Instead of standing straight in line with our backs to her, we stood side by side with an open angle, open body language and an easy way for her to join in.
1. Selective Serendipity, and the power of ease dropping.
Serendipity is the effect by which one accidentally discovers something fortunate, especially while looking for something else entirely.
This is a way to select, when, where, and to which girl serendipity clicks with.
I have a natural friend, a white guy named Mike and we'd have fun where ever we went. But, I noticed, that whenever there was a cute girl in our proximity, we'd have MORE fun, or at least make it LOOK like we were having more fun.
Which would set it up and to build intrigue. By then we'd know she was ease dropping into our conversation...its only natural to do so, since our ears are designed in a way we can't shut it off....we'd suck her into our world and our conversation, then, queue her in so she can jump in. Now to do that, it was a mixture of demonstrating to her that we are fun, open, cool guys, and that she wouldn't have to worry about us putting her down or making her feel bad for cutting in.
Here's an example, I remember one time we were shopping at GAP.
You guys have all been to GAP clothing store right? Okay cool. Well, there we were in line, Mike and I...and what we did was open up our body language so allow others in.
Imagine this exercise: (easier demonstrated in person of course)
Okay this is how we normally stand in line...here is how the girl is behind you. Okay sure you can just turn around and open her. But, when you can get a girl to open YOU, its sooo much more powerful, because she HIT ON YOU. And in her mind, she selected you, which in some stupid way, makes it serendipity since she game to GAP for a totally different purpose, but stumbled upon something fortunate...YOU. Ironically, if you were the one to open her, its no longer serendipity in her mind, its you picking her up.
So, the way we get her to open you is to intrigue her, demonstrate that you're a fun, open minded, cool guy, and give her a queue to jump in.
This is how it went down.
Instead of standing straight in line with our backs to her, we stood side by side with an open angle, open body language and an easy way for her to join in.
In our louder, more fun voices, we started talking about some movie, like Finding Nemo or something, and started saying how cool that sea turtle was, but we couldn't remember his name. "Yeah that sea turtle was awesome, super friendly and cool, I would defientely go surfing with him sometime, but damn, what was his name? Gosh, this is going to drive me crazy, what was his name again?"
Mike: Damn, I can't remember either! Was it Marlin?
Johnny: Yeah, I think it was! Marlin the surfing sea turtle.
Mike: Hmmm, what was the other fish's name then?
Okay so by this time, the girl is definitely listening in, and just antsy to correct us, and jump in. So all we did was do a slight turn turns her opening our body language even more, and doing a slight pause in our conversation to allow her to jump in.
And wah la, she jumped in, we chatted for a while, and got her number.
Another great way to get girls to open you:
Well, the second, sounds like it could fall under peacock theory, but actually, its very different. When you peacock, you want to stand out, to everyone, you want to show your survival value by being the most colorful bird that doesn't get eaten.
I once had a friend get opened just because he would take his vitamins in public restaurants. He had a clear ziplock baggy with like ten different herbs and supplements he'd take, and the girls at the next table asked his advice about omega-3's and green tea pills.
2. Selective Flair - Picking the right props to work with
With Selective Flair, you can actually almost do the opposite and dress like a dork, but still make it work for you. You'll notice that a lot of guys in the community redo their wardrobes and start actually looking cool, which is great, but you know that term..."Too cool for school" ?
Well, take that literally, you really shouldn't be wearing the same outfits when you go to the book store, as you do when you go to a club at night. Its too cool, and sometimes try hard.
During the day, you want to tune it down. Or dress professionally, like you actually have a job. But, with selective flair, you add just one or two things to get a girl to notice you. At the gym, or while going to the post office, or wherever you would normally wear a t-shirt, wear one that means something to you. I just got back from a trip from Australia, and guess what? I bought some touristy Australia t-shirts.
I was born and raised in San Francisco, so I have t-shirts from there. I don't watch sports, but if I did, I'd have my favorite sports team. Wear a t-shirt with your college logo on it, or for those into music, wear a concert t-shirt from a band you like or one that you've actually been to see.
Other things you can do are pins. If you're a vegetarian, wear a "Vegetarians make better lovers t-shirt." If you're a scuba diver, wear a PADI pin (if you're a diver, you are guaranteed to know what this is). Most dive masters and instructors also wear their dive computers everywhere, they look like a watch, but are bigger and look unique. People that sky dive have pins for their association, or patches on their backpacks or sidebags. Hats work the same way, as well as necklaces. If you're in the military wear a dog tag.
Tattoos work in the same way but are permanent. Dread locks, Mohawks, piercings all show that you are into a certain type of music or lifestyle. Even a guitar pick around your neck as a necklace is a perfect way to show girls you play guitar!
"I'm not a plastic bag" or "Say no to plastic" grocery bags are easy ways to get girls who care about the environment to open you. Walking around with your guitar case, a set of blueprints, or any other specialty item like a motorcycle helmet all shows a girl what you're like and gives her a reason to be attracted to you as well as start up a conversation. I once had a friend get opened just because he would take his vitamins in public restaurants. He had a clear ziplock baggy with like ten different herbs and supplements he'd take, and the girls at the next table asked his advice about omega-3's and green tea pills.
The only stipulation is only wear something you actually care about, and know something about. And don't wear more than one or two.
It gives the girl a reason to talk to you, and more importantly a common interest to talk about.
And not only are you getting girls to open you, but you're filtering the type of girls you actually want to talk to you. Girl's that have your same interests and hobbies as you. You'll notice that these girls will instantly click with you.
Also, even if you go out every thursday, friday, and saturday night, you're really out gaming 12 hours a week. But if you incorporate day game into your everyday life, you're in field, every time you step out your front door.
3. Selective Smiling - Pick your smiles wisely
Okay the third way to get women to open you is Selective Smiling. We all know that if we smile all the time, at everyone, it makes us seem friendly and fun right? Okay, well now that we have that down. I'm going to teach you guys how to let the girl know you're smiling at her, specifically. The trick is to slow it down, pause, and make it a movie moment smile, just like in chick flicks...women love that shit. So what you do is simple:
Scan, Look, Pause, Slowwwwwwwwwwwww smile.
Do it right now, in front of a mirror before you go on.
Seriously, turn off your monitor to use it as a mirror, or get up and go to the bathroom before reading on. When I did it in the seminar this is what happened:
If you do it right, she'll know that the smile was just for her. Here lets try this, I'm going to look around the room, there are hundreds of guys here, and whoever I pick as my target, I want you to raise your hand when I give you a selective smile.
Okay, see that, there are hundreds of people here in this seminar room, and just that ONE person knew the smile was delivered for him. That makes a girl feel like she's special, fucking special. And of course, you can do this with every cute girl you see, but still, at that moment, it'll just be for her. Like no one else exists but the two of you.
Conclusion:
Face it....are you really going to marry the drunk chick you made out with in the bathroom of a club? Or would you rather marry the girl you meet randomly, when you least expected it while at the animal shelter picking out a kitten for your baby sister's birthday, or at the grocery store because both of you love the same type of breakfast cereal? Night game is fun but it's really not the best place to meet women of common interests, or normal lifestyles.
Also, even if you go out every thursday, friday, and saturday night, you're really out gaming 12 hours a week. But if you incorporate day game into your everyday life, you're in field, every time you step out your front door.
Start using these things today.
Warm Regards,
Johnny Wolf
http://www.thesocialsecrets.com
