Angeles August Bootcamp at 100% capacity. Ugh, it's been a bit tough with me taking sleeping pills just to reacclimate myself to this timezone.

Anyways, I'm going to use this beautiful morning to put up not simply another ABCs of Attraction Sydney Bootcamp (featuring Asian Playboy) review, but also to make special note that this student ALSO had special post-bootcamp success and posted his lay report on the Newbie Board.

A teacher is only as good as his students so it's nice to see da boyz all grown up, fully and romantically connecting with women with confidence and success! Congratulations bro!

For information on programs, feel free to contact us privately here.

Review: Syd ABC Bootcamp Jul 09
by d3rek

I took a bootcamp with JT, Johnny Wolf and William. I signed up a few months in advance. At first I was told to contact a former alumni to ask more questions about the bootcamp. My game actually began to change when I met up with the members of the community who knew what they were doing and actually had some game.

I believed this was when my game really began to change. I knew about the game for a year now and been going out half-heartedly with my friends to try and pick up but it wasn’t going anywhere. So I decided to make a commitment to myself to change and sign up for a bootcamp.

Psychologist says that if you publicly announce that you have a problem then you would be more committed to going through with it thus be more successful (e.g. quitting smoking, heroin...). However, a bootcamp is not a magic bullet and I was fortunate enough to be told that early on. As a result I was more focused on the journey leading to the bootcamp, going out and practising to lower my approach anxiety.

I saw the bc as a place to learn the structure and fundamentals of which to work on my game and then you gotta practice, practice, practice...

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Day 1: we were introduced to the A and B phase which I’m quite comfortable with since I’ve been practicing before the bc. The main thing which sticked out for me was the lesson on how to carry yourself as a man i.e. the walk of Khan and the kino turn. Both of these things had a great effect on my A and B game. Having live girls there to practice on is good On that night, we went to Kingscross and practice A and B. William was my instructor. What I liked about William was that he is very calm and relax when telling u to approach sets. And the thing which I’ve learned from him that stuck to my mind was that sometimes girls just want to be bitches, so let them be bitches, the only thing u can controll is urself – that made me feel better after getting blown out a first couple of times but knowing that I did everything fine with my approach. After 3-4 sets I was in state and had no fear at all. I got 5 numbers that night and had heaps of fun.

Critique: Me and my wing lost William in the crowd for a while so we missed out on guidance. However, we did achieved our mission and was pretty much doing our own things so there wasn’t much for him to do.

Day 2: the main thing that stuck out was BLP and how to get intimate with a girl. Also having Johnny critique everybody’s DHV stories was great because it gives an insight as to how it should sound like. The camera routine was also a keeper and it was great to have jonny critic my pics and be told I should have more non-asian females in them if i want non-asian girls because I never even thought about it! At night we went to a club in CQ.

My AA was higher tonight than the first night for some reason. I approached a couple of sets in the beginning and had blown myself out a lot of the times and it affected me more than normal. I felt fatigued, demotivated and introverted. I also kind of went and did my own thing because I was scared that JW or JT would force me to approach sets which was WRONG to do because that’s how you learn. Anyway highlight of the night was when me and a wing isolated 2 azn girls back to our couch. I used the wolf trap and no. Close unsuccessfully. So the night was pretty much a bummer with no no.s or kisses. Life goes on.

Critique: Better organisation is needed in terms of knowing which clubs to go to. JW and JT had a private booth for us to isolate chicks but there was an assumption that since the AA was gone in the first night that the second night we would be in the same state, which some of us wasn’t. Hence in the beginning, they were waiting for us to bring girls back yet some of us were trying to get in the mood of talking to girls.

Day 3: Highlights – I’ve learned a few things which were some of my sticking points including how to use your hands while kissing and a few other awesome sexual techniques which I didn’t know that I would be using a few days later! The take home message for me is that logistics is the man’s domain and if you want to get laid you gotta make it as smooth as possible by having a plan. We also practice some fun AMOG techniques.

Had a reality checked too with the fashion critic by the instructors and the girls and had great advices on what to do to my beard lol. That night we went to the Cross and I was fortunate enough to stand and witness JT gaming a French promoter chick on the street & though it didn’t blow my reality, it did blow my delusion that a mpua would talk to a chick and do some spectacular magic and she would be in his bed.

In fact, JT was talking to her like how I see charismatic ppl (e.g. my boss) talk to chicks but he had more of a structured game, great body language and kickass kino move like poking the belly (Note to self, poke a chicks belly lol). Basically it just shows me that it is something that I can work on and I don’t need magical energy or power to achieve. Back to the topic, we went to a few venues which was pretty dead on a Sunday and my untalkative state was back. I just didn’t feel like talking.

