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A Real Solution to the Asian American Interracial Dating Disparity

They have each, in their minds, made a correlation between the interracial dating disparity, and the other well accepted societal stereotypes of Asian American men (mostly produced by western movies and media). These men are truly living a life of self-torture, and I have seen all manner of self-defeating and self-imposed mental barriers in these guys.

As this blog celebrates it's 4th year anniversary, having published more than 700 posts, received almost 2 million hits, and has remained 100% free, there is still THE most common question or rant I get to this day.

One of the most frequently discussed topics on Asian American internet forums is the "Interracial Dating Disparity" within the Asian American community. The Interracial Dating Disparity is a term used to describe the mathematical imbalance between the number of Asian American women dating white guys versus the number of Asian American men dating white women.

Whether this mathematical imbalance is REAL (i.e., based on actual U.S. Census data) or PERCEIVED (i.e., based on anecdotal evidence of what some guy "sees on the street,") I don't know, and more importantly, I don't care. There is, however, something that is very real:

Many Asian American men get upset when they see Asian American women dating white American guys.

Straight up. Let's put all bullshit aside and acknowledge this for what it is. This feeling of being upset and/or angry is based on several reasons, and here are just a few:

Asian American women are race traitors! They should be dating Asian American men, not white guys!
Asian American women are sell outs! They are dating white men, not because they're inherently better than Asian American men, but because they're trying to improve their social status by being by a white man's side. Even if he's a loser!
Ugh! I can't believe that Asian American woman is with that white guy. He's not even as smart / good-looking / tall / handsome / charming as I am. He's a total dork! She's only with him because he's white!
Asian American women have bought-in to mainstream media stereotypes of Asian American men! That's why so many of them are dating white guys! They need to see the error of their ways and start dating Asian American guys!

Again, there are many other reasons, but these are only a few examples.

After having taught hundreds of Asian American guys (and also Asian guys born and raised in other Asian and European countries), I see the same themes come up time and time again. Many of these guys either hold the above listed grudges against Asian American women in general, or they have their own specific reasons for being angry at Asian American women.

They have each, in their minds, made a correlation between the interracial dating disparity, and the other well accepted societal stereotypes of Asian American men (mostly produced by western movies and media). These men are truly living a life of self-torture, and I have seen all manner of self-defeating and self-imposed mental barriers in these guys.

I know this because they freely and willingly tell me about them in the hopes that by telling me these things that they will somehow "feel better."

However, despite all the pain, suffering, and self-inflicted mental torture that I've observed in my students, I have also had the pleasure of seeing those very same Asian American boys grow up and become men right before my very eyes.

Yes, there are students who come to me expecting to join a circle of brothers who will "take down the man," or somehow make Asian American women change their dating preferences, or somehow "fix" the American mainstream media and its related images of Asian American men.

This type of student ultimately discovers that ABCs of Attraction alumni have no interest in doing any of these things (because they're too busy romantically connecting with women left, right, and center). It is this type of student who ultimately drops out of the program and resigns himself to a life of loneliness.

He effectively excludes himself from the world's gene pool.

But for every one student who stubbornly holds on to this self-defeating mentality, there are 99 other students who rise up above that mentality and discover that the most effective way to change the "interracial dating disparity" is to take control of their own romantic lives and to start generating lots and lots of romantic choices and options for themselves. That is, if fixing the "interracial dating disparity" is really what you care about.

The only REAL solution to the Asian American Interracial Dating Disparity is manifold:

Make yourself a better man
Ignore that which generates negativity in you
Open up your options to include women of ALL colors
Get better at flirting and socializing with women
Finally, grow a pair of balls to do something about it and LEAD BY EXAMPLE

The majority of the time, though, the students I've taught who once believed that they cared about this "disparity," actually realized that they only used this as an excuse for not taking responsibility for the fact that they could not generate the same quantity and quality of romantic options as the white guys they were seeing from day to day. They were resigned to a life of loneliness.

Ask yourself, do you really want to live a life of loneliness? Or have you always thought that you were meant for GREATER things?

