Hello Angelenos (and to those who aren't so lucky to live in SoCal)!

I have exciting news to give you that will blow your socks off! One of my homegirls- a lingerie model- has graciously volunteered to attend where you can practice the Perfect Approach!

So let's recap what you're going to get tomorrow:

• A FREE two hour seminar
• Asian Playboy
• Kevin Feng
• Greg Fellows
• A lingerie model!
• Approach exercises
• Approaching tactics
• Tips on Inner Confidence
• The female model perspective
• & more!
• A lingerie model!

Seating is limited so RSVP as the conference room can only hold so much!

And just to let you know, we did have to move the room so it is instead being held at the:


Sincerely,
JT the Asian Playboy

Labels: Free Seminar, Greg Fellows, Kevin Feng, LIngerie Model, Perfect Approach

Podcast Episode For 3/15/09: (complete episode) : Attract and Approach : How you can use facial expressions to make a great first impression.

• Chapter 1: Dating Advice - Attract and Approach : How you can use facial expressions to make a great first impression.(download this chapter)
• Chapter 2: Q & A - Better Asian Man fields all of your questions about how to meet ladies -- LIVE! (download this chapter)
  1. "I just got into the game, and most of my friends are not accepting of my desire to improve my life by meeting girls. What should I do?" - Anonymous, Southern California
  2. I went out to a nighclub for the first time, and I found that some girls didn't necessarily reject me, but they responded by saying, "How do I build a new social circle?" - Anonymous, San Francisco Bay Area
• Chapter 3: Asian American Stuff: Better Asian Man interviews Tony Lam, Director of "Vincent Who?" - A new documentary brining a fresh new perspective to the historic case of the murder of Vincent Chin
(download this chapter)

Listen to the current week's episode. Download this episode. Open this podcast in iTunes.

Labels: Better Asian Man, Facial Expressions, Interview, Tony Lam, Vincent Chin, Vincent Who?, William

Have you ever wondered what it takes to make that PERFECT APPROACH?

You know, the ones that you only see in the movies?

Where everything happens flawlessly? And the conversation flows perfectly? When you don't have to plow because she's already and immensely attracted to you?

Well, here's your chance to take a FREE TWO HOUR SEMINAR with myself (Asian Playboy) and Kevin Feng from VH1's The Pick Up Artist!

And our topics of discussion are:

• What constitutes the Perfect Approach?
• How do you make the Perfect Approach?
• When do you make the Perfect Approach?
• Examples of the Perfect Approach
• And finally, how to CONSISTENTLY make the Perfect Approach

* The $10 cover fee is simply to take care of renting the room and so forth.

Labels: Free Seminar, Kevin Feng, Perfect Approach

Have you ever met someone and after you met them you thought to yourself, "Wow this guy is really cool?" Sure you have.

These are the guys that seem to know somebody wherever they go and each person they DO meet really values their presence. Although the concept of, "cool" is subjective, there are some undeniable attributes of, "cool" that are universal.

So what is it about these guys that separates them from the uncool guys? Quite a bit.

I've met my share of uncool guys. In fact, not only were they uncool but they made me want to slap them in the face for being so moronic. So what I'm going to do for you is highlight the differences between the attributes of a cool guy and the attributes of an uncool guy.

If you have more in common with the uncool guy; then maybe you may want to take some time for deep introspection and fix your social deficiencies.

So here are 5 ways to be cool and 5 ways to be not-cool...

I don't know any cool guys with horrible body odor. Cool guys understand the importance of grooming and how this transfers to their social lives. They know it's a social rule to be clean and presentable.

I mean this literally. Uncool guys don't have any consideration for those around them and will ignore their grooming because they don't see it as a priority. They look dirty, and something so simple as cleaning yourself up speaks a lot about one's character. If this is you, consider reading "How to Get an Edge Over Good Looking Naturals!"

Cool guys know who they are and are aware of how they are perceived. By this, I mean they know what they have going for them and what they don't have going for them. This shows everyone else that they know they're cool, but they have some imperfections like everybody else. Essentially, they're really comfortable with themselves and it's obvious. They also don't seem to judge because they've already made it known that they're aware of their own faults that there's no need to negatively make others' faults known.

Uncool guys brag a lot and can be condescending at times. This roots from a deep insecurity that they have about themselves in which they have to put on a front to gain other people's approval. Additionally, they do this to feed their own delusional beliefs that they really are cool. They talk a lot of trash and can be overly-sensitive to anything that attacks their ego.

