In the previous article, I spoke about the overall basics of Holistic Game. Why it's so important to completely develop your technical skillset in parallel with your internal belief system.

So let's start exploring one of those technical components that composes ALL methods, regardless of style like indirect or direct. Mastering verbal attraction is an art form in itself. It requires the individual to develop the skills necessary to clearly communicate what they want and present it in an attractive manner.

Verbal attraction breaks down into two categories: Bantering and Storytelling (the B and C phases in the ABCs Structure).

But beyond just the substance of what you say is HOW you say it. Your delivery will influence how well you can tell a story and banter. These technical attributes are your:

1. Tonality
2. Inflection
3. Voice projection
4. Word choice
5. Energy level
6. Pace

When you have an excellent control of these vocal attributes; women will be attracted to this single ability to converse and tell stories (amongst the many other highly desirable attributes a part of developing holistic game.

While the best way to learn and understand Verbal Attraction is by listening and watching an instructional program in real life (like our Storytelling DVD), I'll do my best to present it to you in the written form.

After the jump, we'll begin by exploring each of these attributes...

Bantering

Bantering is a playful type of conversation which is akin to joking around with some good friends. It should be lighthearted and not taken seriously. Bantering includes some teasing, exaggeration, cocky/funny, obstacles, and sometimes sarcasm.

Remember, the main point is to smile, keep it lighthearted and fun. Here is an example:

Woman: My feet are killing me.

Man: Yeah I'm sure, you're wearing 10 inch heels! (Exaggeration)

Woman: They are NOT 10 inches!

Man: That's quite alright, just don't break your ankles. (Obstacle)

Woman: (Sarcastic) Thanks for caring, you're SUCH a sweetheart.

Man: Whoaa now! Are you hitting on me? I just met you and you're giving me pet names already?! (Cocky/funny)

You can turn any conversation fun and interesting when you work on your bantering skills. You can watch some romantic comedies if you want to get an idea of how to banter with women. Those movies are filled with it.

Practice being more playful and banter with everybody until you feel comfortable with it.

Storytelling

To effectively tell a story can make you a lot more interesting. I've seen tons of guys who have done some pretty interesting things but the problem is that they don't know how to present it to other people.

When you tell a story, you want to be able to reenact the events that occurred in a way that allows the listener to feel as though they were right there with you. Telling a story is a combination of pace, word choice, energy level, descriptive language. Most importantly though is the use of descriptive language when telling a story.

You're painting a picture in the listener's head and the more you can do to use language to describe the events that occurred the better. Every story has a beginning, middle, and an end. You want the story to have a point other than the fact that you just wanted to share.

For practice, read children's stories and you can observe how they use descriptive language to tell a story. Write out your own story and practice telling it out loud using the vocal techniques mentioned above.

For more help, check out our 2-hour DVD "Building Attraction Through Storytelling" that's also bundled with an eBook that contains 11 critiqued Attraction Stories!

Tonality

Simply uttering words is not sufficient enough in attracting women. It must have a quality to it that is seductive and attractive.

Vocal tone is a product of two functions which include your vocal chords and body cavities. When you speak, the sound originates from your vocal chordsand resonates through your chest, throat and head as it comes out of your mouth.

You want to sound more like James Bond than Gilbert Godfried.

Here is an exercise that you can use to work on to improve your tonality:

1. Hum at a comfortable pitch.


2. Move the pitch slightly lower; pay attention to how your chest feels.


3. Hum until you can feel the vibration in your chest. Continue humming once you do, attempting to increase the vibration.


4. Next move the pitch slightly higher; pay attention to how your head feels.


5. Let your mouth open. Hum until you feel the vibration in your tongue and lips, behind and above your mouth. Continue humming once you do, attempting to increase the vibration.


6. Finally, return to your chest once more. Repeat the whole exercise, always ending with your chest in order to develop a full, luscious sound.

Try that out until you feel comfortable with the sound and POWER in your own voice.

Inflection

Inflection is can change the meaning of a sentence by altering the sound of your voice.

For example you could say the sentence, "I would like to go to the store right now" in so many different ways that the person receiving the message could mistaken it for something else. If you were to say that sentence angrily then the person listening would take that as a message from the other person to hurry up.

If you say that sentence in an upbeat fashion, it could come across as excitement. It's important to use inflection to emphasize the meaning of what you're talking about so that there is more clarity in your speech.