Would you rather continue to get your satisfaction from complaining about a "disparity" (either real or perceived), or would you rather get your satisfaction from the warmth of a woman's body naked in your bed?

You decide.

Click here to sign up for your ABCs of Attraction bootcamp today, and take control of your romantic destiny.

The Asian Machosexual VS the White Metrosexual

We don't dress up our students with feather boas or nail polish or to put pink highlights in their hair; that's just gay.

A metro sexual is a straight man who embraces the homosexual lifestyle, i.e., refined tastes in clothing, excessive use of designer hygiene products, et.c, Usually he is on the brink of homosexuality (definition provided by urbandictionary.com)

We've all seen metrosexual pickup artists walking around with eye-liner (aka guy-liner), black nail polish, feathery fashion accessories, New Rock boots, dagger pendants and excessively tight pants. While these fashion choices may work well for tall, good-looking, high-cheek-boned white men, they come off as borderline, if not completely, homosexual for the Asian American man.

For the former, a metro sexual appearance and demeanor serves to balance out the already built-in machismo and heterosexual vibe that those men have. These men are ASSUMED to be hitting on the girl by default, so this deflection serves to tone down those advances-- they allow the man to disqualify himself so that the girl doesn't have to.

But for guys like me, 5' 6", Vietnamese American, and far from being considered tall, white, high-cheek boned, muscular, or chiseled, metrosexual clothing accessories and body language actually disqualify us twice:

First, we are automatically disqualified in that we are not assumed to be a romantic interest in the woman's standard dating template in her mind, and
Second, by dressing and behaving in a metrosexual way, we are further enforcing the idea in her mind that we are not a viable sexual interest for her (due to implied homosexuality).

So the dilemma is to figure out how to dress in a way that stands out, while simultaneously avoiding the implied homosexual vibe that comes with metrosexual clothing and demeanor.

The ABCs Of Attraction's solution to this problem: The Macho Sexual!

Men of Asian descent are traditionally not taught to have a manly demeanor, or to dress in a fashion forward way. The ABC's of Attraction teaches it's students how to dress fashionably edgy, without looking wierd.

We don't dress up our students with feather boa's or nail polish or to put pink highlights in their hair; that's just gay. Being macho sexual means bringing out the best qualities in a man that are most attractive to a woman, including clothing, fashion accessories. shoes, body language, facial expressions, and voice intonation.

Graduates of our bootcamp learn how to highlight their most masculine qualities to maximize attraction with the hottest ladies. Get the Asian Edge like:

The Blood Hawk!
Motorcycle boots
Blazers & vests
Dog tags

Are you tired of not being considered a romantic option for the girl sitting right across from you? Are you tired of not being considered "manly?"

It's time to take matters into your own hands.

Click here to sign up for your ABCs of Attraction 3-day bootcamp today.

Labels: Asian Male Sexuality, Fashion, The Asian Edge

posted by The Asian Playboy at 5/27/2009 06:08:00 PM | 0 comments links to this post

Podcast: Interview with Coalition for Asian American Children and Families' Wayne Ho

Podcast Episode For 5/24/09: (complete episode) : F - Fun or Fake? What are the 3 biggest barriers Asian American men face when trying to meet women?

Chapter 1: Dating Advice:F - Fun or Fake? What are the 3 biggest barriers Asian American men face when trying to meet women? (download this chapter)

Chapter 2: Q & A - Better Asian Man fields all of your questions about how to meet ladies -- LIVE! (download this chapter)
1. I'm able to get into the C phase of the ABCs of Attraction structure with no problems, but I'm having trouble getting into D consistently. What am I doing wrong? Asian American man living in Florida
2. I have my approach anxiety taken care of, but I find that I'm running out of things to say. What should I do? Asian American man living in Texas
Chapter 3: Asian American Stuff: Interview with Wayne Ho, Executive Director of The Coalition for Asian American Children and Families (CACF) (download this chapter)

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Labels: Approach Anxiety, Better Asian Man, Coalition for Asian American Children and Families, Interview, Podcast, Wayne Ho, William

posted by The Asian Playboy at 5/26/2009 12:21:00 PM | 0 comments links to this post

My 4 Year Blog Anniversary: "There Is Still Light"

In 2004, I started my journey on the road to holistic pick-up, turning myself not only into a pick-up artist, but also improving myself into a better, self-actualized man. It's been a long journey and one that I've documented countless times here on this blog that I started on May 28, 2005 when I moved to Dallas titled, "In the Beginning... There was Light..."