Cool guys seem to know a lot of women. In general, these guys have a lot of friends to begin with but they specifically have a lot of female friends. In general these guys are making friends both male and female, but essentially their personality draws everybody in. If you want to get a start on acquiring an entourage of female friends, read "The Importance of Having Female Friends."

Uncool guys seem to want to bitch about women as a way of lashing out for their own deficiencies. You'll see these guys complaining about how women are one way or another when their own self-esteem issues are unresolved. For this reason, they don't have any women in their lives (at least for an extended period of time).

Cool guys are authentic and friendly. They're social and unashamed of how they're perceived. They make every person they come in contact with feel really good to be around them because they are genuinely glad to see them. In fact, cool guys are just generally glad to see their friends and acquaintances. They seem to make new friends everywhere because they're truly interested in the people that they meet. It's also important to note that they are pretty good at remembering others.

Uncool guys can sometimes pretend they're friendly, but more often than not they seem to suck all the energy out of any interaction with others. The reason for this is because they have a very self-centered mentality that screams, "ME! ME! ME! GIVE ME!" and this is easy to spot by most everyone. While it's not uncommon for people to ask for favors from time to time; these guys do it all the time. They don't even make an attempt to get to know you, they just go straight into asking for whatever it is that's on their mind. This can range from advice, some cash, a ride to some place, etc.

No matter what the topic is, these guys seem to make every conversation interesting. Even if they don't know about the topic, they can still engage in a worthwhile interaction. They're also very socially calibrated so they know how to lead a conversation in any setting whether it's one on one or a group.

Uncool guys usually talk about something that's neither interesting or valuable. Often times they're socially uncalibrated or have developed bad conversational habits which can make conversation with this person a painful experience. This can be in the form of complaining too much about something or someone, one word answers, bragging at every opportunity, or topics that have negative connotations associated with them.

Those were just a few attributes for the cool and uncool guys. Make some of these adjustments to your mentality and you're on your way to becoming a cool guy! Of course it's going to take a lot more work than snapping yourself into becoming a cool guy, but if you make certain adjustments to yourself; over time you'll see a change in how people interact with you.

Use other cool guys you see as a role-model and try to take on some of those desirable attributes. So remember, BE COOL!

And now I'm off like a prom dress!
JT the Asian Playboy

Labels: Grooming, How to Be Cool, Passive Value, Social Proof, The Asian Edge

Showtime here. For the record, I don't call my female friends pivots because I also don't call my male friends wings (unless they are a wing). I have some friends who simply are unable to have a female friend that they're not having sex with, but I find the relationship to be beneficial (For the record, you CAN still be friends and have had sex.) when it doesn't focus on the sex. I reserve that privilege for other women.

I've learned a lot about being around a group of my female friends over the years. Sometimes, I would be the only guy in their circle of conversation and would listen in on when they would talk about an unattractive and needy guy or another guy who was horrible at sex. Sitting in and listening not only gave me some insight on what women talk about, but also what things to avoid in regards to dating women. For a long time, I've developed a pretty good understanding of how women think and it really helped during my interactions with other women that I was sexually interested in.

With my female friends we would playfully slap each other's asses, I would grab their titties and they would grab my crotch... that kind of thing. This makes it easy to sexually escalate with other women in a social setting because the level of comfort in sexually escalating without making it weird is telegraphed to the woman. This in turn raises your attraction level.

Conversationally, you're more attune to the, "double-talk" that women frequently use. What I mean by double-talk is the implied meanings of what a woman is saying to you. So many guys screw up when a woman is trying to tell them that she's free for the night and the guy takes the message too literally. For example: "I'm still drunk and my hotel is across the street." If you don't know what that means then you should take an ABCs of Attraction Bootcamp.

As far as the in-field stuff goes, your friend becomes a pivot. This adds more comfort and attraction to the women around you. What this does is it gives you social proof that you may not have gotten before hand. Women can tell that you're an attractive male to even have female friends, and they feel comfortable even APPROACHING you when you're out in the field. Why make your life harder?

And sometimes, I would rather be around a pretty girl than my boys. It works out well if you're not interested in having a girlfriend but want the company of a woman in a non-sexual way. This is a rare thing to want, and call me whatever you want for wanting to watch When Harry Met Sally or have a friend to cook with but it just gets really gay if you watch with your homies.

Arguably, you can still have sex with your female friends or just have a fuck buddy and it would still instill the same confidence in a man but I find the friendship to be more lasting if sex isn't a major component of the relationship.