It was awesome to see JW work a set and get the bday girl and her blonde friend by what seems like magic from the outside but was prob just a normal conversation with a strong frame. JT told me a valuable advice: to not let my wing control the set but I should engage the other girl. Whenever she loses focus, I would do a mini kino turn to renengage her which was a mad improvement to my game. Also JT taught me how to pour wine and hold a wine glass like a gentleman which to my surprise I would be needing later on.

Next, we went to a night club that surprisingly had quite a no. Of ppl (I never been clubbing on a sun). We went in I did a few sets and trying to get into state. It was a whole new ballgame: loud music, ADD girls, and drunk and eccky users. My first few sets blow out but I was getting back into state of don’t give a shitness (yeah!). JT gave a kickass advice that we should go in do A and B then isolate or move around.

The awesome silencer move worked perfectly in this club as it was loud. I wanted to drop opinion openers and just went direct because their attention span is a bit too short for openers. I managed to isolate a HB with ripped up pants and shit by just doing A, BT then ‘come wish my friend a happy bday’. I remembered to sit down first and make room for her to sit and voila, she sat! However, the set didn’t go anywhere.

Next, JW brought 2 HBs from London back to the sofa. I was just looking in awe then JT told me to engage the one blonde next to me so JW could focus on the other girl. I was a bit hesitant at first but once I talked her attention was just on meI did do the JW trap kiss close and got right up to her face but we didn’t kiss. Then I tried again with ‘how good of a kisser are you on a scale between 1 and 10’ then she said ‘are u trying to kiss me?’ and the set was off. I made a mistake of trying to build too much C in this environment and JT later told us just to do A, B, and straight to D which was GOLD! (I always thought, the structure had to be followed alphabetically).

Having my new found structure I went back to the floor sarging again. Did exactly the same thing with first girl to asian HB, managed to got her back to our booth. JT whispered, do a lot of BT, some alcohol and go for D (Gold advice on social calibration). I went a lot of BT and did a tiny bit of C, then went to D telling her that she was sexy. I offered our wine and this was where my wine pouring and glass holding skill which I've learned a few hrs ago paid off :). Tried wolf trap again, I got a pash but no make out. Determined, I did the kissing scale again and she said 10! So I said ‘really? Let’s fine out’ pulled her in and Success! By the end of the night I was on fire and talked to almost every chick in the club. I’ve isolated and kiss closed for the first time ever in da club.

At the debrief JT made very profound, straightforward analysis of every individual and I saw something in myself which I didn’t see before. At times I felt like he didn’t really know us over the 3 days because some of us were a bit intimidated by him and weren’t acting ourselves so some of the critics came off as like cold reading and some of the fashion tips were a bit subjective. However, some analysis were dead set and was something I can take home, think about and work on.

Committing to the bc has improved my game greatly from the day I placed the deposit. The bc itself has made me a better man with a drive for gaming success. I have also discovered solutions to many of my sticking points.

I can now confidently let go of all the other gaming materials I’ve been reading and just work on my ABC’s because I believe no system is better than another but as long as u stick to one and be consistent and PRACTICE then it would be gold (Also, why not stick to one that is simple and easy to remember. I also learned the valuable lesson that you learn game to get out of the game and go on with your normal life once this issue has been fixed. (It made me appreciate my job and my current friends more as a result) :)

The bc is not for: those seeking a magic pill. Those who don’t have a motivation for picking up or to become good with women(It's like wanting to be rich by just buying the lottery). Those whose game has been improving steadily over the last year of going out without assistance.

The bc is highly recommended for those who are committed or want to be committed to picking up but don’t know how. Have you learned the game, gone out to practice and got small results? Or feels like you been plateauing for a few months/years, ur wingmen have ditched you, but u don’t want to give up but don’t know how you can improve further? Have you ever thought, I'll get more practice and will get better, but months and even years have gone by and still procrastinating but the motivation is still there?

If this is you, then delay buying that laptop or game console and put the deposit down for a bootcamp!

-d3rek (Sydney, Australia)

REMEMBER!
The Melbourne (Nov) Early Bird Deadline to save $300 is Aug 29th.
The Sydney (Dec) Early Bird Deadline to save $400 is Aug 13th.

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This year's theme: TRANSITIONING TO SEX!

Time to go beyond "just approaching and getting numbers", take it all the way to the bedroom!

Vince Kelvin and Johnny Wolf are proud to announce the 3rd PUA World Summit line up!

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Asian Playboy - World Best Asian Pickup Artist! Pioneered and revolutionized Asian Men's Game!

Hypnotica - Hard core inner game guru, from Neil Strauss' "The Game" known as Rasputin!