What started me on the path of professional pick-up was when I held what was probably the biggest FREE bootcamp in all history when I successfully ran- with Prophet (a former Mystery Method instructor)- an infield bootcamp with some 30 to 40 students, for free.

Shortly thereafter, I was convinced by a Chinese Canadian mother to help her son out who had been assaulted by Neo-Nazis. Unlike other Pro PUAs you'll find, I never started professionally with the intent to make money. I just wanted to have fun, help my brothers, and somewhere along the way people just started paying me.

Later, I started up the ABCs of Attraction company, recruited and trained various coaches, taught on 5 continents, 20 cities, and help transform houndreds if not thousands of Asian men ranging from the young and old, skinny and fat to the virgin and experienced. Some things that I've accomplished in the last 4 years are:

Pioneered interracial dating
I was the first blog to post real, live, infield-pictures of both my successes and my students' successes in the field
Started the first true Indie Pick-Up Company
Created the first holistic pick-up methodology
Incorporated indirect-direct into a combined arms approach to pick-up
I was one of the first PUA to institute a Infield Nightlife Policy with regards to demoing and approaching
I was one of the first PUA companies to publicly publish a full 3 day and 3 night syllabus and curriculum
I invented BLP (Body Language Positioning)
Introduced the concept of "Beginner's Hell"
Forgotten more about pick-up knowledge in a day than most people read in a lifetime
Offered up a free mini-ebook called "Enter the PUA"
Single handedly created a separate Community carved out of both the Seduction Community and Asian American Community that now exists across the entire internet
Was one of the hardest working Pro PUAs out there
Racked up more positive bootcamp reviews than any one single Pro PUA
Written about in several publications
Named the "World's Greatest Asian Pick-Up Artist" by AsianWeek Newspaper
Was the first PUA on Mehow's Infield Video
Helped abolish and destroy limiting beliefs and self-imposed mental barriers in Asian men
Fought off real life racism and prejudice against both myself and my students
Made grown men cry, breakdown, and rebuild themselves
Watched boys in men's body become true men over the course of the weekend
Held countless free seminars and reunions for my ABCs alumni & students
Held the first relationship party for an ABCs alumni with his first girlfriend ever
Watched as former students surpass the master with their Playboy Penthouse adventures

and- oh yeah-

Helped more Asian men become sexually successful with women across the globe and of all colors

And all along the way this blog has for four years, published 700 posts, 100 podcasts, several videos, reached 2 million hits, maintained a free forum, and has always remained 100% free! Nowhere on this planet will you find a larger repository of FREE advice, field reports, tactics, and lifestyle self-improvements for the Asian men and other ethnic minority men.

So I present to you here, loyal readers, the FOURTH ANNIVERSARY OF THE ASIAN PLAYBOY BLOG!

Enjoy!

Labels: Beginner's Hell, Body Language Positioning, Prophet

posted by The Asian Playboy at 5/24/2009 11:10:00 PM | 2 comments links to this post

Podcast: Interview with "Free Food For Millionaires" author Min Jin Lee

Podcast Episode For 5/17/09: (complete episode) : F - Fun or Fake?