For an exercise, try saying these sentences with the following emotions:

1. I do what I want!
   


2. Are you ready yet?


3. This is a great song.


4. I don't think I can wait.


5. You really need to take a look at this.


6. Would you like to sleep with me?

And say it with the following emotions:

• Angry
• Sad
• Happy
• Thoughtful
• Sleepy
• Bored
• Sexual
• Sarcastic
• Powerful

Are you starting to feel a change in your voice, yet?

Voice Projection

You have to be heard.

It's a pain in the ass to have to repeat yourself and most people can't hear you when you don't project your voice. This is what separates the meek individual from the confident male who lets others know he is speaking. You don't have to talk over everyone, but you do want to be heard.

Here is a way to help you work on your vocal projection:

1. Sitting straight, place one hand on your belly and another behind your back opposite your hand on your belly.


2. Breath in, attempting to move both hands out as far as possible (it takes a lot of strength to get your hand on your back to move; don't worry if it doesn't). This is belly breathing. Notice how it feels; this is how you want to breath when you speak in order to use your full
   lung capacity and get the fullest, strongest, and richest sound.


3. Exhale quickly, but make no sound as you do so. Sound is an indication of tension.


4. Breath in again. Now, when you exhale, say the first letter of the alphabet.


5. Continue until you reach Z.
   
   

As you progress through the alphabet, pretend that with each letter you are speaking to a target farther and farther away. By the time you reach the end, you should be very loud and strong. If you're still breathing right, you will be stronger than you could be breathing normally.

Word Choice

The words you use can tell a lot about how you perceive the world around you.

If you are generally negative then much of the words you will use will have negative connotations associated with it. If you're constantly thinking about sex then much of what you will talk about will most likely turn into sexual conversation.

For example, if someone were to ask you what time it is; you could easily respond back with, "Time for sex." Another individual would have simply gave the time. If all you talk about is how to pick up women, then much of your conversations with others will focus on picking up women even if it is out of context.

It is important to make sure that you are aware of what words you are using because it can say a lot about you and you want to display the better parts of yourself.

As an exercise, you should record yourself when you're having conversations with other people and listen to where the conversation usually ends up when you begin to talk. You'll find that there is a pattern in where your conversations usually end up.

This will give you some insight on what you need to work on.

Energy Level

Energy level can determine how interested you are in the conversation.

When you sound monotonous and lethargic it does not telegraph much interest to the other individual. However, if you sound excited and genuinely happy about what you're talking about then it will also get the other individual to feel what you feel.

This may be difficult for some people to achieve, but it's better to be slightly more energetic when you talk as opposed to being constantly low energy. Alternatively, when you master the ability to control your energy levels when interacting with others you will also learn how to transition from high to low energy based on the context of situation.

You would not be high energy when a woman tells you a story about her dying puppy and you would not be low energy when she tells you it's her birthday.

For your practice, try to tell a 2-3 minute story to a few people and tell this story as though it were the best moment of your life. Additionally, you should tell this same story but do it such a way that it feels like you were impartial to the event.

Note the difference in how people respond to your story.

Pace

Pacing is important when talking to others. Talking slowly is generally perceived as being confident because it lets others know that they will listen to every word you say and that every word you utter is intentional.

Speaking quickly can mean you're just rushing what you have to say so that the other person doesn't lose interest or that you're excited. Speaking quickly can mean many things, but to the general public speaking slower is seen as confident. You don't have to sound like Cleveland from, "Family Guy" but it would help to slow down your speech.

See what works for you.

An exercise that you can try is to read a page from a book out loud as slowly as you can and then gradually increase the speed. It would help for you to record yourself so you can listen to how fast or slow you're speaking. You'll find that you're not reading as slow as you think you are.

When you talk to others, try to slow down your speech and make every word you say clear and concise. Again, you will most likely not be talking as slow as you think you are so slow it down as much as possible.

These are the vocal qualities that encompass the technical aspects of verbal attraction which in turn will allow you to tell stories and banter effectively.

When you develop the ability to communicate and speak attractively, you will definitely become more noticeable to women.

Until I see you at the next ABCs' Reunion, happy hunting!
APB

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- Goodwood (Texas)

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Labels: Banter, Buying Temperature, Holistic Game, Verbal Attraction

Ahoy gents! Every since I put out my Storytelling Bundle, they've been selling like hotcakes. At over 2 hours, the DVD is total value overload of content (purchase DVD here).