David Wygant - The Orignal "Hitch" - Will Smith's Character was based on this Natural!

Daniel Rose - Author of The Sex God Method - The community's best expert on giving female orgasms!

Vince Kelvin - The original NLP for Pickup expert, over 19 years of service to community!

Brad P. - The World's foremost authority on Opening!

Daxx - From Love Systems / Mystery Method Corp. One of Savoy's rising stars.

Johnny Wolf - ABCs of Attraction Lead Instructor back from Retirement just to help out for a limited time.

Speer - Lifestyle expert! One of the community's favorite new teachers, breaking it down simple.

Plus a "New Blood" Panel with...Marni from WinGirls, Adonis, Zar and Hydro from Casanova Crew, The Seduction Coaching Team, Sexual Chocolate!!!

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Imagine meeting face to face today's leading authorities on pickup, dating, seduction, sex, lifestyle and personal development, and hearing the newest and hottest ways to enjoy the most fulfilling social, sex and love life! surrounded by like minded PUAs flying from all around the world to witness what UK channel 4 called "The Super Bowl of Pickup!"

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You'll be able to step right out of the room into the field, and see others approach and wing with some of the top PUAs in the world!!! Everyone who's someone in the community will be there!!! THE #1 MUST ATTEND EVENT OF THE YEAR...no excuses, it doesn't get any better than this, and it will save you years of trial and error on your own, and so much time and money, as you'll GET IT ALL IN JUST ONE SHOT...

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Here's a letter all the way from Europe. Anonymous M sent it in after reading the preview ebook "Enter the PUA", which you can receive by subscribing to our newsletter.

Dear Asian Playboy,

Hi, i'm not sure if this address is supposed to use for asking questions, so if you don't answer just let me know, ok? I just received your free preview of your e-book, and I've got a question on one thing you pointed out, it's about the "reverse racism!" . I'm in the game now for a half year and read alot of stuff from the most popular people in this community, and yes i got quite good results! But the thing i want to know is: you said that you are over that now "reverse racism" thing, but how is this possible when attraction isn't a choice? Me for exemple i'm absolutly not attracted to black women (that doesn't mean that i don't have black friends of course), and from my opinion it's nothing i can change or that she could change about it! So what you mean by ,you are over that? I learned that attraction is trigger in your subconcious mind, and that's true for sure!

Thanks, Anonymous M from Luxembourg (europe)

My answer after the jump...

First, Anonymous M, let me thank you for taking the time to write to me as well as reading our free ebook. I hope you enjoyed it and gained valuable insight that will enhance your game and lifestyle.

Anyways, that is a very good well thought out question. If we take a second here to apply some science and anthropology to the topic, I think it will shed some light on the subject.

If you're familiar with Mystery, who was one of the original pioneers in the seduction arts, not only do I find him to be an amazing Pick up Artist, but he was also a very intelligent man that definitely did a LOT of research into the subject. I really enjoyed his writings on evolution of human beings and if you have the chance, I would definitely recommend you to check them out, they’re very mind blowing and most definitely make you question your social conditioning.

So let’s ask ourselves, what makes a man valuable and what makes a woman valuable? If you pay attention to where women spend most of their time, it’s enhancing their physical appearances. The girl’s I’ve dated, I could only imagine how much money they spend on make-up, clothing, accessories, what have you. I mean think about it. At the end of the day, in terms of priority, looks and physical appearance takes WAY more precedence than anything else a woman holds in value.

Now for man, what makes him valuable? I’ve seen plenty of high status or filthy rich men swimming in pools of attractive women and yet, I have yet to see the gender role reversal for this example. While looks are an important factor for a woman, other factors including wealth, status, power, charisma, and influence hold MUCH more importance than physical looks.

Now to answer your question in regards to race, yes, attraction is not a choice, and technically race does fall under the “physical looks” category. You’re absolutely right, you may not be attracted to women of a certain race, however, because you as a male assign much more importance to that category whereas for women, it isn’t AS significant.

Being a PUA and being able to exemplify all these strong male characteristics, we can paint a picture in her mind that we are a dominant alpha male, which to her gets much more priority than our physical looks ( race in specific ).

In any case, I’m using science to back up my argument and theoretical science is by no means an exact science, but I hope you found some merit in my argument and that it helped answer your question.

Happy Hunting!
JT the Asian Playboy

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Once you've decided you want to take a pick-up bootcamp, how do you go about deciding which seduction company is the most credible, trustworthy, and effective?

The single best method of evaluating what a bootcamp is all about and if it's something that will meet your expectations is to read bootcamp reviews. The easiest place to find them is on the company's website and they are prime examples (click the "Reviews" Nav Button to see past testimonials and reviews by former satisfied students).