Chapter 1: Dating Advice:F - Fun or Fake? Why is it important to be consistent? (download this chapter)

Chapter 2: Q & A - Better Asian Man fields all of your questions about how to meet ladies -- LIVE! (download this chapter)
1. What do I have to adjust in the ABCs of Attraction structure when meeting girls during the day? - Asian man living in Germany
2. For me it's clear that demonstrating sexual value, creating sexual tension, and creating attraction is my biggest weakness. What should I do to counter this weakness and be regarded as a sexual male? - Asian man living in Germany

Chapter 3: Asian American Stuff: Interview with Min Jin Lee, Author of Free Food For Millionaires (download this chapter)

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Labels: Asian Male Sexuality, Day Game, Free Food For Millionaires, Interview, Min Jin Lee, Podcast

posted by The Asian Playboy at 5/21/2009 08:33:00 PM | 1 comments links to this post

There Are No Cowards In Pick-Up

A pick up artist, by definition, is a man who has chosen to improve his romance and dating options despite having been born with less than the best looks, less than the tallest body, less than the best physique, and less than the best natural ability to charm women. He has decided to take responsibility for his own life, man up, and strive to improve himself.

Inaction.

It's the enemy of every pickup artist, and every man who wants to improve his romance and dating options. It is a powerful force within you that can be ever so persuasive, any time of the day. It is the evil that lies beneath the surface.

After having taught bootcamps on five continents, 20 different cities across the world, and coached hundreds of students over several thousand hours, trust me, I've seen the demon of inaction rear its ugly head, time and time again.

How easy is it to do nothing? How easy is it to just "let things happen?" How easy is it to "just stay the way you are?" That my friend, is the allure of inaction. But it is not the presence of inaction in a man's life that makes him less of a man.

A coward makes excuses for his inaction.

A real man recognizes his inaction, and takes steps to implement change in his life. He makes no excuses.

A pick up artist, by definition, is a man who has chosen to improve his romance and dating options despite having been born with less than the best looks, less than the tallest body, less than the best physique, and less than the best natural ability to charm women. He has decided to take responsibility for his own life, man up, and strive to improve himself.

There are no cowards in pickup.

How does a boy-- socially inexperienced, sexually inexperienced, and unsuccessful for his entire life at romantically connecting with women-- become a man with real confidence living a fife full of romantic options?

By recognizing his inaction, and taking the crucial first step in implementing change in his life: signing up for an ABCs of Attraction Bootcamp. But the proof is in the pudding, so here's what Ace from New York City said after taking his life transforming program:

"Taking the boot camp is a whole different ballgame than reading an Ebook. I think JW said it best that if you look for “free” pick up material on torrent sites, you are not serious about changing and even if you manage to pirate one of the ebooks; you are probably going to skim through it looking for the magic pill and not take it seriously. By making an investment, not only you have a desire to change but you actually have to do it instead of just fantasizing about it."

-Ace from New York City, New York, USA

We can help you get there, but you have to take the first step in deciding for yourself that you want to turn your romance life around. You have to decide for yourself that you no longer want to be the coward who makes excuses for his inaction.

Destroy the demon of inaction-- click here to sign up for your bootcamp today.

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Labels: Beginner's Hell, identity, Inner Game, Inner Strength

posted by The Asian Playboy at 5/20/2009 04:01:00 PM | 1 comments links to this post

Dear Asian Playboy: "From London with Love"

Here's some fanmail all the way over to that big island we affectionately call Great Britain, populated by our friendly neighborhood albino Britons. Adam (ALL NAMES AND PERSONAL DETAILS HAVE BEEN ALTERED TO MAINTAIN 100% PRIVACY AND ANONYMITY) here is commenting on the new and FREE mini-ebook I just finished writing called "Enter the PUA."

It's 35 pages jam packed with FOUNDATION building skill-set that's designed to fuel your LONG TERM GROWTH.

Sign up to our ABCs of Attraction Newsletter to download your free copy of "Enter the PUA!"

Remember, feel free to send any questions and comments you have using our 100% anonymous and private contact form!

My reply after Adam from England...

"As for "opening lines", my feeling is that if a woman has you on her short-list of guys she'd like to know better, then it doesn't matter much what you say, so long as you say something, and make some sort of connection."
-Adam
Hello from England

Thanks for the e-book preview, which favorably impressed me. It is simply and clearly written. I like your emphasis on the non-verbal aspect of this business: your advice chimes in with my own experience.