And the ebook itself is a transcript of 11 field-tested and critiqued Attraction Stories that are great examples of how to structure your own material to drive women wild (purchase eBook here)!

Here's what AznBaySensation had to say about the Storytelling DVD:

[DVD] Building Attraction through Storytelling Review
by AznBaySensation

This DVD was a graduation gift from APB for being a part of his LA bootcamp. This DVD is packed with a ton of information, over 2 hours in length so its meant to be watched multiple times.

I ended up watching it twice to catch all the info.

The DVD starts with APB and some of his students demonstrating the mechanics which involve BLP, tonality and everything nonverbal to communicate a good story. The entire presentation is a intricate weave of student's sharing their version of stories and the experts, APB, Johnny Wolf reworking it into seduction tales. Its truly a sight to watch.

In the following I will share my experience of what I took from the DVD.

Storytelling can be one of the most nerve-wracking things for me to do in front of a HB. During the past June 5-9th boot-camp (read my 3-day bootcamp review here or watch my video testimonial), I would always brain fart when I realized I needed a story.

It felt unnatural to be telling stories that were meant to attract a woman at all moments, usually I tell a combination of fluff and attraction switch stories but never consistently dishing out attraction switch story after attraction story.

Now after watching the DVD I realized I missed a few key aspects of story telling:

• Incorporating stories that stimulate all the senses
• Using stories build buying temperature
• Being expressive with your facial expressions
• Tonality
• Recognizing the type of girl your interacting with and which attraction switch to use

There was a time in my life where I told stories of me engaged in very macho behaviors, like dating tons of women, climbing mountain peaks and doing big stunts. Stories that just made me into this powerful, super-sexed up man. Coincidently, this switch only worked on girls who were high energy and very easygoing to the partying atmosphere.

Usually these girls exhibited lots of ADD symptoms and needed to be redirected back to me at all times. Many girls that I met at school didn't exhibit these traits and were more the quiet and get to know you type of people

In this stage of my PUA journey, I am relatively okay at approaching, BT ups and downs, comfort, and at moments direct. What I am not so good at is keeping a girl through 3rd, 4th dates or getting them to the sex. But I know I will progress with time

Couple of really key points that are instrumental to storytelling:

• Always leave open threads, or keyword links in a story.
• Don't brag your DHV's, simply hint.
• Always end a story with punchline, whether it be emotional, or funny.
• Take out anything that is fluff.
• Structure of a good story, use open threads to bait and seed, build suspense.
• Nervous tell: don't talk too much, slow down and use suspense instead of being silent

The lessons in the DVD were really helpful in reminding me of key things to watch for when telling a story, like not telling it to a girl, but including her. Incorporating kino, stimulate her senses, DHV, hit attraction switches. All key points to any good story.

I enjoyed this DVD very much. The lessons also go beyond just storytelling, it talks about what signs to watch for IOI.

I believe a good story teller is key to longevity in a relationship so this DVD is not just good for people who want to date, but for those in long term relationships.

Yang

P.S. For a limited time, if you purchase ANY product at the ABCs Store, you'll receive a FREE 2-hour audio seminar. If you purchase the entire Storytelling Bundle (with $70 DVD and $10 eBook), this what you'll get:

• 2 hours of video (cost $70)
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• That's over 4 hours worth of material!
  

It's like I'm actually GIVING you $20 if you purchase from the ABCs of Attraction Store! Why wait when you can get your grubby, greedy hands on this incredible opportunity before I change my mind!

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Labels: Building Attraction through Storytelling, DVD Reviews, Ebook

"And it happened as the Philistine arose and was drawing near David that David hastened and ran out from the lines toward the Philistine, and he reached his hand into the pouch and took from there a stone and slung it and struck the Philistine in his forehead."

That's the account of how David defeated Goliath, straight from the Bible. That's what David is famous for-- smacking Goliath right between the eyes and defeating the man who (on the surface) was thought to have out-matched him before the two had even engaged in combat.

But the part that fewer people remember is that David was initially going to suit up with chain mail, a brass helmet and a sword-- he was almost about to go head to head with Goliath in a conventional sword fight. He was almost going to do battle with Goliath on Goliath's terms, in a world where Goliath usually wins.

