When kino escalating, the intermediate PUA usually KNOWS that they should kino escalate because they can feel the sexual anxiety. It is at this point that I would apply the 3 second rule and move forward with the kino escalation. It may feel awkward at first, but always remember...Based in San Francisco, here's an excellent post from our very own Showtime, an ABC Certified Coach.
(This is written under the assumption that the reader understands common sense and actually goes out in the field)
Everybody gets anxiety, but how you manage your emotions is what makes the difference. Mystery states that 3 seconds is the time it takes for your internal voice to talk you out of moving forward with the interaction (in regards to approaching).
However, according to APB, what separates the intermediate PUA from the skilled PUA is sexual anxiety. Just as how a beginning PUA could feel mild to severe approach anxiety; an intermediate PUA feels mild to severe sexual anxiety when kino escalating.
I'll admit that sometimes I get approach anxiety when it comes to 9's and 10's (I have yet to see a 10) and sometimes I get sexual anxiety with women who I find extremely attractive (not limited to just the physical). There's the whole notion of, "not wanting to screw up" which I find to be counterproductive. In this case, I just apply the 3 second rule because I've had enough experience to know what to do when I'm with the woman.
In approaching and kino escalating you must be confident in yourself to move forward or else you stagnate. There are no exceptions. YOU must be CONFIDENT and HAVE SOME BALLS. Women want a confident man. A man who can LEAD the interaction. In order to become a confident man, you must experience successes. In order to experience successes, you must be good with women.
See the irony behind that? Fortunately, if you take action and keep practicing you eventually experience successes which develops confidence, and confidence attracts women. Relate that to approaching and sexual anxiety.
I have found that it is best to apply the 3 second rule to sexual anxiety just as how one would apply the 3 second rule to approach anxiety. The reason for why we have anxiety in the first place boils down to rejection. As human beings, we simply do not want to be rejected and as a defense mechanism we shy away into our comfort zone. By NOT kino escalating forward we stay in our comfort zone and we get LJBF'd.
This is not where we want to be.
What makes for a great approach is when you receive approach invitations (assuming you have the skills to follow up after your approach). Do enough approaches and your approach anxiety is killed or becomes manageable. I've heard roughly cold 100-300 approaches gets a person over approach anxiety.
When kino escalating, the intermediate PUA usually KNOWS that they should kino escalate because they can feel the sexual anxiety. It is at this point that I would apply the 3 second rule and move forward with the kino escalation. It may feel awkward at first, but always remember...
Take Action --> Experience --> Success --> Confidence --> Woman
Take Action --> Experience --> Failure --> Analyze/Reflect -->
Repeat until you find success
Taking action leads to experience. Success leads to confidence in your skill of furthering the interaction that will ultimately bring you the woman.
Treat your sexual anxiety the same way you handle your approach anxiety and I guarantee you'll get over your fear of touching a woman Smile. It took me a few months but I don't feel the sexual anxiety the way I used to.
-Showtime (Check out his blog "Show Me The Honeys")
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