I recently retired where I worked in an office (my career was spent there). This gave me opportunity to get to know various young women who came and went, mostly student types. I have consistently found that being aware of what you're doing non-verbally, really makes a difference.

As for "opening lines", my feeling is that if a woman has you on her short-list of guys she'd like to know better, then it doesn't matter much what you say, so long as you say something, and make some sort of connection. Once that's established, if she's still interested, then within certain very broad limits, it doesn't matter much what you chat about, so long as you're saying something, and forming some sort of bond. So you can relax, do your thing, and see what happens.

I have found that when women are with someone they like, they are very forgiving. Just avoid being a jerk, be the gentleman, and see what happens. And if nothing happens, well that's life.

I should point out that most of the women I've flirted with, are young enough to be my daughters now, yet they respond better to me, than young women did when I was young myself. In the old days, I only had to get within 100 yards of a girl I fancied, and she'd threaten to call for the police if I got any closer. Ok, I exagggerate, but you know what I mean. I do better now--just a little more progress needed.

Well, this is already longer than I planned to make it, so I'd better stop.

Regards,
Adam Anonymous

Dear Adam Anonymous,

Thank you for your kind words. After experimenting with all different forms and methods myself, I found that a combination of both Verbal Attraction and Outer Confidence produces the best results.

While it is an exaggeration that Non-Verbal Communication is 97% of human interpersonal relationships, I do believe that it is a VITAL piece of pick-up and male-female attraction.

Think of it this way, beautiful women get hit on ALL the time. So they hear the pick-up lines that range from the sublime to the groteseque. What they ACTUALLY look for are NON VERBAL CUES.

Or, here's another way to put it, what they actually HEAR from a guy is "WAH-WAH-WAH-WAH" like from the cartoon Charlie Brown.

So it's VERY important to practice and master Outer Confidence as one of the vital building blocks of your FOUNDATION to long term success no matter if you practice canned, situational, indirect, direct, or whatever method.

It's about the HOLISTIC MASTERY of pick-up & self-improvment which incorporates all 3 vital components:

Inner Strength (Identity, Emotional Intelligence, & the 10 Pillars of Confidence)
Outer Confidence (Nonverbal Subcommunication & Body Language Positioning)
Verbal Skills (Banter, Flirting, & Storytelling)

Do you want to learn the tools you need to make the girl of your dreams consider YOU a romantic option?

Click here to sign up for your 3-day ABCs of Attraction bootcamp today.

Three days of class will give you a lifetime of happiness.

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Labels: Adam from London, Dear Asian Playboy, Enter the PUA Ebook, Holistic Game, Nonverbal Game

posted by The Asian Playboy at 5/18/2009 12:01:00 AM | 0 comments links to this post

Podcast: The ABCs of Social Circle Game & Pick-Up

Podcast Episode For 5/10/09: (complete episode) : F - Fun or Fake?

Special Interview with The Asian Playboy : How to Create a Social Circle From Scratch when You Move to a New City

Chapter 1: Dating Advice:F - Fun or Fake? Special Interview with The Asian Playboy : How to Create a Social Circle From Scratch when You Move to a New City (download this chapter)
Chapter 2: Q & A - Better Asian Man fields all of your questions about how to meet ladies -- LIVE! (download this chapter)
1. Is Entourage Game the same thing as bringing a few of your wingmen along with you? - Albert
2. What are the benefits and drawbacks of Social Circle Game versus Entourage Game, and vice versa?
Chapter 3: Live Testimonials: New ABCs of Attraction students review this weekend's ABCs of Attraction bootcamp experience (download this chapter)
- P., Asian man living in Germany : "Why I flew in from Germany to take the ABCs of Attraction bootcamp"
- B., Asian man living in Canada: "Why two days of taking the ABCs of Attraction bootcamp was waaaaaay more effective than anything I had learned in two years of reading material on my own."
The Johnny Wolf Birthday Social Circle Challenge: How to get 100 girls to your Birthday Party!