Learn what he did in order to get an unfair advantage over Goliath (and how you can too) after the jump...

He Re-Defined The Rules

He leveled the playing field. Rather than use a strategy that Goliath had used his whole life, he made forced Goliath to compete on his terms-- terms on which Goliath's lifetime of experience, technique, and dexterity, and swordsmanship became utterly useless.

We live in a world where "charisma-based pick up" is the socially accepted norm. You're either raised with some good male role models and learn "naturally" how to be good with women, or you remain stuck in loser-ville forever, and die a lonely old man.

We live in a world where you're either a tall, good-looking, white blond male who gets all the hot chicks, or you get stuck with the hood rats.

Or Do We?

David didn't play by Goliath's rules, and ABCs of Attraction students don't play by the tall, good-looking, blond, white man's rules.

David didn't follow the Philistines procedure of formally crossing of swords before battle-- he busted out a slingshot. ABCs of Attraction students don't rely on looks, excessive financial wealth, or daddy's yacht to impress girls-- we follow the ABCs of Attraction structure.

We won't play by their rules. We force the naturals out in the clubs to play by our rules-- the rules that we're familiar with-- the rules that allow us to consistently, time, and time again, romantically connect with women all over the world.

Or as Will from Sydney, Australia said, "The ABCs Boot Camp is the only thing the modern man can participate in so that he becomes a true man. It is here, where I believe, your weaknesses are overcome, your fear is annihilated and your belief in yourself, fuelled by immense determination, is completely reborn. What we all went through on the Boot Camp was hell on earth. For those of us who pushed ourselves, we didn't come back as Gods on earth. No. Not even close. We came back as God himself ... because we had defied everything humanly possible. We defied our limiting beliefs, we defied our fears, we defied the capabilities of a human being ... and we had redefined what it was to be a MAN."

Are you ready to win?

Empower Yourself!
JT the Asian Playboy
1-888-689-GAME (4263)

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Labels: Charisma, Money, Structured Natural Game, The Asian Edge

At the end of "The Dark Knight," Batman finally gets the chance to rid Gotham of the Joker forever. However, just as he's about to fall off the building, Batman saves him at the last moment, apprehends him, and turns him in to the authorities.

What separates Batman from the Joker is that underneath his costume, gadgets, pimped out car and motorcycle, and tons of weaponry, he is, at his core, a man who has drawn a definitive moral boundary for himself.


He has built himself up physically (he's ripped), he has built himself up financially (he runs his own business and is a successful entrepreneur), he has built himself up academically (he's highly educated and intelligent), and has everything he could possibly want.

Sure, he could do lots of bad things and get away with it, but he chose his own value system, and he sticks with it-- even if it means giving up the chance to destroy his life-long enemy with no repercussions whatsoever.

The core of what makes Batman a great hero is that he is a good man first, and a hero second.

He is a good man first.

Would Batman be half the hero he is if he didn't have his finances, fitness, goals, education, and moral boundaries already established for himself? Well, it is theoretically possible for him to be an uneducated, uncultured, immoral, out-of-shape caped crusader, but he'd just be considered an incomplete hero at best, if a hero at all.

So too should every pickup artist develop himself as a good man in order that he may help himself become a good pickup artist. Now this doesn't mean that you need to have a giant multi-milliondollar estate as Bruce Wayne does.

Getting good at romantically connecting with women is a multi-month (or even multi-year) iterative process, and I am proud to say that many of my students have built themselves up from very humble beginnings to simultaneously work on all of what has made them into a good men as well as a good pickup artists.

They have done this by building up what I call "The 10 Pillars of Inner Strength:"

1. Finances and Status
2. Physical Fitness and Testosterone
   
3. Ambition and Goals
4. Sexual Prowess and Sexual Experience
5. Social Value in Romance and Friendships
6. Moral Decisiveness
7. Fearlessness and Fire
8. Legacy and Contributions to Society
9. Family & Cultural Identity
10. Education and Knowledge

All ABCs of Attraction students are given the foundation of building a better lifestyle by becoming better pickup artists as well as better men.

Could you pick up girls without being a good man first? Sure.

You could go out, recite a bunch of routines you downloaded for free off the internet, and romantically connect with a girl.

• But what will you do when she finds another guy who recites routines better than you?
• What else do you have to demonstrate your higher value to her as a man (DHV)?
• Are you tired of putting in so much work and effort to romantically connect with a girl only to find that some other guy with more substance stole her away from you?