But then you may also want to dig deeper, start reading the ones posted on the company's forums which is more interactive. And just to double check, Google the company's name and review, and read testimonials and reviews from a third party website.

It's easy for a company to moderate or completely delete bad reviews from their own websites, so it's a good idea to double check with a quick search.

Video testimonials are probably the best judge of a program because there's simply no way to fake it. And if the student is willing to forgo his anonymity and declare to the world what he thought of the program, then odds are he's enthusiastically telling the truth.

So if you've ever wondered if:

1. Is the Asian Playboy bootcamp and ABCs of Attraction a scam?
2. Has anyone has ever tried an ABCs of Attraction bootcamp?
3. Is a seduction bootcamp right for you?

then look no further...



Proof is in the pudding and there's no better way for us to brag about ourselves than to have our students speak for us.

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The Sydney (Dec) Early Bird Deadline to save $400 is Aug 13th.

Don't be the last, lonely guy in the land down under!

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Q: When did you first develop an interest in seduction arts?

A: When I graduated from college in 2001 (As a very late bloomer, I had my first kiss and girlfriend in college at the age of 20), I moved from Florida to California and suddenly realized that while I had been busy succeeding in academics, I hadn’t taken the time to simultaneously develop my social skills. For 3 years I tried the standard, socially acceptable route for meeting women like:

1. Blind dates
2. Happy hour
3. Mixers
4. Sports groups
5. Online dating
6. Etc
   

After I got rejected from Eharmony for being too analytical and cerebral (how's that for a wakeup call?), I decided to do some research and educate myself on how to improve socially. That’s when I discovered seduction arts in 2004. When I began to explore pick up, I knew instantly that I had discovered something that had the potential to change my life.

Q: What’s the most valuable lesson you learned during your training?

A: Perseverance and determination is key. I think because a lot of us make it look easy, students get frustrated when they immerse themselves in training and discover that it’s not necessarily an overnight process. It took quite a bit of time and effort for me to overcome my anxieties and fears initially. But I committed to making a change, and my life has been transformed for the better.

Q: In your opinion, what are the key characteristics of a successful pick-up artist?

A: You have to be able to approach things without fear, and stay on course until you’ve reached your desired destination or goal. You also have to have to be resilient, quick on your feet and be able to laugh at yourself sometimes. Know when to take things seriously, and know when to have a good time. That sense of balance will take you far in anything you do in life.

Q: Who has been your biggest influence?

A: Early on, I began reading Mystery’s writings on the internet, so when I signed up for his boot camp, that was a huge turning point for me, and a pivotal point in my development. I also think that I’ve been greatly influence by my students and the coaches that I’ve trained and work with. Knowing that I’ve made a difference in their lives makes me want to work harder and continue to impact people in the same positive way.

Q: How have you impacted the lives of the men that you’ve consulted and trained?

A: I help my students to build social confidence, and make time-tested strategies and their own personal attributes work for them. Before they come to me, a lot of my students are on the brink of giving up on women because they don’t have the skills to meet, attract and connect with them, and the void has become a huge burden. But when I’m finished with them, they are able to overcome their anxiety and fears, move past limited beliefs and use their newfound knowledge and skills to meet the women of their dreams.

Q: What has been the biggest milestone of your career?

A: To be honest, I’ve had quite a number of milestones and they have all been important to me. Being featured on the front page of AsianWeek Newspaper and winning the Greatest Asian Pick Up Artist award twice have been huge milestones, mainly because it’s really amazing to be recognized by your peers, people who you have a great respect for.

Q: What makes you a recognized leader in the PUA community?

A: As the founder of the ABCs of Attraction, I have helped to cultivate seduction arts all over the world. And while I work with men of all ethnic backgrounds, I am an asset and resource for Asian men who have tried a variety of strategies and programs without success.

Q: When working with clients, what are some of the key factors that prevent men from succeeding? How do you help them overcome these obstacles?

A: Racial stereotypes can be a difficult obstacle for many of our clients to overcome. Perceptions that Asian men are small, misogynistic, effeminate and asexual can make it extremely difficult for men to truly believe that they can have any woman that they want because they feel as though the odds are already stacked against them, regardless of what they do or say. I help my students overcome these stereotypes in a number of ways, primarily by leading by example. Inaction is another obstacle that some students have difficult overcoming. A real man recognizes his inaction, and takes steps to implement change in his life. He makes no excuses. A coward makes excuses for his inaction. There are no cowards in pick up.

Q: What’s the most valuable piece of advice you could give to a man struggling with meeting and attracting women?

A: You can either feel sorry for yourself, and wallow alone in self-pity for the rest of your life, or you can do something about it and experience life like never before. If you want to be happy, you’ll choose the latter.

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