Go to a place where you'll be every week that has women. This can be some dance class, a book club, or some place that you've been wanting to spend your time. I'm in college right now so I have friends that I meet from classes, but I've also made friends from acting classes or recently from a cold approach at a nightclub.

Women are everywhere and the more time you spend with women in general, the more your comfort with women will be conveyed and your number closes, one-night stands, or anything else that you want will become more solid.

-Showtime

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Labels: Entourage, Pivots, Showtime, Social Proof, Wingwoman

"Getting the edge on good-looking naturals" by Showtime

We've all seen it throughout our lives. The tall and good looking alpha male seems to get the girl all the time. There's no need to be jealous, angry or spiteful of these guys because getting girls comes easier to them. However, there is a way to get an edge on these guys to get the girl.

Growing up I've always been seen as the short guy. At 5'6, it always seemed like I had to try a lot harder to get the girl. Especially around my taller and better looking friends. For this reason, I developed a lot of ways to get the girl over my buddies. After taking an ABCs of Attraction Bootcamp I developed a better understanding of how to out-game these guys. First off, you have to understand a few things.

Yes, LOOKS DO MATTER. Get over it. These guys are better looking than you. So for starters, you want to improve your own look as much as possible. What you are is what you attract. So if you look like a hobo, then more likely than not you will get women who are attracted to hobos.

Groom yourself.

If you smell, take showers and use deodorant. Body odor is not a pheremone and will inevitably lead to you getting a self-hand job when you get home. Cut your nails and make sure there's no dirt in them. As for shaving, I don't grow much facial hair so it's either I have a mustache or I don't. I would check out Johnny Wolf's Blog for more info on it. Women can tell a lot about a man just by the way he takes care of himself. Not only is this common sense, but any woman will tell you that a well-groomed man is attractive. Search the internet for more ways to groom yourself.

Be more fashionable.

A general rule is that what you wear clothing that fits you well. Baggy clothes make it look like you just took a shit in your pants and you're dangling it around as you walk. Clothes that are too tight make you look like a pansy and leave your balls gasping like a fish out of water. Of course, both styles work in some places but are generally unattractive. A few places I like to look to for fashion is GQ Magazine, Complex, and generally just looking at how other people dress then choose what I like about it.

Work on your overall fitness!

Most good looking naturals are already fit. So if you're a scrawny computer geek, or an overweight businessman then hit those weights! Saying you're busy isn't an excuse. You can't game if you're dead...and death can come if you don't take care of your health. OKAY, that may have been a bit TOO dramatic but you should seriously consider working out.

It's also a great way to work on your posture. I used to slouch all the time because I had weak back muscles. Ever since I've been working out, sleeping in a better position, sitting back in my chair properly and using these sole inserts in my shoes; My posture has improved dramatically. For the best results, I would go and follow Kevin Feng's The Complete Workout Routine for an Asian Dude and follow their program.

Our alumni Rob H is in great shape and he followed this program. I'm in the process and have been seeing some pretty good results (along with many others). So commit to some kind of workout plan and you'll look and feel a lot better. It also helps if you have some physical extracurricular activity (yes, lots of sex counts) and it's also a great way to socialize.

ALRIGHT! So now you just gave yourself a clean new look, you're looking as cool as Kanye West, and you've worked hard to get that rock hard body. That should have raised your attractiveness level by a few points! Yes, women have a number system for you as well Mr. HB3. However, at this point you should be AT LEAST an HB8 in the looks department.

What's that? You only got the first two down? No problem. Game is game and the whole point of doing all of the above is to make your life easier. NOT working on the things I mentioned is like running a marathon with steel toe boots and an infant on a baby sling across your chest. You'll struggle to even finish the race. If you have a low self-esteem then increasing your posture, fashion, grooming, and fitness will definitely get you more female attention. That should raise your confidence. Then when you add GAME to your already improved look your confidence will soar.

There's still more work that needs to be done! You have to get rid of those self-limiting beliefs that you're not attractive and that you can't get attractive girls! The best way to do this is to make your own improvements and keep at it.

Here are a few examples of our guys who are not so attractive but scored some hot women:

1. APB - Perfect 10 Model
2. Johnny Wolf - Surrounded by beautiful European women
3. ABCs Alumni Picture & Video Master Gallery

Sonow you're looking and feeling good. You now believe that you too can get an attractive woman. Just take a walk around your city and you'll see a lot of average looking guys with above average looking women.

Moving on! There are some distinguishable attributes of the good-looking natural. It's worthwhile to know what these attributes are so that you can separate yourself from them and be the better choice for the women you want. Here are some attributes of good-looking naturals.