Step up to the plate and be the man.

Learn Holistic Game from the ABCs of Attraction, and become a complete man.

Click here to sign up for your bootcamp today.

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Labels: 10 Pillars of Inner Strength, Beginner's Hell

Have you ever approached a beautiful woman with your most confident and friendly game, only to get a cold, bitchy, attitude from her?

Have you ever seen that same hot woman, or women like her, complaining endlessly from some ivory tower about why they dislike pickup artists?

You've heard all the same tired, socially conditioned reasons before:

• "Pickup artists are liars-- they're not being genuine."
• "Pickup artists are robotic-- they're just reciting scripts downloaded off the internet-- we girls can see right through them."
• "Pickup artists are bad people-- they objectify women."

These all fall into the classic "woman's white lie" territory in that they're not really true, but then again, you can't DIS-prove any of these statements.

Furthermore, if you try to disprove any of them, you end up looking like an asshole. You and I both know that none of these reasons is true.

After the jump, I'm going to reveal to you the REAL reason why women dislike pickup:

Pickup helps ugly (ie average) guys get the girls.

Women are very sensitive to social circles, the structure within those social circles, and ANY changes in that structure. In dude's terminology, there's a certain rank, or pecking order, that every person in a woman's social group is assigned.

When a man is at a certain place, let's say, he's the loser of that social circle, he stays there, and it's almost impossible for him to climb up from that status unless he jumps to a different social circle or creates his own.

For example, let's say you're the guy who had the crappy haircut and couldn't afford to buy nice clothes, but you were permitted to hang out with the "cool" kids because one of the hot women in that social circle was your sister.

Then, let's say one day you get a better haircut and you get a better job so that you can finally afford to buy nice clothes.

It is more likely that people will try to cut you down by saying things like, "hey, what's up with the hair?," and "why are you all-of-a-sudden trying to dress all trendy?" rather than applauding you for taking steps to improve yourself and your wardrobe.

Evolutionarily speaking, guys who are not smooth with the ladies, who do not know how to romantically connect with women in conversation, who do not know how to be facially expressive, who do not know how to convey confidence through their vocal tonality, are generally thought of by the social elite to be undeserving of romantically connecting with hot women.

Naturally good looking men who get with hot women all the time have no problem with this, and actively perpetuate this societal norm by amogging (also known as cock-blocking) you when you try to talk to hot women at nightclus.

Hot women also follow this social norm and actively perpetuate it by putting up bitch shields towards you, surrounding themselves with tall, muscular, alpha-males (even though they may not be interested in them, but merely because they want to use them to ward off losers who have no courage), giving you dirty looks when you're doing your best to try to be open and friendly with them, sitting in the seat at the booth that is most difficult to get to, and of course, by shit testing you.

Women who dislike pickup secretly want to keep you down because if you do improve your posture and body language, learn how to convey confidence through your vocal tonality, and learn how to convey your personality in a way that allows you to romantically connect with women, then 




If every man had the same body language, vocal tonality, facial expressiveness, and conversational skill that all ABCs of Attraction alumni have, then women would be approached by a LOT MORE confident men, and they would HAVE to consider each one of them as a romantic option because all ABCs of Attraction Alumni are trained in DIRECT and INDIRECT game, and all of them know how to express their direct romantic interest in a girl in a smooth and confident way.

They would HAVE to evaluate each man on his personality. Well, it's either that, or they'd be shallow people who only judge a man based on his looks. And NO WOMAN wants to appear to be shallow.

Do you want to learn the tools you need to make the girl of your dreams consider YOU a romantic option?

Then listen to what Ricardo from Los Angeles, California had to say about his bootcamp experience, "I learned a ton. I mean a TON. I'm trying to write everything down. It's as if I had a life experience / enlightenment. Reviewing my notes I now see where I went wrong and what I did right. APB corrected my bad habits right off the bat. His comments were brutally honest, but which of your friends will never point them out to you."

Click here to sign up for your 3-day ABCs of Attraction bootcamp today.

Three days of class will give you a lifetime of happiness.

Empower yourself,
APB

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Labels: Crabs in a Barrel Syndrome, Inner Strength

We all have different personality types, tastes, interests, and a myriad of characteristics which heavily influence the types of women we are drawn to. For this reason, it makes the process of dating women much easier when you have an idea of what you are looking for.