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Labels: ABCs 30 Day Social Circle Challenge, Better Asian Man, Brown Bastard, Entourage, Picks, Podcast, Social Circles, Testimonial, William, Wingman

posted by The Asian Playboy at 5/15/2009 10:00:00 AM | 0 comments links to this post

How Can You Get Good at Picking Up Women?

No pickup system is foolproof, first of all, because the playing field is forever in flux. A method like the ABCs is a blueprint at best - sheet music for the symphony that could be your love life.

What's the most important, life changing question you can ask of yourself?

The real question is NOT "How good do you want to be?"

The REAL question is "How bad do you want to be good?"

Ask any newbie what he wants out of the Game, and you're likely to hear some of the most ambitious answers:

"One-night stands!"
"White girls!"
"Strippers!"
"Threesomes!"

Fine goals in and of themselves, and all completely achievable. But ask the same newbie how much he's willing to suffer, to sacrifice, for these goals, and you'll probably get a different answer entirely:

Silence.

Why is this? Well, two reasons that I can think of:

One, the enduring myth that pickup is easy.
And two, a lot of men who enter The Community are at wit's end and are simply unwilling to go through any more pain to deliver themselves.

Both notions are more than understandable, but any man getting into the Game had better disabuse himself of them as quickly as possible.

Pickup looks easy to the untrained eye because it apparently gives form to the formless - it distills in plain language what used to be the domain of the most esoteric of poets, thinkers, and lovers.

"So," the newbie thinks, "with the instructions written out for me in boldface type and bullet points, this stuff must be a cinch, right?"

Wrong. No pickup system is foolproof, first of all, because the playing field is forever in flux. A method like the ABCs is a blueprint at best - sheet music for the symphony that could be your love life.

The other end of the deal is, the student must meet the instruction with a full willingness to suffer the emotional and sometimes physical trauma that comes with practicing the art. He must understand that the gains are slow, and that there are no shortcuts.

And to the men who blanch at the thought of experiencing an ounce more pain in their pursuit of romance, I have this to say: "You've got a ways to go."

Believe it or not, as much misery as you may have experienced, you're still keeping one part of yourself safely tucked away, where nothing can do it harm. That part is your ego.

Stripping your ego bare, seeing your shortcomings for what they are, and training your mind and mouth to behave in ways that society and every shred of your being seem to reject - this is a type of pain that your past hardships can't compare to.

The process of becoming great is agonizing, no way around that. And it's only when you find yourself on your knees on the bathroom tile, wishing you were dead, that you'll know you're on the right track.

Mind you, I don't mean to portray pickup as some kind of joyless drudge. At its best- at its FINEST, the Art of Holistic Pick-Up can be fun, enriching and deeply satisfying.

I just recommend that along with keeping their grandest aims in sight, aspiring PUAs remain committed to sweating and, yes, suffering, for their art.

I think Rocky Balboa said it best:

"The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place... and I don´t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently, if you let it. You, me or nobody, is gonna hit as hard as life. But ain't about how hard you hit... It's about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward... how much you can take, and keep moving forward. That´s how winning is done. Now, if you know what you worth, go out and get what you worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits. And not pointing fingers saying: You ain´t what you wanna be because of him or her or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain´t you! You´re better than that!" (Rocky Balboa)

Until I see you at the next ABCs Reunion, happy hunting!

Sincerely,

JT the Asian Playboy

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Labels: How to Be Cool, Inner Game, Inner Strength, rocky

posted by The Asian Playboy at 5/11/2009 01:47:00 PM | 3 comments links to this post

"With this, or on this": A word on wingmanship

In short, wingmanship offers a simple choice, the same one the Spartans had: You can either be a victorious hero, or a fallen hero. But never a coward.

"With this, or on this.”

Spartan women would say this to their sons as they handed them shields before battle, as the legend goes.

What this meant was, the men should either return holding their shields, victorious, or be carried home on top of their shields, dead.

To return without a shield was unforgivable, because it would mean the soldier had dropped it in order to flee.