They think every woman wants them.

And whose to blame them? They get so much female attention that they just assume every woman wants them. This makes it easy to take the woman they're with from right under their nose. Using out ABCs' BIT method (Befriend, Ignore and Tool) you can easily BLP (Body Language Position) the woman from the good-looking natural. You can watch any of the ABC's of Attraction instructors do this in person so you can see.

They wait for women to approach them.

For the most part, they do have a lot of women approach them. That's the reason for why they don't always approach. The other reason is because they have an ego to protect. They don't feel the need to approach because THEY are the high-valued ones. They don't want to get shut-down so they would rather go for the low-risk and easier woman than pursue something they really want.

They're very physical.

Many times if they see you as a threat, they'll literally take the girl from you and move away. This is why you should BLP (Body Language Position) the girl away from the good-looking natural before he even comes to you. Additionally, they'll just generally be more physical and put their arm around you, hit your chest, or lightly shove you. This is just a form of alpha male behavior. Do it back, but not in an aggressive way that gets you into a fight.

They're not so witty.

It's not that they're dumb. They just haven't had to develop the wit that their less attractive counterparts may have due to their physical unattractiveness. If you're not so good-looking and not so witty then you can work on your wittiness at an improv class. It helps when the good-looking natural is sipping his drink and staring blankly as you charm the girl away from him. It should be noted that if you spend too much time talking he will most likely just move the girl away from you and you'll be telling your stories to their backs as they leave.

They're comfortable displaying their sexuality early and often.

This sexual confidence is typically their strength. Many of these guys have no problem showing their sexual interest because most times they've gotten enough experience to feel comfortable acting in such a manner. This is where the line is drawn and the woman looks at you and the good-looking natural and decides which one she'd rather fuck. Your fashion, body language, your fitness, how comfortable you are when talking about sex, and how you talk about sex are indicators of how she can tell if you're good in bed.

There you have it. You can always level out the playing field to your advantage and get the woman you want. Eventually the separation between you and the good-looking natural is compatibility once it leaves the nightclub and on to consecutive dates. Feels good to know you can compete now doesn't it? =_)

-Showtime (Blog)

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Let me leave you with one final thought, in the book "The Game" a passage reads "Helena Rubinstein once said, 'There are no ugly women; only lazy ones.' Since society holds men to less rigid standards of beauty than women, this is doubly true of guys. Give (any man) a tan, better posture, whiter teeth, a fitness regimen, and clothes that fit, and he's well on his way to handsome."

Labels: Body Language, Body Language Positioning, Fitness, Looks, Sexual Attraction, Showtime, Tactics

This is your invitation to join Johnny Wolf for an open meet & greet for dinner this Sunday in New York City!

Johnny Wolf is back in town after a long overdue sabbatical in Thailand in order to teach the March NYC bootcamp, but he will take time out of his busy schedule on Sunday in order to have dinner with Alumni and friends of the ABCs (ie non-Alumni) and IS open to the public.


This wil be an excellent opportunity for you to meet Johnny Wolf, William, your fellow brothers, do some social networking and form mini-sarge groups which will be vital to your development and the development of your peers.

If you're a San Fran brother or friend, don't worry, JW will be back in California after teaching in NYC and will be having a Reunion Dinner as well so don't fret!


Be sure to also check out our upcoming bootcamps!

• NEW YORK - LIMITED EDITION Johnny Wolf Bootcamp 03/06-03/08
• NEW YORK: Special Bootcamp 5/8-5/10, 2009

For Alumni, you recieve a 25% discount and for every 3 bootcamps you take, the fourth is on the house. So check out our Special Alumni Buy 3-Get 1 Bootcamp Free Offer!

Also, Since we have such a large number of Alumni, we'll be doing a little social networking. We'll be forming sarge crews so you'll know who to go out with when.

There is no cost to attend, just pay for your own food. But you MUST RSVP so we know how many people to expect. Also plans do change last minute and this is the only way we'll know how to contact you.

After the dinner we will be finishing up the bootcamp with our students, so unfortuntely we will not be able to take anyone else along, including alumni. Please do not ask if you can tag along or which venue we will be going to, as it would be disrespectful to the current bootcamp students time.

However, you are welcome to go out afterwards with the other alumni to a bar or a club so plan for that!

See you there!

P.S. Check out Johnny's Picture Field Report from Thailand where he lives a lifestyle surrounded by beautiful European women!

Labels: ABCs Reunion, APB Alumni Networking Dinner, Johnny Wolf, New York City