There are men who frequent nightclubs or bars that want a long term relationship but end up disappointed in the quality of relationships which come from such places. It isn't that these men are romantically challenged (although this may very well be the case) but the problem is more so in the selection of women that they are choosing to game.

This is why it is important to get an idea of what you're looking for in a woman. To help you get the most out of your interactions with women is a quick guide for what you can do to maximize the success of what ever you are attempting to accomplish with women.

It is possible to be able to game all kinds of women with the potential to make the relationship casual or serious but not screening women could prove to be a fruitless endeavor. The two important steps you need to take in order to KNOW THYSELF, after the jump...

Determine what kind of relationship you want

Like most things in life you should know what you want and aim to achieve it. This means that if you want to engage in sexual activity with random women then it would be beneficial to you to prepare for this kind of lifestyle.

Don't treat the women that you meet as though you are about to marry them because it sends the wrong signals and you'll end up dealing with more than you bargained for. Instead, you could project more sexuality and spontaneity with fun being the basis for your interaction.

Alternatively, if you're looking for a long-term relationship then you should also prepare for this by making yourself the best person you can be. You want to put all of your best attributes forward and work on the attributes that are not so desirable.

As opposed to hot game which casual sex usually entails, you should focus more on how you carry yourself and how you want to be perceived. The reason for this is because a long-term relationship has no room for bullshitters and is not so much about game but about who you are as a person.

No matter what you're looking for, it is necessary to know what you want so that you can get the best results with the least amount of frustration. The most important thing to have is experience, but without that you should prepare meticulously until your skills are naturalized.

Choose the right environment

It makes no sense to join a book club to meet women if you don't like reading. It also makes no sense to continually go to Whole Foods to meet women if you don't give a rats ass about eating healthy. Sure you can go ahead and meet women at these places but you may not be so compatible.

Choose places that YOU want to be at.

If you meet a woman at a hip hop show and both of you enjoy hip hop then that makes the interaction much more easy to progress. You shouldn't make your way out to meet women if you've already developed your game to a point of competency.

Women are drawn to men with their own attractive lifestyle and what better way to meet attractive women in places that you frequent to begin with?

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Knowing what kind of relationship you want and being in the right place to meet women will elevate your success with women. Dating women shouldn't be a chore but an enjoyable experience for everybody.

You shouldn't make your selection of women too specific since it limits the possibilities out there for you, but when you know where you're heading with a woman it smoothes out the sometimes tedious process of gaming women.

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Labels: Inner Game, Long Term Relationship

APB here and I'm still cooling off from the supernova of a bootcamp that literally EXPLODED over Los Angeles and blindsided all the Hollywood sweeties with our army of unstoppable students.

The students really outdid themselves, and even I was impressed with a few of the women I saw them hook up with. I want to congratulate all the graduates on an excellent job!

Here, check out these videos where the students talk about their experience AND you get to see real, INFIELD pictures too!



Now, between sessions of much-needed sleep today, I was browsing our Web site and realized that there are onlyt 28 DAYS left for anyone who wants to sign up for our July Special Los Angeles Bootcamp!



If you are on the fence about whether to take a bootcamp, let me tell you that if you live in Los Angeles, there is no better time. We SOLD OUT ALL THE SEATS in the last Los Angeles event and this upcoming July 10th looks to be just as an equally AMAZING experience. Do you really want to wait before achieving the results you always knew you could?

Or do you want to STEAL THE LAST REMAINING SEAT before it's gone!



See you all in the field!

-APB

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In the scientific sense, social proof is an external factor that has absolutely nothing to do with any intrinsic attribute a man might have (like fashion, physique, race, personality, charm, etc), but creates an INCREDIBLE amount of value in a man and makes women more attracted to him. It's like the myth of pheromones or those Axe commercials with women physically throwing themselves onto random dudes.

There literally is scientific proof that shows that when a man is surrounded by women (and enhanced by things like smiling, kino, etc), he becomes even MORE attractive in the eyes of women on the "outside" of his high replication value clique.

It becomes this massive exponential growth in attraction that women have very little control over. Think of it this way, it's like clean skin, a nice face, perky breasts, and bouncy buttocks. No matter what we logically think, those female attributes MAKES us men more attracted to her regardless of anything else (like personality) about her.

