No pickup system is foolproof, first of all, because the playing field is forever in flux. A method like the ABCs is a blueprint at best - sheet music for the symphony that could be your love life.
Ask any newbie what he wants out of the Game, and you're likely to hear some of the most ambitious answers:"One-night stands!""White girls!""Strippers!""Threesomes!"
Fine goals in and of themselves, and all completely achievable. But ask the same newbie how much he's willing to suffer, to sacrifice, for these goals, and you'll probably get a different answer entirely:Silence.
Why is this? Well, two reasons that I can think of:
- One, the enduring myth that pickup is easy.
- And two, a lot of men who enter The Community are at wit's end and are simply unwilling to go through any more pain to deliver themselves.
Both notions are more than understandable, but any man getting into the Game had better disabuse himself of them as quickly as possible.
Pickup looks easy to the untrained eye because it apparently gives form to the formless - it distills in plain language what used to be the domain of the most esoteric of poets, thinkers, and lovers.
" the newbie thinks, "with the instructions written out for me in boldface type and bullet points, this stuff must be a cinch, right?
Wrong. No pickup system is foolproof, first of all, because the playing field is forever in flux. A method like the ABCs is a blueprint at best - sheet music for the symphony that could be your love life.
The other end of the deal is, the student must meet the instruction with a full willingness to suffer the emotional and sometimes physical trauma that comes with practicing the art. He must understand that the gains are slow, and that there are no shortcuts.
And to the men who blanch at the thought of experiencing an ounce more pain in their pursuit of romance, I have this to say: "You've got a ways to go.
Believe it or not, as much misery as you may have experienced, you're still keeping one part of yourself safely tucked away, where nothing can do it harm. That part is your ego.
Stripping your ego bare, seeing your shortcomings for what they are, and training your mind and mouth to behave in ways that society and every shred of your being seem to reject - this is a type of pain that your past hardships can't compare to.
The process of becoming great is agonizing, no way around that. And it's only when you find yourself on your knees on the bathroom tile, wishing you were dead, that you'll know you're on the right track.
Mind you, I don't mean to portray pickup as some kind of joyless drudge. At its best- at its FINEST
, the Art of Holistic Pick-Up can be fun, enriching and deeply satisfying.
I just recommend that along with keeping their grandest aims in sight, aspiring PUAs remain committed to sweating and, yes, suffering, for their art.
I think Rocky Balboa said it best:
"The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place... and I don´t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently, if you let it. You, me or nobody, is gonna hit as hard as life. But ain't about how hard you hit... It's about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward... how much you can take, and keep moving forward. That´s how winning is done. Now, if you know what you worth, go out and get what you worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits. And not pointing fingers saying: You ain´t what you wanna be because of him or her or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain´t you! You´re better than that!
" (Rocky Balboa)