It was the shield, not the sword or spear, that was the most important of the Spartan’s arms. It didn’t just protect the soldier in individual combat, it was what made possible the famous phalanx formation -- the interlocked wall of shields -- that allowed 7,000 Greeks to hold off 2 million Persians at Thermopylae:

In the phalanx, the shield, worn on a soldier’s left arm, protected not him but the man to his left, meaning a soldier had to both defend his neighbor and trust someone else to defend him.

For this upcoming weekend's misadventures and adventures, I want you to take away this very important thought...

As a wingman, think of yourself as a Spartan, with your skill as your shield.

You and your companions may very well be self-sufficient on your own. But when you make the choice to sarge together, you take on certain obligations to each other that transcend your individual desires and anxieties.

Others have presented a thousand and one rules for winging, but I suggest only two for now:

1. Do not hesitate to join your companion in battle.
When he needs your help, your own hindrances become irrelevant.

2. Do not desert your companion once you’re at his side.
When winging, you're no longer sarging for yourself only. Your shield becomes his shield.

In short, wingmanship offers a simple choice, the same one the Spartans had: You can either be a victorious hero, or a fallen hero. But never a coward.

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Labels: Dominance, Entourage, Social Circles, Wingman

posted by The Asian Playboy at 5/07/2009 05:49:00 AM | 0 comments links to this post

Podcast: The first Asian American on Asian American heterosexual porn

Podcast Episode For 5/3/09: (complete episode) : A - Attract and Approach : How do I convey a sexual vibe when I first meet a girl?

Chapter 1: Dating Advice: A - Attract and Approach : How do I convey a sexual vibe when I first meet a girl? (download this chapter)
Chapter 2: Q & A - Better Asian Man fields all of your questions about how to meet ladies -- LIVE! (download this chapter)
1. "I've been 'hanging out' with a girl for a few weeks now. I even met her mom. How do I know when I should express my direct interest in her? In the past, I've expressed my direct interest in a girl too early and things didn't work out. What should I do?" - Tank, Los Angeles, CA
Chapter 3: Asian American Stuff: Better Asian Man interviews Darrell Hamomoto, Director of YELLOWCAUST, the first(**) Asian American on Asian American heterosexual porno movie. (download this chapter) (**) That we know of.

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Labels: Better Asian Man, Darell Hamomoto, Podcast, William, Yellowcaust

posted by The Asian Playboy at 5/05/2009 09:05:00 PM | 0 comments links to this post

We're taking the Big Apple by STORM!

You heard right.

There are still TWO spots available for our upcoming ABCs of Attraction Special Bootcamp in New York. We have brothers flying in all the way from Germany and Canada to take advantage of this opportunity!

I will be coming out to the Big Apple on Wednesday for the 5/8-5/10 weekend to join William AKA Man Cannon, our newest instructor and the master of direct game, to TRANSFORM the love lives of a handful of men.

At this bootcamp, we will combine our forces to literally REWIRE their circuitry to attract women with EASE and comfort.

And YOU have the opportunity to be one of those men.

Our New York bootcamps are usually hosted by either Johnny Wolf or William alone, but we wanted to give you all a little something special since I will be leaving the country soon.

And if you didn't know, this is the LAST East Coast bootcamp I will be hosting before I leave for Australia, so reserve your spot NOW!

This is the one you don't want to miss.

Remember, signing up for our bootcamps is more than just a weekend, it is a LONG-TERM investment in yourself.

Immediately before the bootcamp on Thursday, we will be hosting our annual ABCs of Attraction NYC Alumni Reunion, and have a SPECIAL treat planned that will literally SHOCK your attraction-knowledge circuits, and plow through your sticking points.

And our newest bootcamp graduates will be the FIRST to learn what we have in store.

William and I have spent THOUSANDS of combined hours in the field, testing and refining the BEST ways for you to land the girl of your dreams.

If live on the East Coast, and have ever desired TOP NOTCH results with beautiful women, then the time to act is now.

Sign up here!

Why wait MONTHS to start getting the results you desire?

In just one weekend, we will get you on the EXPRESSWAY to success with a plethora of tactics, techniques and real-world experience.

And signing up has never been easier.

Don't make the mistake of putting off what you can MASTER now.