And the same thing occurs in the woman, she has no control over her increased feelings of attraction for you if you have social proof.

Here, let me give you a CONCRETE and REAL LIFE example. In this picture, we have three decent looking, smiling, in state Pick-Up Artists including Kevin Feng (be sure to check out Kevin Feng's VH1 Pick Up Artist 2 Blog!). Now, KFeng has decent passive value with his styled hair, cool clothes, smile, and general good vibe, so let's say... he's a 7 on a 1 to 10 scale. Pretty good, I mean, a really massive improvement from when he was on VH1's "The Pick Up Artist 2" and known as the "Strike Out King!" if you think about it.

But now in this picture, we have KFeng with an attractive woman smiling and touching him. Even though there is little to no actual PHYSICAL difference in his appearance, by the factor of social proof alone he's transformed into an HB8 or 9... Kevin Feng LITERALLY BECOMES MORE ATTRACTIVE IN THE EYES OF WOMEN!

Again, both science and field experience has shown this to be consistently true.

Every time I've been in the company of pivots, wingwomen, and just general female friends, it's literally supercharged my results. Even for guys with below average Game, it can give you that little bit of an extra edge over other douchebags.

Of course, if you have no Game to begin with, even with a small social proofed edge won't turn you into a Don Juan.

Now the key here is HOW can YOU achieve the same results?

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What we will be exploring is how to gain social proof in a nightclub setting. After the jump, I'm going to give you 5 Tips Toward Gaining Social Proof in a nightclub...

1. Find a way to move to the front of the line if it's a big line. Most popular venues have long lines and if you can get by the line it raises your social proof. The best way to do this is to befriend the bouncer, club owner, or promoter. To do this you have to provide some kind of value to them. For a bouncer, it could be that you introduced him to some attractive women. To the club promoter, you could have invited a large group of people to his party.
2. Have attractive women around you. By this, I don't necessarily mean that you are obviously hitting on the women. What I mean is that the women are with you by choice and it is apparent that you have some sort of friendly relationship with them. This conveys to everybody else that you must have something about you that attractive women like. An attractive woman who aligns herself with other attractive women will want to meet you for that reason.
3. Get to know everyone. This is optional, but it certainly helps if you meet everybody in the venue. People will just assume you know everyone and that you're popular. By definition of social proof, it would be socially unacceptable for a person to reject the man who is the connector to all people in the nightclub.
4. If you're a good dancer, don't hide it. Have fun and dance with hot women. People want to be around those who know how to have a good time, especially at a nightclub.
5. Get VIP service. If you can get it free then that's even better. It does take a certain level of social competency to get a free table but your value must be in congruence to that compliance test.
   

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Essentially, in any setting you have to assess what the values are of the people in the group and how you want to be perceived.

That is the most important part. Most social settings value those who can provide a good time and a place to socialize.

The list can be endless, but what you want to do is think of how you want to be perceived and carry yourself as such a person.

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Labels: ABCs 30 Day Social Circle Challenge, Bouncers, Connection Tactics, Dance Game, Kevin Feng, Promoters, Social Circles, Social Proof, VH1 PUA2

How many times have you, in your own mind, gone into crisis mode, paralyzed with this thought:

"I can't approach her; she's surrounded by tall, good-looking guys."

It's a small crisis, but a crisis nonetheless, for any man who has not yet empowered himself with the tools he needs to see the solution. To the untrained eye, the girl appears unapproachable-- surrounded by bigger guys. Your internal dialogue most likely goes something like this:

"Perhaps one of them is her boyfriend. Perhaps one of them is her over-protective brother. Perhaps one of the guys is really jealous and will physically harm me."

So thinks the unexperienced newbie.

But to the man experienced in the ABCs of Attraction structure, the internal dialogue becomes:

"I'm going to walk right through that opening in their standing semi-circle, get the girl's attention using kino, BT spike her within the first 5 seconds, and then BLP the rest of the guys out of the set. If they interrupt, I'll use the ABCs of Attraction B.I.T. tactics to deal with it on the spot."

(Trust me, it's not as complicated as it sounds!)

Every situation, no matter how complicated, full of amogs, full of physical obstacles, full of imaginary obstacles, solvable. There is always a solution. It's just a matter of how much you want to look for it. A little while back one of my students (Toy Machine), spotted two super hot looking women when we were out at one of the trendiest night clubs in Las Vegas.

The only problem is that they were already talking to two good looking black guys who are at least a foot taller than either me or Toy Machine (I'm 5' 6", and Toy Machine is 5' 4"). Instead of seeing the crisis, we saw the solution. I went in first, and started talking to one of the girls, and the BLP'd her out of the set. While I was doing that, Toy Machine approached the other girl and BLP'd her out of the set.

In the end, the two other guys were left standing there staring at each other wondering what the hell just happened.

Are you the kind of guy who's always seeing a crisis-- a situation where you believe, in your own mind that there's no solution? Where you believe, in your mind, that there's no way you could talk to the girl due to [insert any reason here], but you wish there was a way?

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Podcast Episode For 5/31/09: (complete episode) : A - Attract and Approach - What is Tunnel Vision, and how does it screw up your game?

• Chapter 1: Asian American Stuff: Interview with "The Slants," an Asian American "Chinatown Dance Rock" band from Portland, Oregon (download this chapter)
  


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  1. Do I need to build more comfort and connection than usual, when I'm dating a girl who is a virgin? - Tank, Los Angeles, CA
  
  
  2. My comfort building stories sometimes come off as boring. What should I do?

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In response to my highly popular "The CURE to the Interracial Dating Disparity", I received this email in my inbox asking if we can change the standards of beauty (ie Hollywood) in order to benefit Asian men.

Hi Asian Playboy,

I saw this newsletter and I really can relate. I think the underlying reason for asian women to be with white men is 'white is beautiful'. It's not about white men. It's about the white beauty standard glorified by hollywood. White men are benefiting from this and it's not just asian women. Some black and indian women are also mating with whites. If the beauty standard is asian, then non-asian women will mate with asian men just because they want asian beauty features. so, changing the beauty standard is even more powerful than changing identites from nerd to pua?

In other words, if a white loser guy (without game) is getting asian women b/c of his white features, then an asian guy (without game) should be getting non-asian women b/c of his asian features too. white race card vs asian race card An asian guy doesn't need game or anything to overcompensate for his asianness b/c asian is more beautiful.

lastly, how do you refine the beauty standard? there's a group and movement called the "suicide girls (http://www.suicidegirls.com/)" and their mission is to reject the hollywood beauty standard for their own. eg. My ugliness IS my beauty. My weakness IS my strength. This is reverse reframing and i thought asians can do this too.

-Anonymous

My response after the jump.

Response: Even if all of Hollywood worshipped Asian men, it still wouldn't- in the short term- do much to change the status of this generation of Asian Americans. Not to mention that trying to change the status quote through mental masturbation takes away energy, drive, and commitment that could best be spent on improving yourself and your peers.

What we can do NOW in order to be more successful is offer support to our fellow brothers and push ourselves OUT OF OUR COMFORT ZONE to redefine ourselves as more masculine and confident men.

If you look at African Americans, that kind of acceptance took generations to reach. And even now, we still don't exist in a post-racial country. So yeah, there's stuff we could all do, but YOU wouldn't benefit from it. Probably not even your kids, more than likely only your grandkids would get that kind of "pop chic."

It's like the idea of all the world's wealth was redistributed today. The poor would still be poor and the rich would still be rich because it's the rich that that have the SKILLS and MINDSET necessary to be successful. So even in this "Asian Hollywood Paradise," without the confidence that comes from EXPERIENCE, then once a virginal nerd, still a virginal nerd.

People who want Hollywood to change or think that's the MAIN goal of the AM movement are actually mentally and morally lazy. They want Hollywood to change and not- in fact- make themselves better.

I use the analogy of Adam Smith's "Wealth of Nations." If a person pursues his own self-improvements and needs, then he in turn contributes to the "Invisible Hand" that will benefit society (in this case the Asian Men's Movement) as a whole.

"By pursuing his own self interest he frequently promotes that of society more effectually than when he really intends to promote it. I have never known much good done by those who affected to trade for the public good"(WoN, 456).

Thanks for reading my blog and feel free to send in your comments and/or questions!

P.S. For those of you still wondering how you can be successful BECAUSE of your Asian Identiy, then check out the below related AsianEdge posts.

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Labels: Asian Men's Movement, Dear Asian Playboy, Hollywood, Interracial Dating Disparity, The Asian Edge, Wealth of Nations

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