Labels: APB Alumni Networking Dinner, New York City, William

posted by The Asian Playboy at 5/04/2009 03:00:00 PM | 0 comments links to this post

5 Month Post-Bootcamp Review by Space Pirate & Zen

Ahoy Mateys and avast ye landlubbers!

I want to share a couple of reviews with you. One of the big questions people have is, after the bootcamp high and honeymoon, do you achieve LONG LASTING RESULTS from the ABCs of Attraction Curriculum?

The proof is in the pudding, so I'll let them speak for themselves which includes the good AND THE BAD!

"Unlike a lot of people, I actually hated my bootcamp experience. I guess I was really expecting a magic pill. I was also pretty skeptical about what JT was saying. I just didn't realize that it would take me some time to internalize it.

Even today, 5 months later, I will be in set and suddenly it hits me "Damn, JT was so right" about some point or another."
-Space Pirate (Florida)

Bootcamp 5 month followup review by Space Pirate

No one is paying me to write this. I just want everyone to know the truth about ABC boot camps. Most of these reviews are written a couple of days afterwards (you can read mine here), but I think what people really want to know is how the boot camp affects them 6 months later.

Boot camp really got me kickstarted on this journey. I hardly recognize myself from 5 months ago. I stand up straight, dress well, am relaxed, social, and always have something to talk about with girls. These things are the direct result of boot camp and 5 months of hard work.

Unlike a lot of people, I actually hated my bootcamp experience. I guess I was really expecting a magic pill. I was also pretty skeptical about what JT was saying. I just didn't realize that it would take me some time to internalize it.

Even today, 5 months later, I will be in set and suddenly it hits me "Damn, JT was so right" about some point or another.

I think the most common reason people don't take the boot camp is because of $$. It's true that you can figure this stuff out yourself using the Interweb. It all depends on whether you have more time or money. A boot camp is worth at least 6 months of self-training.

However, I would argue that a boot camp saves money. At the time, I drank a lot when going out, in order to get over AA, not to mention gas, cover, parking, etc. If I had kept that up for 6 months, it would have cost many times the cost of boot camp.

Anyway, that's my $0.02.

- SpacePirate (Florida)

And here's another one from Zen!

"the bootcamp is a life changing event. It's more than just about pick up. The massive positive changes in my personal and emotional maturity I experienced that was because or is related to the Bootcamp is way too much to write in the space of one post."

-Zen (Texas)

BC 5 months after review (dallas dec 08)

i took the lecture portion of the bc (read my previous review here) with space pirate so i am going to chime in. I am not being paid at all to write this.

I was in the process of writing up a long post but I decided there is just way too much good things to say about the BC to even write about. I think I got more than my money's worth from the bootcamp.

The bootcamp was basically a life changing event. People just do not respond to me the same way after the bootcamp as they did before.

Before some girls would think I'm weird and some have told me that they *hated* me! After the bootcamp girls get my number, pinch me, suggestively touch me, work harder to maintain conversations, etc. I am so good at spotting interest I could do it by detecting the vibe through a wall.

The bootcamp is not a quick fix. It took me five months to be able to get to E in the ABCDEF structure. The structure isn't nerdy or complex its actually a very simple (simple as A B C's) and is an effective guideline. It will take 6 mos - 1 year to get out of begginer's hell. You might go through emotional pain because pain is required to grow. Basically the bootcamp is like steriods without side effects, so in the next 6 mos - 1 year after the bootcamp you will make massive growth.

It took me time, pain, self analysis, and some work to get over problems, which reveal themselves like layers on an onion. You have to master one issue before you can tackel the next.

Again the bootcamp is a life changing event. It's more than just about pick up. The massive positive changes in my personal and emotional maturity I experienced that was because or is related to the Bootcamp is way too much to write in the space of one post.

These days not only do i have the confidence to go for the girls I truly want but I also have set a whole new standard in all other aspects of my life, from how I approach my carreer to how I carry myself.

-Zen (Texas)

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posted by The Asian Playboy at 5/01/2009 03:08:00 PM | 0 comments links to this post